Notsure if you what you say is still the case then it would be better if unrighteous loved ones died beforehand.
But you are not right because the new light says now you don’t have to wish your unrighteous loved ones die beforehand, if they are alive during Armageddon they will have the same chance as if they died before
yes I keep posting this direct quote from the watchtower
person’s eternal future does not depend on when he happens to die