Sometimes the truth hurts, but it still must be stated. Jehovah's Witnesses that I know have a nice way of sugar-coating their words and they pass it off as tact. I am less concerned with what someone thinks of ME personally then I am with someone being presented with the plain facts. If someone thinks I'm an asshole because I told them something they needed to hear, I can live with that. As a Jehovah's Witness I would have been more concerned about how a situation made ME look.
By the way, wholewheat, welcome back.