Yes, you handled yourself with dignity, quellycat. Well done!
ruderedhead
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No longer angry or bitter.
by quellycatface ini saw some jw's in my neighbourhood today from my ex kh.
they were on the ministry and happened to call at my door!!.
i calmly explained i had da'd and now went to a regular church.
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My appeal was successful. Now what?
by noonehome infaders: why do we bother staying in?.
we cling to some false hope that people we love will accept us despite our not believing, even though its as much a fairytale as the dogmas based on untruths.. ive never been anything but a good friend and human being and would do anything for the people i love; i couldnt dream of shutting out someone i care about.
and its not like theyd revel in the idea of doing it either, yet its seen as not just the only choice, but also as undoubtedly the right thing to do.
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ruderedhead
Are you from Canada, noonehome? Today is your Thanksgiving, correct? Happy Thanksgiving!
I guess only you can decide the best course for you to take from here, but please realize that if you are staying for that young woman, she has already stabbed you in the back, and is probably not worth your time. What she did was petty and a little mean. You bleeping EAR? How did she know it was yours? Move along, my friend. There's nothing for you there.
Figure out what you want, and how to achieve it. Have a wonderful life!
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Turns out it was true - "the truth" was the only reason my marriage lasted so long
by Shattered Reality ini haven't really been on here in like, a year.
my stbx introduced me to this site and then a whole buch of life happened and i just sort of never had time for forums.
but here i am at 3am, another sleepless night, and i feel like i am simply lost.
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ruderedhead
Shettered, your pain will eventually subside, and you will come out a stronger person. But why are you allowing him to use you still? Please consider telling him that his free ride is over, if he doesn't have the money for 1/2 the bills this month, he's out! And set a date for him to move out. Please do not cook for him, or do any "wifely" things for this lazy asshole. He can do his own cooking, buy his own food, clean up after himself, etc. What else is he doing with his time, anyway? He's obviously not working! He can only continue taking advantage of you if you allow it, my friend. You know you and the children deserve better than this abuse (and this is abuse, even though he is a fun playmate to them, he is not a provider, nor a good moral influence, and he is messing with their Mom)
Would your parents be open to loaning you the deposit on a smaller place so you can move out to something you can afford on your own, and leave him there to deal with the rent? I realize you probably have a lease that places you under some obligation, but there are ways to deal with that. Unless your name isn't on the lease, then he's on his own.
Please get this man out of your home and your life asap! It's time for you to move on and find happiness. Own your life, shattered. Right now, you are unknowingly allowing him to own it. And he is making you miserable, and only cares about himself.
All the best to you!
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So I'm going through a really difficult time right now.
by scaredtospeak ini was publicly reproved last year and the elders have taken their sweet time in reinstating my "privileges".
it's been six months and i can't answer at the meetings or participate in the theocratic ministry school.
in all honesty- i don't care about the privileges.
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ruderedhead
jgnat is spot on, this is a game of endurance, and you will win! Just fly under the radar for now.
Do you have a plan for the next 4 years? At 18, I am assuming that you are probably in your senior year of high school (if you are in the U.S.), or graduated a few months ago? Are you getting some further education? What are you interested in? Not everyone wants/needs to do 4 years of college, but if you do to pursue your dreams, how will you finance it? Do you have a part time job right now? Look at all of your options, make a plan. Talk to a college/ h.s. counselor. Maybe all you need is a 2 year degree, or a certificate program. Have short & long term goals. If your parents are against further education, use whatever reasoning you know will work to sway them. If a 4 year degree is what you desire, you may have to start out at a junior college, as that is affordable, local, and probably less scary to your parents. You can then transfer. Take the time to figure out what YOU want!
You're young, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it's going to be a wonderful journey with some bumps along the way that will make you stronger and wiser.
And did you let your Mom know about the creepy older man's comment and that it made your skin crawl? How does he know what the young men at your hall think abour your attire? Are they complaining to him, or is he taking a survey? That, my dear, is your "stumbling block"!
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Up yours!!! Jw religion!!
by Julia Orwell ini just got a job teaching in a school run by moderate muslims.
the students are muslim and do their prayers at school and have daily quran lessons.
my job is to teach art, english literacy and literature, and history.
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ruderedhead
I'm happy for you, Julia! Hopefully you will find something more permanent after! I think you're going do a great job!
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How many born ins actually stay?
by lostinthought ini was wondering if anyone know sany statistics of the amount of born ins that actually stay in the orginization.
i think i have read it before on here but i can't really remember what it was.
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ruderedhead
Through fb I have become aware of some in their 20's & 30's now that have left the wt. Some have surprised me. Then there are the ones I have found out are still in. The odd thing is, some that are still in were treated badly when I was still in, and always felt they had something to prove. Guess they stayed in for family. And as some of you have already stated, some just fly under the radar. Their parents have done it for decades!
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Reddit Has Done a Great Job Lately at Exposing the Watchtower to Millions
by Emery in1.5 months ago there was a perfectly timed reddit topic about jw false prophecies that made it on to the front page of reddit.
this certainly didn't bold so well fortheir historic campaign.
the front-page of reddit had over 135 million unique visitors last month.
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ruderedhead
Interesting. Not sure what reddit is, I assume it's a social media thing, but it's good to know millions have seen this, and, on those very rare occassions when someone talks to them at the door or elsewhere, they have the information. Some may even look into it further.
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I lost my family today.
by awakenyr2004 inso far my oldest niece and oldest sister cut me off.
i'm waiting for the goodbye texts from my other siblings.
my parents asured me they would never cut me off.
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ruderedhead
This is so sad! But you certainly have your priorities straight. You precious son comes first.
I wouldn't send out any more mass texts, or any unnecessary ones. You know that they can twist things to make you look bad. Just absolutely necessary communication with everyone but your parents, and be brief. No putting yourself down.
Please attempt weekly contact with your parents. If they won't answer the phone, then text them, asking them to please just do you the courtesy of texting you back so you know they are doing o.k., as you love them very much. Even if they are foolish/brainwashed/ bullied enough to ignore you, at the end of the day, you will be at peace with yourself, knowing you did the right thing in trying to maintain contact, letting them know you love them no matter what. You will also be setting a great example for your son in how to be loving, kind, forgiving and the right way to treat people. Your family is supplying the example of how mean, nasty, un-loving people that twist the Bible's words treat people. You will probably never have to worry about him becoming a jw!
Enjoy your life!
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Reasoning with Trolley Witnesses from their Silver Sword, their Blatant Lies and some Hi-Lit
by abbasgreta inq. why do people need all these mags and books?.
a. to understand the bible.. reasoning: asked her to read 1 john 2:27. also matt 28:19,20. what info leads to baptism?
teaching whose instruction?
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ruderedhead
Nicely done, abbasgreta. Sounds like you were reasonable,kind and non- aggressive.
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Am I the youngest one on here?
by Capstone ini finally registered on here after reading on the forum for almost two years on and off (more often the last year).
to give you some background on who i am i can say that i'm a girl in my late teens and live in western europe.
my mom is a jw and my dad is not.
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ruderedhead
Welcome, Capstone! It's wonderful that you have found the truth about the religion while you are young.
Is it possible for you to speak to your Father alone about your decision and your Mom's reaction, asking him to support you? What about your siblings that aren't jw's? Can they lovingly talk to Mom about your decision?
Your logic that researching the religion should make your faith in it stronger if it is, indeed, the one true religion, is reasonable. The jw's encourage others to look closely at their religion, and will supply negative information (cherry picked) on other religions, but will give the boot to a jw that researches them. Doesn't make sense, does it?
Please realize that Mom probably feels that she is being judged by her congregation in a negative light as none of her children have accepted the religion. She may be, I don't know the personality of her congregation. Some are loving, some are lukewarm, some are just mean. Be loving, kind and patient. Don't take her comments personally, she's lashing out because she is hurt. But please get some back up from you family.
Finish school, live a wonderful life, keep developing new frienships. Perhaps one day, slowly, uyou will be able to share some truths about the jw religion with her.