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  My brother died yesterday

  by satinka in

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  "albert" was 55 years old, and the fifth-born of seven children.

  i am the second oldest and babysat him often while he was growing up --- and while i was still at home.. yesterday, albert was out taking his usual morning stroll around his small town, when he collapsed on the sidewalk.

  the doctors said it was a heart attack.

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  joyfulfader

  I am truly sorry for your loss Satinka.
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  Quite an interesting first meeting with my Therapist.

  by truthseekeriam in

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  the moment i mentioned jehovah's witnesses he headed over to his file cabinet and handed me this print out.. .

  dear beloved one, .

  i see your loneliness and fears.

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  I agree...red flags regardless of his opinions on the cult. He still has a religious agenda of sorts. My therapist waited 8 long years of knowing it was a cult to let me realize it myself and I couldn't be more thankful. To hit a patient like that off the bat is not appropriate in my opinion.
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  I'm curious, when you were asked to do a demo for a Service Meeting part, how did the request make you feel?

  by Stand for Pure Worship in

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  did you decline out of fear?

  decline because you hated doing demos?

  accept the request graciously?

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  Never bothered me. I could always bullshit my way through anything :)
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  Ever consider joining The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints?

  by rawe in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  has anyone here left jehovah's witnesses to join the churuch of jesus christ of latter-day saints?

  what was your motivation for doing so and how has it worked out?.

  if you haven't joined the lds or considered it, as an ex-jw, what is your general view of the lds faith?.

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  I was contacted on Match.com by a guy who is Mormon. That was a quick and big no way. It's a cult just like the witnesses. Their beliefs are a bit odd. I have chosen to stay out of religion all together.
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  For a Jehovah's Witness, which causes more problems: a decorated tree, or a decorated woman?

  by I_love_Jeff in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  let's say that a brother, joe, is walking to kingdom hall and he passes a store display featuring a christmas tree.

  "wretched pagans!

  " he mutters to himself.

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  joyfulfader

  I do still look the same lol...better now I think, since I don't have to fake smiling.

  I don't mind my experience being told. It is ridiculous. If it helps show the sexism in the org by all means.

  Another time I was in a turtleneck long sleeved dress giving a demo on the service meeting and was pulled aside afterward and told to stop looking good on stage because the brothers were focusing on my appearance as opposed to the information. I was shocked as I was not showing a bit of skin. None. Was mid calf length as well.

  As FlyingHighNow says, they don't have to worry about that anymore. These pretty trees have left the building.
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  For a Jehovah's Witness, which causes more problems: a decorated tree, or a decorated woman?

  by I_love_Jeff in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  let's say that a brother, joe, is walking to kingdom hall and he passes a store display featuring a christmas tree.

  "wretched pagans!

  " he mutters to himself.

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  joyfulfader

  From experience it is the woman. I was told I had to get married by the elders since I was "a serious distraction" and "too attractive" to the brothers in the congregation to remain single. Apparently getting married was going to change my appearance. Ridiculous. One of the plethora of reasons I am out :)

  The pagan tree apparently presents less of a problem lol
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  Have I really left?

  by KateWild in

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  it was a meeting night last night.

  i didn't go nor did i stay on jwn instead.

  nugget gave me her time.

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  It is definitely a process. I have successfully been faded for 26 months. I don't post here very often but I do come here to keep up with the latest goings on since my parents are still in though they have really relaxed their stance now that all of their children have left. There is a new kh that I pass daily and I find that I don't even ever look at it or notice it even exists anymore. I am house hunting and have to say that since I went out in service in the areas where I am looking I have a better feel of the neighborhoods so that I count that as a plus.

  I don't know if the effects of the cult will ever go away completely but I truly feel good about my life for the first time. Celebrating holidays feels natural even though I was a born in.

  I have enjoyed reading your posts and you have been very strong. I have had to be a strong woman and in the org they don't like strong women. You will make it one day at a time. Each day that passes is one more day of the rest of your life which will be a new adventure. When I am going through a difficult time in my life I just say to myself, "one year from today things will be entirely different and I have the power to shape that outcome". I am always right even if something new has popped up.

  Hang in there girl :)
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  24 hour field service marathon ??

  by gingerbread in

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  field service for up to twenty-four hours non-stop.... it's a bit of a fad in our area with pioneers - the twenty somethings especially.

  we've heard from other family members and a jw friend that it's a thing in their part of the country as well.. it sounds like a group decides on a day and then piles into a van or suv to 'work' the territory - 12, 18 and even 24 hours.. anyone else hearing of this?.

  ginger.

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  I remember the other 20 something's in the 90's going out all night stopping at the rest areas on 95 in MD and DE...maybe even further. I never had the gumption to do so although I was a pioneer at the time and those 90 hrs per month were a killer.
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  I just couldn't do it...

  by joyfulfader in

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  i have recently become friends with some women who belong to a church in my area.

  they are fun, great women.

  one of them used to be a witness actually but it has been many years.

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  Ah yes Billy. Brunch. That means mimosas before noon are acceptable
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  I just couldn't do it...

  by joyfulfader in

  1. jw
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  i have recently become friends with some women who belong to a church in my area.

  they are fun, great women.

  one of them used to be a witness actually but it has been many years.

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  joyfulfader

  I know absolutely nothing about the Unitarian church. I suppose my thread was mainly to point out that even with all the so called belief and faith I had supposedly acquired as a witness, here I am extremely happy and comfortable being out but have no faith. It was all a mirage...a fantasy...a mind game to keep me in submission. I am in no way trying to say that others don't have their strong faith and if that is how they believe I think it is great for them. I have just found more angst and less answers the more I search for God and more peace living without him in my life. Perhaps D-D is correct. Maybe I am still tainted by the cult. I dont feel any control anymore but perhaps it is still there where I can't see it...