I just got an email from my JW-Elder-Dad (correspondence is rare). I cannot believe how NOT THERE he really is. Mom & Dad will not be attending my grandfather's funeral because it is a military ceremony. The response is so Borg-conceived I must quote some:
"...we will do what we know is best, regarding (Grandpa's) funeral. (Son), we learned through many personal experiences & the many experiences of others, that upholding Jehovah's Principles always works out for the better. We have clean consciences, & true joy in knowing that we haven't violated those Principles. Mom & I can only try our best to follow our Bible-trained consciences, despite our imperfections. When we do Jehovah's will, it makes his heart glad, too, & that is even more important than our own feelings of victory. I know that it is hard for you to understand at this stage in your life, but Jehovah has been very good to us, and even promises us a better future, despite the joy we have right now. It is beyond compare."In other words: "Sorry,I've been brainwashed so long that I no longer have my own opinions. Please accept this prepared response from the Watchtower Bible & Tract Society."