Posts by 3rdgen

Intel, Please reread your answer to my question: How does she act when she doesn't get her own way? This manipulative behavior on her part speaks volumes. Willful people tend to seek partners they know will give in to preserve the peace. This selfish personality trait has nothing to do with religion. Even if she leaves the Borg for good, you will still be living a life walking on eggshells. Is THAT what you want 10, 20, years from now?

It is good to be a peacemaker up to a point, but NOT at the expence of loosing yourself. You must learn to respect yourself more. Therapy might be money well spent. To be part of a successful relationship you must be whole within yourself. You must be able to bring something to the "table". Your hopes, dreams, interests, should never have to be tossed simply to satisfy your partner.

I hope you carefully consider these things. I was married 30 years to someone sefish. I have been married 12 years to someone who is not. Freedom to be your self is priceless.

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Can you be in Love with two persons? My Dilemma...

by Intel in

first, don't laugh.

i'm not some adolescent teen that is confused about his relationship.

what i am going to relate here has become a maior hard ship and is really gnawing at me.

3rdgen

I have a question: Has your ex wife found it hard to find suitable men in the Borg who are also interested in HER? Is she finding it hard to make it on her own financially? Those would be strong motivation for her to pursue you again. She might possibly be toying with leaving the Borg simply to tell you what you want to hear or to have a bigger pool of men to date. How does she act when she doesn't get her own way? Selfish people make lousy spouses.

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Things You Wished You Told the Elders (OR DID TELL THEM)!!!

by OnTheWayOut in

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tell us........

3rdgen

Years ago there was a sister in hubbies former hall who got tired of all the hypocracy. She started making copies of WT articles, underlined with bright highlighter the points that applied, and placed it under the windshield of the offending Elder or MS during the meeting. Of course, those on the receiving end were embarassed and angry but they had no idea who was doing it.

Talks were given denying or difusing their failings as well as lambasting the person placing the articles. This went on for over 2 years before she was found out and hauled to the back room. She was disfellowshipped for counciling a brother.

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xtreme punishment

by rebel8 in

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quote from another thread i didn't want to derail:.

i too like blondie was shunned as an elders wife for whatever reason i have as yet to understand, it happened even when i was pioneering.

you never know what law you might break to tick someone off in that religion and how long you will be shunned.

3rdgen

A few years ago(when I was active) I called up a good friend of mine who had become inactive , and invited her to attend the Sun meeting with me. I was delighted when she accepted! She had attended a different cong. so I felt she could get a fresh start at mine.

So we meet up at the KH, I'm introducing her to someone when a hairbrained sister comes up to us, raises her voice to my friend and says,"How dare you wear colonge at the KH. Don't you know there are people who have allergys? You should be more considerate."

Needless to say, my friend never attended another meeting.

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"Fear of Men, Women." Are you afraid to speak out, for fear of being shunned?

by Bubblegum Apotheosis in

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when you read through the posts on jwn, do you hold back your true feelings (bite your keyboard tongue) or speak up?

reading through the last few hundred posts, it's surprising you allow people to say some whacked s*&t, without calling them on their nonsense.

the qoute by edmund burke "for evil to triump, all it takes is good men (women) to do (say) nothing!

3rdgen

What in particular, do you think is objectionable?

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APRIL 2012 Watchtower and my family is about to shun me again...here we go! go1

by itscrap&theyknowit! in

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my brother told me about my mom's assembly for january 2012 about november 2011. so did my mom and my older brother.. everybody in my family is jehovah's witness.

nobody is a chistian.. well, this week alone started on sunday: text message, "hey, getting a hotel room... (roach motel: the society has soooo much control over the cult dummies that all that follow this crap stay in the most lowly, bug-infested establishments because you need to humble yourself for when armageddon comes.... bull sh**!!!

) ...so, you and the kids can come to swim in the roach motel pool and get a free roach motel dinner.

3rdgen

Hi It'scrap, Are you a fader? Did your family start shunning you for simply being inactive? I'm currently dealing with that hurt myself.

Glad you are able to laugh about it now.

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APRIL 2012 Watchtower and my family is about to shun me again...here we go! go1

by itscrap&theyknowit! in

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my brother told me about my mom's assembly for january 2012 about november 2011. so did my mom and my older brother.. everybody in my family is jehovah's witness.

nobody is a chistian.. well, this week alone started on sunday: text message, "hey, getting a hotel room... (roach motel: the society has soooo much control over the cult dummies that all that follow this crap stay in the most lowly, bug-infested establishments because you need to humble yourself for when armageddon comes.... bull sh**!!!

) ...so, you and the kids can come to swim in the roach motel pool and get a free roach motel dinner.

3rdgen

Hi It'scrap, Are you a fader? Did your family start shunning you for simply being inactive? I'm currently dealing with that hurt myself.

Glad you are able to laugh about it now.

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How do you CHALLENGE yourself? Self-Improvement topic

by Terry in

this is an important topic for me.. ever since i was a kid i was interested in self-improvement.. it was the result of my grandfather, surely.. .

here is what my grandad (i called him, paw paw) would do to challenge me.. .

he knew kids always need money to buy "stuff" and go places and do things.

3rdgen

Terry, thanks for sending this message incouraging self-improvement. It's only been a few months since I left the WT$ feeling like a worthless piece of sh!t. It takes work to reframe my thoughts and deal with the depression that sets in after realizing my whole life was wasted.