Ya same boat. My wife is like the musicians that went down with the Titanic, playing there instruments as the ship went down. She is there because she is loyal! I've asked her to explain stuff to me and all she does is parrot what she is taught to parrot. I have stopped trying to wake her up, I just live a normal life and show her by example, that i'm not possessed by some demon or left the troof for some selfish reason. 'I left because it's lies and nonsense'.
I am still me, the real me, no layers, no more pretentiousness..... Just me unmasked. It takes time to adjust to change and I'm giving her, her space to see and adjust as her conscience allows her. It's small increments but if you knew us 4 yrs ago you would diffidently see a difference, sometime I get frustrated because it's not fast enough and I lose sight that...... we no longer the same people. Remember it took a long time to indoctrinate us and it takes time to undo the psychological damage.