Posts by pettygrudger

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Loved & Lost?

by StinkyPantz in

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do you agree with this quote?

"'tis better to have loved and lost.

than never to have loved at all.

We just recently lost my grandfather-in-law (last week). He had been with grandma for over 60 years. They were the love of each others life, and did EVERYTHING together. They were each others soul mates, best friends and everything that is right with the world. At times, they were also each others worst nightmare & worst enemy and everything wrong with the world - but they always came back around.

Grandma's smiling this week, and I kinda thought it was weird. But she quoted that exact phrase with a smile & a tear, and it dawned on me - that's real love. She's content with her memories - they had a rich & full life and her life was made all the more worth living with him in it.

Love should not be an obsession you can't get over. To really love, you must love yourself first. If you love yourself first, then the pain of letting someone go is easier - because the pain of unrequited love becomes the others loss - not your own. To really love another - means you wish for their happiness first & foremost - even if it means it can't be with you. I feel I've met the love of my life.....but should he chose a time that he can no longer be happy with me, then I will still always relish the memories we have together, and I would love again.

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Welcome: MOONBEAM

by RAYZORBLADE in

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just in case...because someone i know...moonbeam...hasn't made her presence made officially, but i thought: 'what the heck'.

i wanted to kickstart it for her.. she's a darling, and when she gets all this stuff figured out, we'll see her on here soon.. she resides in the new england part of the u.s.a. .

but in the meantime, and if you don't mind.

pettygrudger

Welcome Moonbeam!!!

Anyone that's a friend of Rayzorblades has gotta be one pretty cool person - look forward to your posts!

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happy birthday Ballistic...

by termite 35 in

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happy posting birthday .

you're 2 today !

pettygrudger

Happy Birthday Ballistic -- hope you're enjoying it in style!

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I'M SOOOOOO BORED!!!

by iiz2cool in

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i am bored.. i must not be accustomed to having a normal life or something.

i have too much time, and nothing to do with it.

it's been 7 weeks and 3 days since i sent my letter of disassociation.

pettygrudger

Walter - try joining a charity that you believe in, like Habitat for Humanity, Meals on Wheels or some other organization that you take a kinship to. You'lll not only meet new people, but you'll be getting a wonderful sense of purpose and the joy of helping others.

Step away from the keyboard & join the real world - you're needed there!

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Filing for Divorce

by iiz2cool in

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i got married while i was a jw and have been married for 16 years.

the last 10 years have been totally loveless, and we have merely existed under the same roof, nothing more.

now that i've disassociated myself we have nothing in common at all.

pettygrudger

((((Walter)))) I know how difficult this decision was for you to make, and I'm sorry it has come to this for you. Hopefully this means there will be happier days ahead however.

Bluesapphire - your story sounds much like my own, but to compound the problem, the attorney I had at the time (i was 22) told me to just file for bankruptcy to get out from under the huge debt he had ran up in the 2 years we had been separated.

Walter, take all the advice here and listen!!! It can get really messy, and for some reason, from all the stories I've read here, JW women seem to be more than able at making sure they get more than "what's theirs".

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The Presiding Overseer Called Me This Afternoon!

by minimus in

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for the first time in about a year and a half since resigning as an elder, i got my 1st checkup call to see whether i planned on attending the meeting tonight and to see "how you're doing".

i explained that since my mother is quite ill, that i would be seeing her with a meal and whatever else might need.

he asked whether my wife would be at the meeting to which i replied that i was not sure.......well, this should prove interesting.

pettygrudger

So, is your wife going to the meeting? She probably feels pretty honored to have the P.O. call on you.

I really feel for both of you - this must be so difficult. I hope she's okay, and that this wasn't to traumatic for her. I can only imagine with her now "wondering", it still must be hard on her when you don't bend on the P.O.'s ~~demand.~~ encouragement.

Hang tough minimus - you're doing really well!

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My wifes and I meeting with two elders. Their true colors shine through

by Winston Smith :>D in

i thought id give you an update re whats going on.

my qing the wts of recent has been very hard on my wife.

if i could, i would change my timing of doing so, but its just the way it has happened.

pettygrudger

(((Winston & Mrs. Winston)))

All the cyber hugs in the world won't help I know, but I feel for you. You are absolutely right in your course of action - the survival of your wife is the most pertinent situation right now.

You're right - they're going to be gunning for you now. Not only have you raised valid questions regarding what the WBTS knows are "apostate" whispers, but you have also called these 2 individuals "elderness" into question - their pride will no doubt have a hand in what happens next.

Hopefully you can tell them firmly to LEAVE YOU ALONE, until after your wife's mental health has been restored. Will give her some time to get her thoughts & feelings into place as well.

I wish you both nothing but the best, and hopefully a quick resolution to this situation, so that you can continue to live your lives together, in peace and love.

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Ten Things to do at Wal-Mart

by RR in

ten things to do at wal-mart while your spouse is taking his/her sweet time: .

1. get 24 boxes of condoms &randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking.

2. set all the alarm clocks in housewares to go off at 5 minute intervals.

pettygrudger

TOO FUNNY RR!!!!

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New Niece!!! Arrived on 8/2/03

by Xandria in

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well folks, .

many of you know we have been anticpating the birth of my sister's child.

my sister t called and stated she went to the hospital on the 1st.

pettygrudger

Congratulations Auntie Xandria!!!

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Who's To Blame For The Child Abuse Problem?

by Englishman in

just trying to get my head around this one.

with the jailing last week of a london dub paedophile, i was wondering: .

is it the religion itself that gives these perverts the feeling that they are invincible and immune from punishment when they commit these acts?

pettygrudger

This type of crime is oblivious to all socio, religious & economic background - they're EVERYWHERE (church, boy scouts, schools, family etc. etc.)

I don't think the WBTS has a "greater" problem....although they're supposed "brotherhood" would lean most to believe that any amongst their midst are "good guys" with whom they could trust their lives, and their children.

The WBTS' problem comes in their handling of these cases, and how they have allowed (much as the Catholic church) their members NO knowledge that there is a problem, that their members must take the necessary precautions. So afraid are they of bringing unwanted bad attention on themselves, and I think more importantly, more afraid of having any of their members find out they have the same problems as any other religions. They've spent way to much time pointing their fingers at the world and saying "see how they are different - see how we ARE NOT like them" when in sad reality, they are just as bad, and to some extent worse.