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  Move on.

  by MsGrowingGirl20 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  after living a life where individualism and almost everything else is wrong, you kinda go crazy with excitement when you finally can be yourself.

  i guess that's why i started to run crazy with ideas and had such a burning desire to change myself and to find myself and to figure out who i was and now who i should be.

  i wanted to be in stark contrast to the org.

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  Tylinbrando

  Throughout history small bands of dissenters have gathered together to affect change. We are writing a page in history day by day. The enemy is aware. The enemy is afraid. Before this tale has been told in its extreme, the enemy has already fallen. Rise up. Embrace destiny. Take what is belonging to us. Victory.
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  Silly TV Programs From The 1960s to the 1970s

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  mcmillan & wife with rock hudson is what i just saw on tv.

  watching rock hudson kiss his wife while smoking a cigarette is pretty funny.

  and he solved a murder case as he lit up another cigarette at some wealthy person's party.....good stuff!.

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  In the fifth grade I somehow got mononucleosis and missed 8 weeks of school. Watched Bonanza and Kung Fu every day. One of my fondest memories.
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  Do You TRUST The Police, The Government, People In General?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i think most people lie.

  some more than others.. we are taught, as children to trust the police, the authorities, our teachers, the clergy, our doctors, etc.. do you easily trust and believe in people?.

  i don't, but i do try to look at the good in people..

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  I trust the detective that captured my daughters molester and I trust the DA that has kept that POS in jail.
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  Was Jonathan Holt baptized or not!!

  by DATA-DOG in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i got into a discussion with a family member about this subject recently.

  they brought it up, mentioning the young woman who was murdered, saying that she was a jw.

  i said, " so was her murderer.

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  Jonathan Holt was an active baptized publisher in the congregation. He did not attend meetings regularly however he was trusted enough by the Heichels to house sit while they were away.

  Trial will certainly shed light on details about the connection to Whitney and both of their involvement in their congregation.
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  Being a jw almost killed

  by moley in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is the first time i've commented on this site, but i do enjoy to come here just to help clarify myself in times of need, ie when those wretched teachings resurface.

  a bit about myself.. i was born in 1970 into the wonderful happy organisation (lol) and had a unremarkable childhood or so i thought (apart from being abused by an ms), all i can remember is being terrified of dying at armageddon.

  attending 5 meetings a week and being used to preach as people wont shout at a child, studying the literature, not being able to watch popular tv shows, no xmas, birthdays the usual shit.. fast forward to age 16 and i fell in love with a worldly girl (the horror) and got her pregnant, my parents were devasted talking all the time how people in the borg would view them, nothing about what i was going thru, 16 and becoming a father, quite a big thing to me.

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  Welcome! Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like you have landed on your feet. Best wishes to you and your loved ones.
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  Apostate Symposium 2013 San Diego District Convention

  by problemaddict in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  sorry i did not get audio.

  too much going on around me that would give me away anyways.

  i think someone posted audio, but it is different from what i heard on some levels.

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  Tylinbrando

  How about a sign that asks, "Do you know TTATT?"

  or "Candace Conti vs. Jehovah's Witnesses" or

  "Are you being controlled? B.I.T.E. Behavior, information, thought, emotion."

  or

  "Abused by Watchtower? Shunning, pedophilia, domestic violence, no blood.

  I don't think doctrinal stuff will ever work for picketers. It has to be something that catches attention and compels research.
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  B I T E Model for kids?

  by Tylinbrando in

  1. social
  2. family

  had a little family study at the dinner table with my 10 & 12 year old sons.

  we discussed control tactics that some people use upon others.

  we specifically used the b i t e model.

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  Mind Control – The BITE Model

  From chapter two of Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs (FOM Press 2012) formerlyReleasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves* © 2000 by Steven Hassan; published by Freedom of Mind Press, Newton MA

  Destructive mind control can be understood in terms of four basic components, which form the acronym BITE:

  I.	Behavior Control
  II.	Information Control
  III.	Thought Control
  IV.	Emotional Control

  It is important to understand that destructive mind
  control can be determined when the overall effect of these four
  components promotes dependency and obedience to some leader or cause.
  It is not necessary for every single item on the list to be present.
  Mind controlled cult members can live in their own apartments, have
  nine-to-five jobs, be married with children, and still be unable
  to think for themselves and act independently.

  Behavior Control

  1. Regulation of individual’s physical reality

  a. Where, how and with whom the member lives and associates with

  b. What clothes, colors, hairstyles the person wears

  c. What food the person eats, drinks, adopts, and rejects

  d. How much sleep the person is able to have

  e. Financial dependence

  f. Little or no time spent on leisure, entertainment, vacations

  2. Major time commitment required for indoctrination sessions and
  group rituals

  3. Need to ask permission for major decisions

  4. Need to report thoughts, feelings and activities to superiors

  5. Rewards and punishments (behavior modification techniques- positive
  and negative).

  6. Individualism discouraged; group think prevails

  7. Rigid rules and regulations

  8. Need for obedience and dependency

  Information Control

  1. Use of deception

  a. Deliberately holding back information

  b. Distorting information to make it acceptable

  c. Outright lying

  2. Access to non-cult sources of information minimized or discouraged

  a. Books, articles, newspapers, magazines, TV, radio

  b. Critical information

  c. Former members

  d. Keep members so busy they don’t have time to think

  3. Compartmentalization of information; Outsider vs. Insider doctrines

  a. Information is not freely accessible

  b. Information varies at different levels and missions within
  pyramid

  c. Leadership decides who “needs to know” what

  4. Spying on other members is encouraged

  a. Pairing up with “buddy” system to monitor and control

  b. Reporting deviant thoughts, feelings, and actions to leadership

  5. Extensive use of cult generated information and propaganda

  a. Newsletters, magazines, journals, audio tapes, videotapes,
  etc.

  b. Misquotations, statements taken out of context from non-cult
  sources

  6. Unethical use of confession

  a. Information about “sins” used to abolish identity
  boundaries

  b. Past “sins” used to manipulate and control; no forgiveness
  or absolution

  Thought Control

  1. Need to internalize the group’s doctrine as “Truth”

  a. Map = Reality

  b. Black and White thinking

  c. Good vs. evil

  d. Us vs. them (inside vs. outside)

  2. Adopt “loaded” language (characterized by “thought-terminating
  clichés”). Words are the tools we use to think with.
  These “special” words constrict rather than expand understanding.
  They function to reduce complexities of experience into trite, platitudinous
  “buzz words”.

  3. Only “good” and “proper” thoughts are encouraged.

  4. Thought-stopping techniques (to shut down “reality testing”
  by stopping “negative” thoughts and allowing only “good”
  thoughts); rejection of rational analysis, critical thinking, constructive
  criticism.

  a. Denial, rationalization, justification, wishful thinking

  b. Chanting

  c. Meditating

  d. Praying

  e. Speaking in “tongues”

  f. Singing or humming

  5. No critical questions about leader, doctrine, or policy seen
  as legitimate

  6. No alternative belief systems viewed as legitimate, good, or
  useful

  Emotional Control

  1. Manipulate and narrow the range of a person’s feelings.

  2. Make the person feel like if there are ever any problems it
  is always their fault, never the leader’s or the group’s.

  3. Feeling-stopping (with number 4, Excessive use of guilt). Like thought-stopping, this is the automatic suppression or blocking of feelings that are not acceptable by the cult identity- such as feeling \”homesick\” or feeling \”depressed\” or feeling \”resentful\”.

  4. Excessive use of guilt

  a. Identity guilt

  1. Who you are (not living up to your potential)

  2. Your family

  3. Your past

  4. Your affiliations

  5. Your thoughts, feelings, actions

  b. Social guilt

  c. Historical guilt

  5. Excessive use of fear

  a. Fear of thinking independently

  b. Fear of the “outside” world

  c. Fear of enemies

  d. Fear of losing one’s “salvation”

  e. Fear of leaving the group or being shunned by group

  f. Fear of disapproval

  6. Extremes of emotional highs and lows.

  7. Ritual and often public confession of “sins”.

  8. Phobia indoctrination : programming of irrational fears of ever
  leaving the group or even questioning the leader’s authority. The
  person under mind control cannot visualize a positive, fulfilled
  future without being in the group.

  a. No happiness or fulfillment “outside”of the group

  b. Terrible consequences will take place if you leave: “hell”; “demon possession”; “incurable diseases”; “accidents”; “suicide”; “insanity”; “10,000 reincarnations”; etc.

  c. Shunning of leave takers. Fear of being rejected by friends, peers, and family.
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  B I T E Model for kids?

  by Tylinbrando in

  1. social
  2. family

  had a little family study at the dinner table with my 10 & 12 year old sons.

  we discussed control tactics that some people use upon others.

  we specifically used the b i t e model.

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  Had a little family study at the dinner table with my 10 & 12 year old sons. We discussed control tactics that some people use upon others. We specifically used the B I T E model. I reviewed some of the issues they have been struggling with (they spend half their time with JW mom) and asked them to tell me which category they fell under; behavior control, information control, thinking control or emotional control. Anyway they nailed it and they know BITE by heart. I think that's a great touchstone for critical thinking.
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  When you left JW, how did you help transition your kids?

  by merfi in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my situation: i da'd this past march.

  the ex is still jw, in a city nice and far away so isn't able to give me any local grief.

  i have three kiddos, 8, 10 and 12. the 8yo (boy) could really give a crap, i think.

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  If you were raised in a home with a JW parent and a non-JW parent: a few questions

  by Lady Lee in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  if you were raised in a home with a jw parent and a non-jw parent: a few questions.. i am going to be addressing the international cultic studies association (icsa) in july at the conference in montreal.

  my focus is on 3 groups.

  the third group consists of people people who grew up in homes where one parent was a jw and the other wasn't.

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