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Posts by 3rdgen
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22Hello! New here
by shallbefree inhi i just joined this site although i have been lurking for about a year now.
i am the only jw in my family and now trying to fade.
it's been more than a year since i attended meetings.
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In a funeral... or when the JWs want to show they're different
by hijosdelawatch ina couple of days ago i went to the funeral of an old age brother in his 80s.. well, that was the typical jw funeral although his daughter and the rest of his family are not witnesses.
as you know the brothers don't wear black clothes nor they show lot of sadness as a "prove" they believe in resurrection.. the problem this time is some of them went too far.
two sisters had red clothing and at the entrance a group of brothers were literally laughing.
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To Quendi, while I applaud your desire not to stoop to the low standards of the WT$ by painting all JW funerals and memorials with the same brush, I respectfully point out that the OP was asking if any had a similar experience at a JW funeral. Those that responded gave examples that show they had. There is nothing unfair about relating an experience if it is true and it is highly doubtful that anyone here is taking time to post ficticious experiences.
This topic hits too close to home for me not to comment. When I was still an active JW my beloved firstborn son was killed. (my daughter is now an only child) He was 21 yrs old and an unbaptized pub. We had been estranged for several years when he was in his teens. He had recently become a "prodigal son" and moved back into my town, my life and my religion. I was on cloud 9. Untill that horrible Sun. when I got the news.
How does a mother out of her mind with shock and grief PLAN a funeral??? I was sleep-walking. The Elder and family friend I asked to give the talk informed me that the service could not be held at the KH since my son was unbaptized. I was so sad anyway I didn't really care at the time. The funeral home was not large enough to accomodate the HUNDREDS of people who showed up. I remember that less than 5 min. was spent talking about my son. Only that he was outgoing and funloving. (so is my dog) the rest was an infomercial for the Borg. At the time I didn't know there was any other way to remember him. BUT what angers me to this day(7 yrs later) is remembering the ones who had a slap happy smile on their face and tried to get me to do the same.
His Father and I had been divorced for several years and we both had remarried. There was still very bad blood between us. I tried so hard to maintain the dignity of the occasion but afterward my ex (who had left JWs years before ) started ranting to my distraught 19 yr old daughter, how the memorial was just JW propaganda. She, like her brother, was about to be baptised. These were horrible , hurtful words at the time, but now I agree. When you are burying your child there should be better comfort than JWs give.
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Another Apr 15 2012 jewel
by d0rkyd00d ini have come back from a 10 year haitus with a renewed vigor, but i'm too short on time now to explain.
when i first posted here, i was a sophomore in high school....it's hilarious to look back at my 2002 posts and see how much i've changed and grown!
anywho, let me dig right in, from page 30..... "one way we can benefit from jehovahs loving direction is through personal study.
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Thanks for that gem LG. I was a teenager when that article was written. It makes me sick that it took me soooooooooooooooooo loooooooooooooooog to wake up!
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I have allegedly been charged with apostasy
by Igot2bme ini recieved a letter today and it reads:.
sister jennifer b****,.
we request your presence for a judical hearing.
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(((((((((((((IGotToBeMe)))))))))))))) So sorry you are being shat upon by these weasels. You seem like a smart lady. You are running a successful business, and if your avitar is a picture of yourself, you are beautiful as well. Jealousy could be fueling the lies being spread about you-especially from family and sisters. I'm personally fed up with backstabbing people accusing a sister of religious wrongdoing when the TRUTH is they are simply jealous and refuse to admit it even to themselves.
You are very wise to seek advice from others who have dealt with JCs. You are equally wise to seek an attorney as well as to educate yourself on the laws in your State. You are taking control of your own life. Regardless of the outcome with the JC you have already WON! You are no longer a slave to the WT$ and no longer even captive of a concept. You are doing things YOUR way. You go girl!
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Annoying JW Stories
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so we had a conversation with my in-laws last night that thoroughly ticked me off and this is the only place that i can vent about it, so here goes!.
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I didn't become inactive until i was in my late 50's. My mother was in an assisted living arrangement 250 miles away. Even with dimentia she was able to find out about our statis. Her realitives simply asked Jws they knew in our circuit if they had seen us at the CAs/meetings. They don't have to call elders. ANY publisher will gossip about someone in their hall when asked, "Have you seen so and so at the meetings lately?" Just one seemingly innocent question and you will be busted. Sorry, but it is impossible to "fake it" without attending.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Hello again friends, Further update: Hubby wrote a terse e-mail using some of the helpful phrases and info you provided . Guess what? It WORKED!. It appears to be a scam. They backed off after they were informed of several State and federal laws they had broken. He let them know we will transfer mom out of their facility AND persue our legal remedies against them. Hubby received an e-mail saying There must be a "miscommunication" and not to worry. Good Grief! I nearly had a breakdown .
Indeed money brings out peoples TRUE colors. My therapist wants to see me FREE of charge for a while bc she knows the amount of stress that has been nonstop for almost 15 years. She is so happy I have left the cult but thinks I'm too fragile to handle all that has/is going on. I assured her that leaving the cult has actually been the BEST thing that has happened in years. She answered,"you are smart". This "worldly" woman is sacrificing her time(which, of course, is money) on me. OTOH, my own family and the WT$ doesn't care enough to even pay their debt much less help out bc of the past generous gifts they received. Who is the "evil slave"? The facts speak for themselves.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Hello friends, Just have time for a quick update before I have to get ready to leave to the Doc. (we live 40 min. away) Early this morn. moms SIL, an extremely pious-sneer left a message berating us for abandoning my mother etc etc. She stated SHE has been in the hospital herself (implying health issues are no excuse for dereliction of duty.)How does she know I've been in the hospital? You are the only people I've told. She was married to one of moms deceased brothers. Over the years, THEY borrowed over a HUNDRED THOUSAND DOLLARS from mom. They would borrow 50,000.00 then when they paid it back They would rollit over into a new loan of 50,000.00. This happened at least 3 times that I know of. Then her son (my Elder cousin) started doing the same thing. There was scarcely any paperwork and whether or not they completely paid her back is murky. When Hubby asked them over3 years ago to pay her back because we were broke paying her expenses, they sent ANGRY letters denying any debt. This is when the entire JW family began shunning us. Obviously, there inteny is to deny and counter alledge. It has worked wellfor them and RUINED my reputation.
There is more regarding her loans and gifts to other family members and the WT$ but that is another thread My destitute mother was once a multi millionare. The Borg cleaned her out and has left a widow who was baptized along side of THE Max Larson in 1937. (75 years of slaving) To ROT and are blaming me. NIce huh? Never my daughter and I lost our entire inheritance.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Dear FHN, Roski, and BlackSheep, Thanks you for your kind words, I feel a little better-thanks to you and the other posters. Hubby heard me sobbing and comforted me too. It's now 1:00AM and I must shut down for tonight. Tomorrow I have a doctor appt but later I hope to visit here some more. You are kinder, and closer to me than any of my family except hubby and daughter. I wish I could hug you all. Good Night
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Thank you Aza, Imallcool and Sizmik, You are very comforting. I wish we all could meet. When we are hurting this board rises to help and I really appreciate all of you. The stress is making Hubby and I snap at each other terribly. I really a friend tonight thank you for your company.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Thank you Broken Promises, ((((((((hugs)))))))) My mother has always been a very odd headstrong person. The irony though is, she was a good mother the first few years of my life and I bonded very tightly with her. I love her so much and always sought to please her-but never quite measured up to her expectations of me. Now I fear life has broken me.