I was a pioneer until about 6 months before I stopped going. Except for one elder, never heard from anyone again. Nothing. Pioneered for 7 years. Hosted baby and wedding showers galore. Used my home for tons of gatherings. Then nothing. Really happy actually that they don't care. Makes ignoring them in public super easy.
joyfulfader
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The "Pop-In"
by Mr. Falcon inso last night the wife is working, the kids are getting ready for bed and i'm watching futurama.
doorbell rings.
now it's dark, snowing and i live on a back road, so it's very odd to have a visitor.
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Who seemed to be shown more forgiveness? Men or women?
by TweetieBird inwhat has been your experience with people you knew that were reproved or disfellowshipped for adultery?
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i always felt that the brother was treated more mercifully and excused for it, but a sister was totally demonized..
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joyfulfader
I agree with SophieG...repentance has absolutely NO bearing on the decision. Period.
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Who seemed to be shown more forgiveness? Men or women?
by TweetieBird inwhat has been your experience with people you knew that were reproved or disfellowshipped for adultery?
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i always felt that the brother was treated more mercifully and excused for it, but a sister was totally demonized..
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joyfulfader
Women are definitely dealt with more harshly since the org needs the men and there are too many women as it is. That being said it really does depend on the politics of the particular cong and the sets of brothers involved. Having been in at least 7 JC's the politics were different each time depending on those involved. And it's funny because I was only ever in those JC's because I told on myself as a good little born in. Saw virtually every viewpoint and type of discipline. Women are def second class citizens. And as far as a sister approaching 40...I was in my late 30's before I left and attracted men left and right so I don't think that poor woman is doomed because of her age. Maybe doomed to a life of depression from the org but not necessarily from marriage.
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what is the earliest age you heard someone get Baptised?
by enigma1863 ini was curious what is the youngest age any jw has been baptised.
i thought it was hypocritical for jws to say wait for marriage because its such a big deal but "why wait to get baptised".
i think my step sister was 11 years old.
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joyfulfader
an 8 year old got baptized at one i went to and my pioneer school had a girl who was only 10 or 11 so to be at pioneer school she had to have been baptized at least 2 years...making her 8 or 9.
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A word of caution
by Socrateswannabe inplease forgive me if you consider this to be presumptuous, i know i am an ultra-newbie here.
but, i see a lot of threads on jwn that read something like, "what is your dog's name" or "where's your favorite vacation spot", "what's your special name for your spouse", etc.
i give the opening posters of these threads the benefit of the doubt that they are creating them simply for entertainment purposes.
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joyfulfader
i wondered the same thing on another thread and was told that those who are concerned about being found out should limit their personal info so as not to be outed by an over zealous pitbull elder. dont know how that would work since they would have to admit being here themselves and then PROVE it but apparently it has happened to some.
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The "Pop-In"
by Mr. Falcon inso last night the wife is working, the kids are getting ready for bed and i'm watching futurama.
doorbell rings.
now it's dark, snowing and i live on a back road, so it's very odd to have a visitor.
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joyfulfader
i have also posted large no trespassing signs along with my neighbors. live way off the beaten path. i have also made ot known that unwanted visitors will be charged.
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joyfulfader
i dated a bit. nothing crazy. i am way more boring out of the cult. a former bf told me that i am finally vanilla instead of rocky road. no drama without religion. religion caused 99% of all angst in my life. no more meds. no more depression. no more wacky crazy situations akin to a soap opera. nothing. i love my life now for a change and feel true inner peace. i have a wonderful boyfriend and have an amazing, guilt free sex life. and i am able to devote more time to actually HELPING others instead of peddling books.
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The "Pop-In"
by Mr. Falcon inso last night the wife is working, the kids are getting ready for bed and i'm watching futurama.
doorbell rings.
now it's dark, snowing and i live on a back road, so it's very odd to have a visitor.
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joyfulfader
i also have the benefit of most people being intimidated by me so no regular publisher will pop in. they know better lol
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The "Pop-In"
by Mr. Falcon inso last night the wife is working, the kids are getting ready for bed and i'm watching futurama.
doorbell rings.
now it's dark, snowing and i live on a back road, so it's very odd to have a visitor.
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joyfulfader
i have only had one pop in. they wanted to know when i was coming back. i was honest and said never. then i got the line "you KNOW this is the truth". i said i'm not too sure about that one. then i got the "you dont want u and your kids to die at armageddon do u?" I said i dont think we will. any god that would destroy billions of people is not a god i want to worship and if the people in the new world are as loving as the witnesses i have known then i would rather my family die than be stuck with them for eternity.
i pushed the envelope to be sure but nothing else has come of it. plus i have the added benefit of not caring if something does.
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i got to say "i'm not interested"
by joyfulfader in2 sisters came to the door and since i dont live in the territory they dont know me and i got to say "i'm not interested" for the first time :).
it felt awesome.
didnt have a chance to engage in conversation as i was quite busy but it was a nice first for me..
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joyfulfader
I could NOT stomach a bible study. The thought of it makes me nauseous...