Hubby stopped attending before I but he was not mentally out. He carefully shared his doubts with me and helped me think. Yet I was the first to see the TTATT partly because I had more time to research.
I am much more emotional than he so when I became mentally out I wanted to immediately DA and shout it from the rooftop. He reigned me in kicking and screaming. He insisted that we do nothing to arouse suspicion in order to keep our freedom of speech with JWs.