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ruderedhead
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What a Week! The Bees Got Married!
by BizzyBee inwhat a wonderful holiday season!
time with family, time for fun, and in the midst of it all - we got married!
after christmas we were in palm springs for the weather and golf, but took off for nevada on thursday and tied the knot in a sweet, simple ceremony.
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I Think My Marriage Is Over...
by cognac ini know exactly what happened... he thinks i'm going to die at the big a and wants to be with someone he can live forever with.... we have two girls, ages 3 and 1... i really thought we'd make it despite the religion, now i really don't think so... not sure what to do... .
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ruderedhead
Love Billy's suggestions on how to respond to elders possible stupid advice! i.e., if they say he hasn't done anything wrong, letting the women in his family know he feels on these matters, and also the try harder to be a better wife crap! Intelligent and well thought out responses. My first response would be to punch that fool elder in the nuts! That would be very bad, but I tend to be a knee jerk reaction type of person. Billy is a wise man! If it gets to that point, hope cognac takes Bill's words and uses them. Might make some elder think about how foolish his advice sounds!
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I Think My Marriage Is Over...
by cognac ini know exactly what happened... he thinks i'm going to die at the big a and wants to be with someone he can live forever with.... we have two girls, ages 3 and 1... i really thought we'd make it despite the religion, now i really don't think so... not sure what to do... .
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ruderedhead
I'm so sorry for your troubles, cognac. I imagine your poor heart is breaking. You have been given some wise advice here. Only you know exactly what your situation is and what will likely work best. Take to heart the advice to document everything. Keep it in a safe place he will not locate it accidentally. I know some who haven't done that, for various reasons, and they have gotten the short end of the stick . As others have said, Plan everything. Speak to an attorney without his knowing so you know your legal rights and what to expect should you decide to leave. Say nothing to him or the woman until you know what to do. Come here to vent if you need to let off steam.
Do you have the means to support yourself financially, job skill wise? If not, are you able to go back to school and get an education that will allow you to leave and support yourself? I have 2 daughters (16 & 23), and I have always told them they should be able to support themselves, as you never know if you will have to. The oldest has a bachelor's degree. You may want to start at community college, or a trade program that you can build on. Think it through, dear cognac.
All the best to you and your children.
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ruderedhead
Please go to jwfacts and arm yourself with some real truths. An intervention sounds like it might be a good idea, but you will have to be well prepared. Please take Biblestudents advice and contact Steven Hassan asap. Make sure his kids are on board and educated with all the facts as well.
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Good Reasons To Hate Every Weak And Ex-Jehovah Witness.
by AuntConnie in1. my husband's time is finite, it's wasted on spouses arguing over money, sex or family mattters with stupid home visits.. .
i hate people's constant open hand for money, it's the weak individuals asking others to pull their weight.
my family worked extra hours instead of begging the strong members for district assembly money, cat food for seven cats or tiny little rag-a-muffins weiner dogs.. .
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ruderedhead
I think AuntConnie seriously needs professional help before she has a breakdown! I am not being sarcastic here, but believe you are in need of immediate help! You sound like someone who is at the end of their rope, and I feel for you. Please consider seeking out a professional's help soon. No one but your husband has to know. And please stop pioneering. I know not all elder's wives pioneer. Just say you are exhausted, and might need some time for your parents. You can say you will start again later. Don't take guff from anyone who is not pioneering themselves! You owe no explanations!
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need advice!
by unstopableravens inmy son is three and will not stop using his diapers we have tryed alot of stuff ,sitting him on there every few hrs etc... he knows what to do if you ask him were should he use the bathroom he will say the toilet!
but he keeps going in his pull ups, you put on underwear and spiderman get a face load of mud!.
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ruderedhead
You might not like this Mom's advice, but please RELAX! It is probably just a power struggle. And he will win this one. I raised 4, 2 boys. 2 girls, and for some reason the boys were simply more difficult to potty train. He will do it when he is ready. Don't give up, keep encouraging him to use the big boy potty. Until they reach their teens, I think this is one of the most frustrating things parents have to do. Can you offer small rewards for using the regular toilet? He picks a story for you to read to him after he uses the reg. toilet? An extra 15 minutes to stay up past bedtime if he has no accidents one day? A Happy Meal another? Whatever works for you. I'm sure you're already praising him to the hilt when he does use it. When he starts to "get it", it might help to tell others in front of him how proud you are that he is getting to be such a big boy and uses the potty like Dad! No more baby underpants for your big boy! Children love to be praised, esp. in front of others. Don't let it frustrate you. I remember when I was at a book study with a woman who had a son 5 years old. He was friends with my son, who was trained, they were both going to kindergarten in 2 months, and he was still doing his business in a diaper. He knew what to do, but refused. NEVER had to use a diaper again after he started school. He knew what to do, just chose not to!
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Are JW'S "hated" in all the world? Or...are they considered IRRELEVANT?
by Terry inwathctower 90/1/1 p. 12 par.
8 not ashamed of the good news .
while it is true that jehovahs witnesses are hated and opposed in all the nations of the earth, this is in fulfillment of what was foretold to be an identifying mark of genuine worshipers of the one living and true god.
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ruderedhead
Irrelevant. This thread madde me think about how many times you would hear from the podium at kh's and assemblies, tho, how employers simply LOVED having jw's as employees due to all their fine qualities (which lying, cheating, thieving worldly people didn't possess). Sometimes they would even go so far as to say someone had been hired over someone else based solely on the fact that they were a jw. So which is it, hated or loved?
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Mouthy needs a hug
by carla inhi grace,.
i'm sorry about your family not being around (seeloubelles christmas plann thread) so i thought we could give you hugs here!
not the same but..... a merry christmas to you!
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ruderedhead
MERRY CHRISTMAS, MOUTHY!!!
Sometimes family are those we choose to be with. Those who love us unconditionally.
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Final prayer after fieldservice today.
by El_Guapo inhi guys,.
i was asked to give final prayer today after the field service meeting.
i asked for jah to bless and comfort the families of the newtown, ct massacre.
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ruderedhead
Asking God to comfort those who are facing this horrible nightmare IS OFFERING SRIRITUAL HELP!
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"I don't want to be in the same congregation as my adult children."
by compound complex ini didn't know how to word a question briefly enough to fit the title box.
going back to the time you attended meetings (perhaps you still do), if you are the parent of adult jw children, did you feel there was entirely too much closeness and undue involvement with your offspring, especially if in the same congregation?
personally, i would want my children to interact with others and develop relationships outside my purview.
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ruderedhead
I know that in the couple of congregations I was in, both had families with multilple generations. All very nice people, but very tight knit. And these were the families that seemed to "move up the ladder" a bit more quickly than others. Eventually, as the people were redistributed in the first cong. via orders from above, some of these families had to go to other congregations. But they were all close by, and I didn't hear of anyone having too much of a problem. All were well known in the circuit.
In the second congregeation, however, the women who had their mother there seemed to be calling the shots. Even tho hubby could be an elder in another congregation where there weren't enough, some girls wouldn't leave Mom. Needed her help with the kids, etc. Even tho they were nice people, ones who needed Mommy for help received no sympathy from a Mom who was there alone with 4 kids and no help.