Posts by pettygrudger

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I think Minimus...

by TresHappy in

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is the greatest thing since sliced bread!.

pettygrudger

Minimus doesn't receive direct inspiration from God?

Dang, now I gotta rethink this whole leaving the JW thing.

(and btw - I happen to think he's a pretty wise individual, he just doesn't want any of you to know that)

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some of you will remember that i occasionally brag on my dear friend, jann, who has been such a wonderful, caring friend to me since i moved to michigan from ontario over 10 years ago and whose love and support i could not have done without recently when my mother fell ill and then died.

(rayzor is a cheerleader of hers, too!

) well, ten days ago, she finally joined the forum as "kidneybean," a reference to her new lease on life since last august thanks to an organ donor.

pettygrudger

((((Jann)))) - I had started a thread a couple of days too!

Here's the link!

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/66644/1.ashx

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Would You Stick Up For A Friend If They Were Being Dealt With Unjustly?

by minimus in

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i knew many people in the congregation that were dealt with terribly.

but most times, people were afraid to talk to the elders or were afraid they might get shunned by the more prominent ones in the congregation.

so they closed their eyes to their own friends being treated poorly and carried on as if nothing really was happening.

pettygrudger

That's what I love about being a Brummie biatch - the security of it all *sighs & looks lovingly up at the kitty*

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Would You Stick Up For A Friend If They Were Being Dealt With Unjustly?

by minimus in

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i knew many people in the congregation that were dealt with terribly.

but most times, people were afraid to talk to the elders or were afraid they might get shunned by the more prominent ones in the congregation.

so they closed their eyes to their own friends being treated poorly and carried on as if nothing really was happening.

pettygrudger

lol @ pope!

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Are You Dealing or Dwelling?

by pettygrudger in

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desib's arrival thread got me thinking (along with some kind words from special k).. when i first came here, i was so happy to see so many others with shared experiences and issues of the jw's, yet sad at the same time to know that there were so many.

i spent alot of time here in the beginning.

even though i had been out of the jw's for almost 16 years at the time, i found the time i was spending here i was "dwelling" or going back to my own painful experiences.

pettygrudger

Walter:

BTW, we missed you on the weekend Petty!!!

I didn't get the message you guys left - I heard the first 3 words & the rest was blank. How'd it go?

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Are You Dealing or Dwelling?

by pettygrudger in

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desib's arrival thread got me thinking (along with some kind words from special k).. when i first came here, i was so happy to see so many others with shared experiences and issues of the jw's, yet sad at the same time to know that there were so many.

i spent alot of time here in the beginning.

even though i had been out of the jw's for almost 16 years at the time, i found the time i was spending here i was "dwelling" or going back to my own painful experiences.

pettygrudger

The part that is tempting to dwell on is my separation from relatives still on the inside. That's the part that is hardest to get over. But the beliefs, practices and hypocrisy of the organization -- it's a part of what I experienced and it doesn't bother to me to talk or write about it. It's actually a relief to be able to come here and "get it off my chest" or share with others who have also experienced some of these same thing

Very understandable. When we have loved ones that we are separated from because of this religion, it is easy to "dwell" on the negative impact of the situation.

I have very little contact with my mother. I am "dead" to her, by her own words, because of her faith. Eventually, I also had a "funeral". A funeral for relationships that were lost (mother & siblings). I had to let my perceptions of what those relationships were supposed to be go - I had to let them die. Now, whatever scraps are left of any type of relationship - it's just become what it is. I find life is a lot easier to live when I accept what it is and buried what it was supposed to be.

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Are You Dealing or Dwelling?

by pettygrudger in

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friends

desib's arrival thread got me thinking (along with some kind words from special k).. when i first came here, i was so happy to see so many others with shared experiences and issues of the jw's, yet sad at the same time to know that there were so many.

i spent alot of time here in the beginning.

even though i had been out of the jw's for almost 16 years at the time, i found the time i was spending here i was "dwelling" or going back to my own painful experiences.

pettygrudger

DesiB's arrival thread got me thinking (along with some kind words from Special K).

When I first came here, I was so happy to see so many others with shared experiences and issues of the JW's, yet sad at the same time to know that there were so many. I spent alot of time here in the beginning. Even though I had been out of the JW's for almost 16 years at the time, I found the time I was spending here I was "dwelling" or going back to my own painful experiences. I wasn't really "dealing" with them. Actually, that had already been done.

So, in the time that you've spent here - are you dealing or dwelling? The very quality of your own life probably depends on your answer.

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My Bio - and official hi to everyone.

by Freddy Krueger in

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well, i've posted a few topics already and responded to a few.

and spoke with some of you.

well i just wanted to give you a little background on me.

pettygrudger

Welcome to the Forum Freddy!

Glad to hear that you were able to keep your family intact during this process - there are so many here who have lost so much! Perhaps your comments & experience will help some of them realize the same dream!

Look forward to hearing more of your thoughts!

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I've been asked to read at a Carole Pope event!

by morrisamb in

(i don't know how to put posters on here, so my partner will place links here very soon: http://www.fatherstouch.com/ )

speaking engagement:

donald d'haene

pettygrudger

I'd love to go as well, but unfortunately it's a work day for me.

Have a great time guys!!!

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Just so confused.............

by desib77 in

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hello everyone....i'm new here.. i was raised as a jw until i turned 19 when i decided to stop attending the meetings.

i just rathered not think about it for a few years.

now, i'm married and my husband and i are searching.

pettygrudger

Welcome to the Board Desi!!!

The first thing you may wish to do is draw up a "list" of the things that don't "sit right" with you, or that you feel the JW's are wrong about. Then, research it. In my own experience, I have found that what feels "spiritually" right to me comes from little bits & pieces of all religions.

Beliefnet.com is a great place to find other religious opinions (even JW's) regarding doctrine. And since it is religiously neutral, it's an excellent resource.

Finally, remember, the JW's preach & teach that we should be "testing" all things we're learning as JW's. Now, their slant on what testing is might be a little different, as you're only supposed to do that through the resources they provide. But in all honesty, what do you think God would want you to do? I believe Jesus only true admonition regarding "beliefs" was to keep following him.