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  Keeping it in perspective

  by Torn in

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  i've just joined up to silentlambs.

  basically i still consider myself a jw, although i'm no longer active.

  i do frequent the odd sunday meeting tho, as i still consider 95% of it to be the truth.

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  pettygrudger

  Torn - I too used to believe in 95% - I could not let go of the thought that even though imperfect, this was "God's true organization". It took a long time for me, and then a lot of soul searching.

  Raised a JW, I never had even considered other possibilities. When I was thrown out into the world, I was scared to death!!! What I found in the world is much different then what I thought I'd find.

  When I started to re-examine my beliefs, alone as no JW's would give me the time of day, I began to see something far different than what Jesus had said would be the signs of his true organization. One scripture, and I'm paraphrasing here as I don't have my bible with me, his apostles asked about ones coming with false prophecies in his name. His response - get away from me you - I never knew you.

  If you still decide after doing all the actual research that the JW's are for you, then that is your personal choice. I've seen many JW's who post here who are not "belittled or condemned for their beliefs. Its the haughty, arrogant, judgemental ones that always get a good flogging - a much deserved one, as they are not God and do not have the right to judge the hearts of others.
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  Online romances ruiner?

  by Kingpawn in

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  2. relationships

  minimus posted a thread lately asking for questions you'd like to see answered:.

  prisca asked how many online romances there were here.. i got to thinking about that at work, among other things (see previous thread).

  and besides the "slim pickings" mentioned by a poster in another thread, another potential problem came to mind.. we can probably divide ourselves into two groups here: the "ex-jw's' and the "never-jw's.

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  pettygrudger

  For both of you - what degree of abuse you suffered by the WBTS should have very little to do with your choice of mates. My hubby has never been affiliated with any religion, yet he has helped me overcome much.

  The best thing to do, whether on line or in the real world, is to find OTHER interest, and join clubs accordingly. This particular board is good for JW issues, and maybe romance has sprung from them, but the chances of this happening are rare.

  Any relationship built on JUST WBTS issues is not very healthy imho. Nor is marrying a person because she was "the best" you could do within the JW's jackfrost.

  Get out and live - find a way - there in is where you will find your mate.
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  What am I feeling for her?

  by Kingpawn in

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  this is going to be a little rambling but i hope it makes sense.

  i won't use names out of privacy concerns, but it's as true as i can make it.. where i work, i've begun developing very strong feelings for a co-worker.

  her shift and mine overlap for a few hours each day, and i see her when one of her duties brings her to my area of the plant (otherwise we work in separate areas).

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  pettygrudger

  The first step would naturally be to talk to the girl!!!! Meet in a group after work over a couple of drinks. Find out what's actually going on in her home before jumping to all these extreme conclusions.

  Just because this girl came in unhappy one day, or "seemed" unhappy w/her husband does not mean they are. She loses her glasses & you attribute to abuse? That's a stretch. Everyone has bad days. With her husband suffering from MD, of course there will be better days than others.

  If you truly "care" about this girl other than your infatuation, become her friend and get to know her. If something else were meant to be, down the road, then it will be.
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  Rapist Dies the Hard Way!!!!

  by hawkaw in

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  2. friends

  what can i say ...... except i felt a little "strained" after reading it.. hawk.

  http://www.herald.co.zw/index.php?id=15884&pubdate=2002-11-07.

  woman (50) kills would-be rapist .

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  pettygrudger

  BG - of course too much pressure on anyones brain would cause death - whadda ya think?!
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  It Could Happen to You.....

  by pettygrudger in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i left the jw's at 16 - df'd actually, 17 years ago.

  it was horrific.

  i lost friends, to some extent family etc.

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  It was wonderful - it did more for me than some of the therapy I've had -

  Lew & Alana - at least you've been able to rebuild some of those relationships, so you've had some happy endings yourself. I wish everyone could reconnect with at least one, it does seem to make a difference.

  Thanks for all the kind replies - and hopefully you will all have similar experiences to share as well!!!

  Rhonda (doin the happy dance & she don't dance! )
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  It Could Happen to You.....

  by pettygrudger in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i left the jw's at 16 - df'd actually, 17 years ago.

  it was horrific.

  i lost friends, to some extent family etc.

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  pettygrudger

  I left the JW's at 16 - df'd actually, 17 years ago. It was horrific. I lost friends, to some extent family etc. etc. - alot of you have been there/done that.

  After I had come to my senses spiritually, I still missed some of those closest friendships. I would have to say I have an extremely hard time now maintaining long-term friendships, for fear that eventually they are just ripped away.

  A couple of days ago, I looked up through that "Find old Classmates" site, and sure enough, one of my old closest JW friends had registered there. I tentatively sent her an email, thinking I would get a "I'm still a JW so thanks but no thanks", if I received a reply at all. To my surprise, I received a response back within 24 hours - no she was no longer a JW, and she would love to hear from me!!!! A phone call was made that night, and its gonna go down in my history of one of the best days, and one of the worst. For as much as my experience w/the shunning/df'ing thing sucked, and with how long the reprucussions last (if it ever ends), it is worse to know that those you love are experiencing the same thing. My heart broke as I listened to the pain in her voice when speaking of others she loved & now were lost (at least for a time). But, just like our friendship - never give up, as you may just find them again. If it happened to me - it could happen to you!!!

  The find ex-jw sites are nice, but register with Classmates too. Not all ex-jw's know where to look, but everyone remembers what schools they attended!!!

  And you my oldest, dearest friend - if you found this place as I suggested - Welcome - LOVE YA GIRL!!!!!
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  4 Minimus

  by Pathofthorns in

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  it is pretty pathetic for some people that claim they don't like the content/style/quantity of your threads and then to constantly dog you in them.

  i think it takes a decent measure of talent and thought to consistently post interesting questions that generate good responses and from the number of replies/reads you get per thread, i would say others think similarly.. even your critics cannot seem to resist opening and reading what you write.

  personally, i think they are jealous and frustrated that simple questions generate more interest here than their long well-researched essays.

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  pettygrudger

  Winston Churchill said "Little men use big words, big men use little words"
  Most people's issues regarding the JW's don't revolve around the deep doctrinal issues. They deal with loss of friends, family, independent thinking and other "emotional" based elements.; Minimus' threads give many an avenue to actually post a comment and state their opinion. ; This is therapy for alot of us. Sure most times it doesn't lead to a huge life altering debate, but it does help us take the steps we need to think for ourselves. This is more important to me than all the doctrinal discussion put together
  Ifind doctrinal discussions interesting, but would never dare interject a thought usually. Too scary - they'd be on me like flies on sh*t. But, on threads such as Minimus', I find a type of thread that I can feel comfortable having a say....so keep um up Minimus - you are much appreciated & needed here too.
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  JW's...the loving religion?

  by Golden Girl in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i posted an update on hubby's scan.

  but i had a comment to make about the jehvah's witnesses which i will still have some contact with for a litte while.

  hubby has always believed it to be the "truth" and always will.

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  ((Snoozy)) - what a trying time for you and hubby!!!

  It sounds as if you & hubby had a marriage most would envy - that is something to be cherished.

  I wish there was something I could say that would ease your burden

  My thoughts & prayers are with you.

  Rhonda
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  Am I Living In Sin

  by kelpie in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  so what is your view?

  am i living in sin?

  in god's eyes when you sleep together you are "married" no where in the bible does it mention signing legal documents.

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  pettygrudger

  Kelpie - my husband & I aren't "legally" married either. We did make vows to God before family & friends - just skipped the government portion. We are introduced as hubby & wife, our friends & family know us as hubby & wife, and the world doesn't realize we aren't "technically" married either.

  Our conscious tells us we are married- I'm with you - as long as God & everyone who knows you considers you married, what the government don't know won't hurt them. The tax benefits are terrific!!!
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  Perry and Nathan Natas

  by footprints in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  perry and nathan natas.

  both of you need to enroll in a basic political science class at you local community college.. perry if you think that george has never had a blowjob from women he is not married to you have your head up your ass.. nathan natas if you think that anyone but the us put sadam in power you need to do more with printed material than jack off.

  the us and big oil companies are a major reason there is only one democracy in the middle east.

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  pettygrudger

  I brought the beer!!!!