Posts by teenyuck

I need some advice. Please!!! I have been dating this guy for 3 years. Of those 3 years, he has cheated on me many many times, but I can only prove some. He has cheated on me with the mother of his child, and even young girls that his friends dated that used to come over and hang out with us. He even was hitting me at that time. He even gave me black eyes. It wasn't pretty. Well, things have been going good for the past 6 months, but I still dwell over what he did to me, and I am having a hard time getting over it. A really really hard time. I would dump him, but he has come such a long ways from what he used to be. He is really sweet and sensitive now. But the thing is, how long will this actually last? Every time he hangs out with his new friends and their girlfriends, I feel threatened. Not because I am ugly or anything, but because he has done it sooo much. And he has always cheated on me with people of way lower standards than me. Why do guys do that? The least they can do is find someone better looking to cheat on me with. What should I do? I really love him and want it to last with him, but am I fooling myself? Are there ways to get past the past? Help!!!

Robdar, u r right, I did love him when he was hurting me, and u r right, I don't love him as much now. I moved away with him, away from my family, and am attending my 4th year of college over the internet. I also am not employed right at this moment which is why I have a lot of time on my hands to think. I also miss my family a lot, and have also got closer to God. My eyes are slowly, but surely, opening up. I just wish that I could get out of the denial stage. I know I got a lot going for me, I even got opted to model. But none of that matters to me. I want a honest boyfriend so bad whom I don't have to worry about while finishing college, one I can have children with, and one I can grow old with and be worry free. I have never loved anyone like I have my boyfriend and that scares me. I don't know if I could love anyone as much as I love him. Everytime I tried to leave him, I would just look at his sad face and then I couldn't do it. Is there even a possibility that he CAN change? At all?

Then on this thread: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/45681/643766/post.ashx#643766

Is anyone out there living with in-laws? Or just living with your significant other's parents? Well, I am living with my boyfriends father...who is gay. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gays; I actually have a few gay friends. Anyways, his father is always saying things to get at me and piss me off. Everyone keeps telling me to just ignore it, but it is very hard to when he does it 24-7. In the last month, we have gotten into a couple of big fights. Well, the other day, I woke up at 6:30 am to make my boyfriends lunch for him for the day when he is at work. His father started in on me about my drinking and driving. I used to be a real party animal, then a drank and drove and ran my car into a telephone poll, and I am lucky I am alive. Since then, I have turned my life over to God and havent' had a drink in a very very long time. And I feel A LOT better now. But anyways, I told his dad to please quit b/c I wasn't in the mood (not at 6:30 in the morning). He then kept going so I told my boyfriend that me and his father can't live together and this is the reason we need to find our own place. We are just getting on our feet, that is why we are living with his father. Rent runs REAL HIGH!! Anyways, his dad took it in a mean way, which I didn't mean it in a mean way, and walked off and called me a bitch. I then followed him and asked him what he called me. He then got up in my face and was ready to hit me and yelled "bitch!" Then he started going off telling me that I didn't respect him and then started calling me all the bad names girls are called. He even then tried telling my boyfriend that I was staring at guys' dicks (through their pants) when they came over!! Crazy, huh? For the rest of the day he kept trying to yell at me, but I just ignored him. He even told me that I was no saint so I shouldn't act like that. I'm just trying to get better. Lastly, I go to school over the internet, and I had a law test that day due by 1pm, and he shut the phone lines off. That was the last straw. He calls me childish, but look what he is doing and he is 50!! My boyfriend is stuck in the middle, but I don't want to be near his dad or have anything to do with him. How can I do this without hurting my boyfriend? Am I to blame too? (Sorry this is soo long I just need some good advice)

Then there is this: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/49111/696327/post.ashx#696327

Can somebody please help me with my problem? I have this boyfriend, who is on probation for drugs and kicking the crap out of one of his friends. He drug me down to KC with him & during that time my car broke down and so I have been sitting at his gay fathers house for 8 months without a car & job. I am jsut going to school online. Well, all my car needs is a transmission and my boyfriend hasn't even helped me. But when his car broke down, he goes out and buys a new camero. What about me? am I being selfish? I have been sittin around for 8 months without nothing just for him. He's the one who is suppose to be in trouble, not me, so why do I have to pay for it? It seems as though the evil people are the ones who get everything. My boyfriend was a drug dealer, he physically abused me, and I seem to be the one paying for it? I'm not jealous of his car, but I feel like he doesn't care about my needs. A person can only sit in a house so long before they go crazy! Any thoughts on this?

So, my take on it is this: You are in an abusive relationship with a drug dealer, living with his abusive father. You, for some reason, want a child with a man who abuses you and cannot and will not support or help you. From your first posting I quoted, you said he has a child and he cheated on you with the mother of that child. Why in the name of Jehovah do you want a child with a drug dealing whacko? You want advice? Go to a womans shelter for battered and abused women. Find out why you are putting up with this type of abuse and why your self-esteem is so low that you are willing to be be beaten by this ~~person~~ low life. You don't love him. For some reason, you love being abused. Find out why from a therapist. Please, do it for your sake and for any children you might have. They will thank you.

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WOW, my first real birthday since I was baptized at 29....

by berylblue in

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tomorrow, august 12

does that make me 30?

a little birthday story....

teenyuck

Happy Birthday Rosemarie!!!!!

Visit Smiley Central!

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Girl or Boy? Yes, we are Pregnant!

by YoursChelbie in

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ok, here's the recent unfolding of events: first we got engaged:.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/27/51234/1.ashx.

that's gopher (jeff) on the left and .

teenyuck

Congratulations!!!!

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What kind of fairy are you? * Fluff Alert *

by Elsewhere in

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what kind of male faerie are you?

take the male faerie quiz.

what kind of female faerie are you?

teenyuck

Dracs

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Sex??

by StinkyPantz in

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the forum is moving rather slowly so i figured i'd spice it up a little.

so i'd like you to give any random thoughts you have pertaining to the topic

here's my contribution: an intellectual is a person who has discovered something more interesting than sex.

teenyuck

So I'd like you to give any random thoughts you have pertaining to the topic.

Often

Anywhere

Only with my husband, however....

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Can a Man Cheat on his Wife with Himself? AsK Prudence.....

by teenyuck in

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you want fluff, i deliver...... this was in today's newspaper...... the writer is ann landers daughter.

she has her own column called dear prudence.

dear pru,.

teenyuck

And now Prudie deals with the wife who has been putting out 2-3 times a week and he still finds someone else:

Dear Prudence, After more than 40 years of marriage, I discovered that for at least the past seven years, my husband's been having an affair with a woman he's known for 25 years. But this is way more than an affair; it's a long-term, serious relationship. When I finally caught on (it took me four years—what a dummy I am), his response was, and continues to be, "I'm in love with this person and will not run out on her." And he cites as the reason for the affair my lack of sexual interest in him, albeit that for all this time, we've had sex two to three times a week. Because he's in love with us both, he wants me to accept the situation. As he puts it, his relationship is with her and has nothing to do with me. He sees her just about every day, but because he returns home at night, he cannot understand why it's an issue. He says it's not his fault he's in love with two women at the same time. Our two adult children think the whole thing is so bizarre that they want to sign us up for the Jerry Springer Show. Financially it would be difficult for either of us to set up separate households, but she has a home, and he could move in with her. Why won't he do the right thing and leave? Most important, why do I continue to tolerate an intolerable situation? Who's the real wacko here???

Dear Mrs.,
He won't "do the right thing and leave" because you have not insisted. The reason you continue to tolerate this situation probably has to do with fear, both financial and social, and maybe even habit. Your husband is talking rings around you, my dear, which Prudie finds simply outrageous. He is not a sultan, and you are not part of a harem. Not to mention the unmitigated gall of this man to give you his numskull "reasons": The affair has nothing to do with you; it's not his fault if he loves two women; it happened because you're not amorous enough; he doesn't know why it's an issue. It is likely that most women, told to ignore an extracurricular romance—spanning a quarter of a century, yet—would break every piece of crockery in the house … over his head. Forget Jerry Springer, unless that happens to be the name of a good divorce lawyer in your town. After 40 years you are entitled to everything you can get, monetarily, and if he has to go live with his "friend," well … tell him you can't understand why it's an issue.

—Prudie, sputteringly

I am beginning to like Prudie....

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Can a Man Cheat on his Wife with Himself? AsK Prudence.....

by teenyuck in

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you want fluff, i deliver...... this was in today's newspaper...... the writer is ann landers daughter.

she has her own column called dear prudence.

dear pru,.

teenyuck

Only if his left hand is willing to talk to the Judicial Committee.

ROTFL!!!

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Can a Man Cheat on his Wife with Himself? AsK Prudence.....

by teenyuck in

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friends

you want fluff, i deliver...... this was in today's newspaper...... the writer is ann landers daughter.

she has her own column called dear prudence.

dear pru,.

teenyuck

I laughed out loud when I read this, in this morning...I tried to read it to my husband and gave up. He wasn't seeing the humor!

The poor man....just wants a little nooky and all he gets is the wife beating on the bathroom door. Hopefully he has a long commute to work...

She is actually jealous of his hand. Oiy!!!

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Can a Man Cheat on his Wife with Himself? AsK Prudence.....

by teenyuck in

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friends

you want fluff, i deliver...... this was in today's newspaper...... the writer is ann landers daughter.

she has her own column called dear prudence.

dear pru,.

teenyuck

You want Fluff, I deliver.....

This was in today's newspaper.....

The writer is Ann Landers daughter. She has her own column called Dear Prudence.

Dear Pru,My husband and I have been married for eight years and have a young family. He is a wonderful husband and father. We both have stressful jobs, but he is very active in helping to raise our two children (3 and 1). I am seven months pregnant, which doesn't leave "us" a lot of free time. So in the last year or so, our sexual relationship has been OK, but not what it once was.

We are a religious family, which means we abstain from pornography and even R-rated movies. We also believe that "self-gratification" is a no-no. My husband has always had a fairly strong appetite (time permitting, two or three times a day wouldn't be too much for him). As you can imagine, three babies in four years has definitely taken a toll on my time and energy so that keeping up with him is not as easy as it once was. I thought I was still fairly active, but I think that my husband's thirst isn't being quenched. I have not exactly caught him red-handed, but I woke up one night to find him fondling himself. He's also spending a lot more time in the bathroom with the door locked. I'm trying to rationalize it, calling his needs natural, realizing that he has a stressful job and maybe it's a good tension reliever for him. The bottom line, though, is that I feel he is being hypocritical about the morals we believe in (i.e., we all need to control our appetites to make us better people). I also feel he is cheating on our marriage, just as if he was with another woman. I love him so much that I want his needs to be satisfied, but I want to be the one to satisfy them. What do I do?

—Jealous Wife

Dear Jel,
If you want to be the one to satisfy him every time he, uh, has needs, just make yourself available two to three times a day, simply ignoring your pregnancy, your job, the two kids, and whatever else makes up your day. Self-gratification, you should know, is in no way cheating and is certainly not analogous to being with another woman. Your concerns are not all that unusual, but the wild card in your situation is the religious angle. Prudie does not wish to tangle with your pastor—or anyone else's—but regarding self-gratification as sinful is a benighted idea. It is an entirely normal thing to do. (And for whatever it's worth, no one's sex life is what it once was.)

So, my question to you, fair reader, can a man cheat on his wife, with himself? And is the *happy* couple JW?