a couple of days ago, jehovah's witnesses came round to my house.
nothing exceptional in that, you might say.
it happens every day, all over the world.. but those of you who know me, or who have followed my story, know how traumatised i was when i finally got away from them, and you'll remember that i wrote a letter three or four weeks after walking away, ending all contact.
Don't forget the wreath on the front door!
Hopefully they won't be back, but if they do, perhaps a registered letter, which you keep a copy of (registered letters are the ones you have to sign for, correct?), telling them you do not want them to contact you again. EVER! Then perhaps keep a filled super soaker water gun around, and soak 'em if they come back after the letter.
now i just have to sign on the dotted line and drop it off and i shall once again be in the permanent job field.
i won't be earning a huge amount by any means but it is enough to cover my bills and to save a little bit.
this does give me that relief of finances coming in, of course i'll be keeping my ears and eyes open for better opportunities, but that being said i shall embrace this new opportunity with open arms and eagerness.. it's been a hellofa tough year people - hellofa tough.
CONGRATULATIONS! The best is yet to come!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkz0tcxzhfm&list=ul.
my husband made a little special holiday cheer in our front yard .
enjoy ,i know our witness neighbors do .
AWESOME!!!! Thank you for sharing!
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Welcome, new22day. I am sorry this is happening to you. This man sounds like he is sorely lacking in morals and conscience. You probably have higher morals than he does. It sounds from your post as though he has no problem being deceitful and using people, and places what he wants first .He never told anyone about you, lied to you, tried to make you feel like the bad guy for returning his things to his landlady (obviously because you might have exposed him). You are best rid of him, and I am sure you realize that, but I know it must hurt after 2 years.
I would ask you to consider calling the kingdom hall he attends, if there is more than one congregation there find out what times their meetings are held, and call there and ask to speak to an elder about 10 minutes before a meeting starts. Share your story, make sure you have share the general timeline this all occured so they can see that he was leading a double life while being reinstated. I believe there is something wrong with this person, and you might want to do this not for revenge, but to save someone else from getting hurt. If you are going to do it for revenge, I would say don't. It won't make anything better, your heart won't heal any faster, he will still be a lying dog who will most likely lie his way out of it. You also might want to consider changing the locks where you live just to be on the safe side if he ever had a key. I would do this whether you decide to expose him or not.
Refuse to have anymore communication with him. Block him from your phone, your emails, anyway he has of communicating with you. And come here as frequently as you need to vent. I have found this to be a very welcoming, helpful group of people. All the best in life to you!
many years ago i witnessed a mother smacking her 15 month old baby.
at the time i was shocked as the child was so young.
i asked her about it and she said as soon as her kids learned to say no they were old enough to be smacked.. .
You DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, HIT A 15 MONTH OLD!!!! There are other ways to deal with them. I've seen too many witnesses use the spare the rod excuse as a way to dismiss their borderline ( and sometimes not borderline) abusive ways with their children. That is lazy parenting.
the worst thing an "elder" ever did to me was in 2008. i was in one congregation, but i wanted to return to my home congregation because i've been reproved there twice ( once private and the last one public ).
when i came into this congregation in 2007 i thought i was going to move up the food chain ( this congregation was full of older people, so i thought i would move up faster ).
but i got into some trouble in the congregation.
Loz, what that elder did to you was awful! He sounds like a complete moron. The worst thing an elder did to me was when I had decided to get baptised after studying for 5 years. The woman who was studying with me was pushing me hard to get baptised, so I approached one elder. He told me he felt I wasn't ready. I was shocked, as he was approving someone who had been studying less time, and I was doing EVERYTHING they asked. But o.k. Six months later, I approached him again. He felt I wasn't ready! I was angry!And again, they were allowing people who were fairly new to get baptised. I thought these people play mind games! I'm not playing! Why didn't I leave then?! It was the perfect opportunity! The woman studying with me was very aggressive, and finally convinced me he had his reasons, my kids had friends in the congrgation, just wait on Jehovah, etc. I think it was just a power play, and I was a fool not to have simply said good-bye.
thank you for this forum.
thank you for your stories which helped wake me up from my delusion.
thank you for letting me join you.
Welcome! Are you planning on bringing your husband with you when you escape? All the best on your journey out!
i recently sent an email about this to a couple dozen of my contacts.
(it is included below) has anyone else encountered this problem with wot?.
.. wot (web of trust) is an excellent plug-in that i have used with google chrome for quite some time, but have noticed that many of the sites run by dissidents and former jws to expose the lies and hypocrisy of the wt automatically have "dangerous" reputations according to wot, and my browser will actually pop up a warning not to visit the site when trying to go there.
Registered and voted! Hope it's o.k. if I bump this thread a few times over the next couple days. Shall I call it theocratic warfare? I noticed that some one had said to go to the societys site for correct info. Wish I would have thought to see if it was on this site for rating. Think I will check that later!
i have never understood one thing about jws.
ok i am not a witness but what has my son done?
he is an innocent child.
That is your Mom's loss, trujw. I am sure you love her, and I know that it hurts for her to treat your precious child this way, but perhaps one day you can point out to her how hypocritical she is being, by knocking on doors where no one is home for hours on end, and yet here in her own family she has the perfect oppotunity with your wife and child to witness at least through her actions, i.e., being a loving Grandma & mother-in-law. And of course others who know she is a witness and how she behaves toward her never was jw family! That gives a very bad witness!
On the other hand, as others have said, the bright side is that you don't have to contend with her trying to indoctrinate your child or wife. I guess the saying be careful what you wish for might apply here. You son is very fortunate to have a Daddy like you, who cares so much.
i'm sure someone here has experienced this before.
please help me help my son.
his wife of 15 months told him last night that she needs her space, that what she wanted 1 year ago isn't the same as what she wants now.
Thank you Toth, I know he will get over it at some point. Leftinthe Cold, I will definately watch his behavior for depression, but he has a large circle of friends who will support him as well. FlyingHighNow, thank you, and you are correct, I am NOT saying much or trying to get involved. We are keeping it very quiet right now, his sisters don't even know.
I am hopeful that she will have a change of heart, and am grateful that he is keeping me posted. He told me some more last night, and I mostly listened. I am sad that he had to file for divorce yesterday, but that is srtictly so if it does come to that, it can be done in our county, because to get an attorney 2 hours away would be expensive in time and money. And she is the one who filed, so she will have to be inconvenienced, not him. He has engaged an attorney( a woman) who is a pitbull, and who even called last night to see how he was doing after having had to file.She is a friend of the older son.
But my d-i-l HAS agreed to visit a marriage counselor just once. I hope that may lead to this being put off. Some of the things my son told me last night that they have emailed about lead me to believe that she has not thought this through, and the counselor hopefully will help her to see that. My son is also meeting with her parents to see if they can give him some insight. He is doing everything he can to fix this, and I am simply trying to be supportive. I am not going to advise, as that is the job of the counselor and attorney, who have the experience and are the experts. I hope you don't think I'm being mean, but he told me something I found funny last night. She emailed asking if they could do this w/o attorneys. HELLO?! His brother is one, he is one, they have numerous friends who are attorneys! Apparently she has not engaged one yet. That is one of the things that make me think she has not thought this through. Hopefully they will work it out, and she will not need one.
