i'd like others' thoughts on this development for me.. i was disfellowshipped seven years ago and made up my mind never to return some two years ago.
most witnesses have shunned me, of course, but there are some still in the organization who associate with me.
one of them lives in southern california and has never ceased supporting me in various ways.
Personally I think you should let him know your thoughts on the 'truth' before you set out. That way he is not in an awkward position if he still believes in all the BS from the WT. Give him time to digest that you are an 'apostate' first. Get those important questions answered before hand.
Then if he still goes with you which he probably will by the sounds of things, then its all out in the open and you can encourage him to get out.
Im so happy for you Q sounds like a blast!
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This is definetely not the time to pat someone on the back for a job well done. lol
Does anyone think the guy on the far right has a bottle of liquor?
This is probably the job for a guy who works with the man who has been banging his wife. Whoops, another one 'fell'.
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That photo makes me feel physically ill. How could anyone do that? Im sooooo scared of heights. They all look so comfortable. Im hoping its not a real photo.
i hated going from door to door.
it was really bad when the neighbors would call each other and say that we had arrived.. what pests we were!.
now, i don't bother anyone if i can help it!
i hated RVs they made me feel like a stalker. And business witlessing was just rude!
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Hubby and I have always arrived late as we couldnt stand all the pretend plastic love beforehand. One year we managed to find 3 seats for the 4 of us, one kid to sit on the floor. When we got back after lunch there were 3 smug smartass Bros sitting in our seats, our bibles and songbooks thrown on the floor. I told them they were sitting in our seats and they said with grins on their faces that there was nothing on the seats when they arrived. Needless to say we left in disgust and didnt go back for the final day of that 3 day convention. We went back to our beachside accomodation and had an enjoyable afternoon of fishing.
Another year my Hubby was parking attendant when two other (both now elders) attendants got into a fist fight. My hubby (big ex fighter) stood back and let it happen while having a good laugh, it was peak hour and it stopped all the traffic coming into the car park.
When I did get there at 8 am for the good seats I found that the people already working in the building had taken every single end of row seat for themselves and friends. Selfish a**holes. People with kids always ended up sitting in the middle of the longest rows and the single and childless people hogged the ends. My hyperactive kids went to the toilet or for a walk just about every hour so I enjoyed making them regret it. lol
for all those (ex)jws who have had to burn bridges with friends and family in order to live free: .
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Well done
im just wondering,how do you do it?
how do you manage to convice them that your genuine?
how do you manage to keep up that pretense without running screaming from the hall?.
While being suspicious but too scared to search the internet (in case a big bad apostate jumped out and dragged me down to hell) I found it very hard, I would look out of the windows (yes some stupid KH designers actually put them low enough so you can look out) and wonder what am I doing sitting here listening to this utter crap?? I was sick of wasting my life on JW shite but scared of upsetting the almighty by leaving his borg.
Then one day I learned TTATT and never set foot in a KH again, it was just before the memorial and I had never missed one in my 37 yrs in the borg. It was the best memorial night EVER!! I enjoyed every moment of sitting at home watching TV with my family and didnt ever feel guilty about borg crap again.
The ones who are enlightened and still go to the KH are usually the unfortunate ones trying to keep their families together. I think about those poor people everyday. It would just be the hardest thing, esp if they are still in a position, preaching or studying with someone.
sitting in the local cafe enjoying a coffee this morning when the witnessing group showed up.. before i had a chance to escape i was sharing my table with 2 'sisters'.
one was my best friend for years until i stopped going to meetings.
(such conditional friendships).. before i knew it i was being bombarded with questions like how i was going spiritually.
Frenchfree: very funny, good idea when Im feeling cheeky.
Yourmomma: Ive noticed that too, every year that passes the whole bumping into JW thing gets easier, mostly I just avoid them because they just babble brainwashed rubbish anyway. I do feel sorry for them being controlled so badly.
Nugget: I 100% agree with you, we have been conditioned to walk away from friendships easily and not one friendship Ive lost has been sad for me, actually more of a relief. Obviously they werent my friends anyway. I have friends I truly care about now that actually do mean a lot to me- what a massive difference to the JWs! Bumping into the fools is just annoying cause I dont want to give too much away but I am also very opinionated so its hard not to open my big mouth.
Sir82: your comment is very true, lots of mostly single or couples have been going to third world countries, yes there is selfish motives as from what Ive heard they are living like royalty. This couple and their 3 kids recieve a very generous (disability) pension from our government so they dont have to work, apparently they can spend a certain amount of time overseas and not have it cancelled. While us taxpayers fund their holiday.
OSTS: well you certainly are outsmartingthesystem! I should have told them Ive been researching like you said, but even thats enough to prick up the ears of ex COs and elders wives. Its true that Ive never picked up a bible so much as in the last 6 months. I did tell an unbaptised publisher that Ive been researching and have been shocked at what I found, so Im sure that will get back to the cong. (she was shocked when I told her she also needs to check her facts on the history of the org) If the elders approach me on that one I will 1. tell them to mind their own business. 2. tell them its not true. They are scared of my Hubby anyway, they know he will knock their block off if they even try and insinuate a wrong doing on my part.
OODad: exactly what Im trying to avoid. Ive been disfellowshipped once and its awfully hard to get back in (as a believer, I wouldnt want to even try and fake it) I really feel for you. Im glad I got my kids out before they had the chance to be brainwashed enough to stop talking to me.
Nambo: interesting comments, will keep that one in mind.
Rebel8: as I read your post I saw myself doing just that! Bloody hilarious!! They seem to think I dont go to meetings because I have depression, its not too far fetched to say I have some awful mental illness that allows me to talk to demons. (I did have depression until I realized it was caused by the borg BS) Maybe I could throw in some demonic phrases while having a conversation with them, tourette style. lol
sitting in the local cafe enjoying a coffee this morning when the witnessing group showed up.. before i had a chance to escape i was sharing my table with 2 'sisters'.
one was my best friend for years until i stopped going to meetings.
(such conditional friendships).. before i knew it i was being bombarded with questions like how i was going spiritually.
Thanks Chicky, excellent suggestion, I will def try that one. Sorry about your Son, hope hes on the mend.
good day, everyone.. i choose not to post much, but i enjoy lurking several times a day.
i haven't seen anyone remark on the growing trend of apostacy globally, specifically within the last year.
i mean apostacy that's not just among jws.
Hey Phizzy, us Australians must really be new age. Our prime minister is openly athiest.
