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  Survey: How long were you in the cult vs what year you were baptized

  by ILoveTTATT2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi people,.

  i want as much data as possible on the effect of the internet on the time captured by the cult.. please answer the three following questions about yourself or about someone you know (for example, if your parents or grandparents were jw's and left).

  1) were you raised as a jw, or did you convert?.

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  joyfulfader

  1) Raised

  2) baptized in 1988 at 16 (because i thought i had no option)

  3) 2011 (August 2011 was last meeting. never went back after a couple of years of serious doubt)

  23 years baptized but whole life until 39 trapped. 4 years of amazing freedom!

  My exit was 99% due to what i saw and experienced over the years as opposed to the internet sparking it. Once i was out, the internet solidified my choice and continues to help in the evolution of my beliefs. Had i the guts years ago to search the internet i may have left much sooner.
  
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  G.B. & J.W.'s Becoming Clap-Happy

  by The Searcher in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  at the regional convention (national!!

  ) for scotland, mark sanderson elicited 13 rounds of applause during his closing talk, (for the least little things!

  ) plus a final one for his closing prayer!

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  I remember my last convention 2011...I was "waking up" and an experience was given by a young man who decided to up and quit his job to pioneer. When asked how he supported himself one of the main ways he mentioned was relying on the "generosity of the friends". I remember getting this bewildered look on my face as witnesses around me applauded furiously. I felt ill and embarrassed that such a thing was being applauded!! I sat there looking at those around me incredulously murmuring "Seriously????" I don't think I applauded ever again. It was just another nail in the coffin. Applause for using others. Ridiculous.
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  Girls if you're internet dating and want an idea for a good profile this one got me 137 messages in less than 24hours

  by KateWild in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi there guys,yes i do like having fun.

  i am am very fun loving and can have fun everyday if you like.i am retired now i have 16 kids to 16 different dads.

  i live alone as the youngest one who is 16 has just had a baby and has her own place two doors from me.

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  POF creeped me out although my friend met her husband of that site. I have tried other online dating services but just don't like that method. It's fun for a while with all of the attention but then it gets overwhelming for me. I did date a nice guy for several months but distance and his weird schedule were a problem. I don't know if I could stand to read the responses to your fake ad Kate lol
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  Fun at The WT This Morning

  by OneFingerSalute in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so ofs was at the wt this morning, and on par.

  14 the question was, "what trust can a faithful christian whose relative is disfellowshipped have?".

  after awhile when no one else raised their hands ofs did, and was called on.. ofs commented, "one of jw can have the trust that god will lovingly give them the ability to uphold the disfellowshipping arrangement by totally shunning family members.".

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  That was great!!
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  What are you up to this summer?

  by Xanthippe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i really enjoy hearing about other people's lives.

  feeling a little lonely this evening so please tell me if you have plans for the summer months.

  i may go to some outdoor theatre with my daughter who's home from uni; with a picnic and a bottle of wine.

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  Sounds like everyone has some great plans!! Anniversaries, vacations, time with family...love it!! So wish I could make it to Lake Tahoe!

  LisaRose- I hope nothing weird happens during your visit to Eureka! Sheriff Carter will take care of it and perhaps Zane can provide some eye candy lol (a reference to one of my favorite shows)

  Mine started with an island adventure in the Caribbean. My birthday is next month and my daughter turns 18 this summer. She is going on a Young Life retreat next month and she is so looking forward to it! She is on a spiritual quest. :)

  And best of all I am doing a fitness transformation boot camp for 6 weeks. Scared but super excited!! All of this in addition to a trip back home for my nephew's birthday and my sister's wedding shower (she is getting married late summer) and a 24 credit course load while working full time :)

  I think this summer will fly but I am so excited about it all!!!

  Can anyone please send rain to NC?? My lawn and plants are crispy :(
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  Govening Body and JWN

  by John Aquila in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  do you think any members of the governing body visit this site-jwn regularly?.

  how about the heavies in the organization, like the writers, lawyers, and other who work at headquarters?.

  for all we know john aquila could be a member of the gb..

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  I wonder what the turnover is for those that monitor the "apostate" sites. I can't imagine any one of them could remain exposed to reality for very long and not come to their senses and leave.
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  19 and Counting Pedophile Church Coverup, their just like the Watchtower! "Real Time" Pedophile Scandal!"

  by PhilsWager2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  http://www.ew.com/article/2015/05/21/people-duggar-family-speaks-after-josh-duggar-accused-molestation.

  have you read about this freak who molested his family, the parents, church and a police officer covered up this scandal because of all the money!.

  "posted may 21 2015 6:51 pm edt.

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  I figured something like this was inevitable with their ultra conservative views on dating and affection. Those kids had no chance at a normal, positive view of sexuality. The repression I am sure is overwhelming. It's not an excuse for heinous behavior but it seems like the logical progression from being raised by Christian zealots. Sadly, I am sure this is only the first of many scandals to come as these young people strike out on their own.
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  A Burger and a Hook-up

  by John Aquila in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i went to get a burger just now, and a couple of elders from my former congregation caught me off guard.

  they started giving me the we feel so sorry for you, you must be so lonely bit.

  i kept telling them im doing great and im not lonely but its like they couldnt hear me talking.

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  Sorry, I read how women in their 30's with kids are perceived as a burden. Not always true. Had to have a mini rant!
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  A Burger and a Hook-up

  by John Aquila in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i went to get a burger just now, and a couple of elders from my former congregation caught me off guard.

  they started giving me the we feel so sorry for you, you must be so lonely bit.

  i kept telling them im doing great and im not lonely but its like they couldnt hear me talking.

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  joyfulfader

  Just hold on a second...I was still in while in my thirties, attractive, widowed with a child and had a well paying job, beautiful house and I was constantly avoiding "brothers" who wanted me for what I had. I was also pioneering for a while. I was always being set up with somebody somewhere. I was and am very independent and successful. I was mentally awake at 37 and totally out by 39. I am 42 now. I think it is unfair to stereotype since I ran into more mooching, loser single brothers to last a lifetime. Just because someone is a man does not make them the responsible party and the woman and her child(ren) the dependent losers even in the messed up world of JWs.
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  August 2015 WT - Let's Review the BS Children

  by InjusticeSystem in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  found these gems in this edition:.

  - keep in expectation!- prepare now for life in the new worldthe passing of time should not cause us to lose hope thatkingdom blessings will be realized.

  there are solid reasonsto keep our scriptural expectations alive.

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  I found this quote disturbing...living as a JW is definitely living under duress!!

  "It is not a matter of servitude under duress just so that we can pass through the great tribulation. It is the way we are designed to live, the way that yields the greatest joy."

  I can't possibly read anymore. This is probably the second or third time I have ever visited JW.org and the nonsense is just too overwhelming for my logical thinking process...