i'm about 4 months into my fade- things were going ok at first.
if i didn't get ready to go to the meeting or fs, neither did my family.
recently, hubby has become more sensitive and now will take the family whether i go or not.
I'm about 4 months into my fade- things were going ok at first. If I didn't get ready to go to the meeting or FS, neither did my family.
I'm interested in your first comment. It appears that Hubby liked the idea at first and then feelings of guilt took over. I think Hubby IS someone you can work with. Do you and him talk/chat/socialize? Also... how much of this is leaving/fading from the JWs and how much of this is a marital issue?
i've read a number of posts in the brief couple of years i've been on jwn of those that were brave enough to go to university whilst being a jw.. clearly this is a small fraction of those that wanted to go but couldn't or had the grades to go but accepted pioneering instead.. for those that did go to uni despite all the advice and pressure, why did you go?
what was the response when you broke the news?
how did it affect your relationships?
JWfacts,
Do you have a story about your Bethel days? Perhaps start a new thread.
http://www.jwfacts.com/watchtower/faithful-discreet-slave.php.
Good Grief! Mental gymastics
now i am going to do a rear thing here and i am going to stick up for the wts.
i realise that the wts hasn't got the best of track record, and sure they have made mistakes.
but if i was to go to another church wouldn't they still have the same issues.
After being out for 27 years, one of the insights I have gathered is that a religion is suppose to be in addition to who you are as a person. Religion is not suppose to identify you.
i was just doing dishes not really thinking about anything in particular, and all of a sudden this experience came flooding back and i started crying.. a few years ago i went back to one of the states i lived in to see/visit my friends (before i learned ttatt, i was still a happy borg at this time).. the friends i were staying with had two young girls, one was 3rd grade and the other was preschool.
so one day the father comes home after picking up the older girl (i think she was 7, 8...i'm not sure exactly this was several years ago) and she was all red and looked like she had been crying.
i noticed she had some blue at the corner of her mouth.
I hate those kind of memories. Hopefully my little experience can put some sugar on top:
Third grade; Early May; Project: clay vase for mother's day;
My entire class was thrilled about getting their Mother's vase back from the kiln, they were all so colorful with our names proudly displayed on the bottom with the date our little hands molded it. We spent the end of the day making our own wrapping paper and carefully wrapping it before we took it home. The bell rang. Mrs. W. carefully counted heads as we made our way out the door. As I rounded the corner I threw my mother's day gift into the trash. She stopped me and I had to explain to her that my mom would throw it away because it is for Mother's day. "May I keep it ?" Mrs. W. asked. "Yeah, you can have it".
Fast forward 9 years. I was graduating that week and I wanted to see my own elementary school one more time. When I walked past a room that was down the hall from my old classroom, there was Mrs. W. sitting at her desk. "Remember me?" peeking inside the doorway. She didn't know who I was, but she asked me to come in. As I approached her desk, it was neat and tidy as she always kept it with a small clay vase that could only hold three pencils. I picked it up, turned it over, "This is who I am". She smiled, "How could I forget you!"
i have only posted on here several times, but i am constantly reading what others post.
i guess i am more of a reader than author.
that being said i am happy to announce i am no longer one of the jehovah's witnesses.
Good for you. Hopefully your wife will wake up to.
i hear of these stories of elders swapping wives, i remember when i was young hearing of three elders in florida doing this and getting dfed.
my question is this how is it possible to bring this up in conversation?
it seems impossible, how can there be multi elders that know each other willing and the wives?
Shoot, swapping was a big thing in my hall in the 1970 and 1980s. It has nothing to do with why we left, but my hubby and I were invited to private parties. At first we did not know what was going on.... all we experiences was the rudeness of others whispering to each other.That was enough for us. A year later 6 couples were DF for wife swapping.
committeechairman,
I totally respect your choices but I have a very hard time coming to grips with the absolute fact that JWs have no respect for me or others who have chosen a different path for themselves. The question I would like to ask you is the same question I would love to ask all my JW family. How can you possibly continue to associate with a group that teaches a lack of respect for others and how they may feel? To me that is like saying you disagree with the killing of Jews, but support the Nazi party.
ugh.
on one hand i'm glad she's ok. rather sickly.
but once she got word i've been inactive, she's all hot and bothered to get me back to meetings.. "did you attend the memorial this year?".
Some people never get it.
yesterday we had to make the decision to put our cat down as her health had deteriated so much in the last few months ,and especially in the last week.
many of you will know it is such a traumatic experience to go through and very painfull emotionally .. i had never considered myself a cat person , we rented a house ,double story with an outside balcony and next door had what i would describe as an umberella ?
tree ,where a cat sat, and looked over at us at the second level.. it started hanging around the front door and i said dont feed it as it will never go away.
Sorry to hear about Daisy. it is sad that our little furry best friends do not live longer. I am a cat person, down to my last persian who is my very best friend. He is my little shadow, always on my lap or begging to be. He is 16 year old. I will miss him more than any living person in my life who has died recently including my parents.
