Posts by radiolady

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Witness teens /mental health probs in future?

by termite 35 in

there was a very interesting programme on radio4 this afternoon-dealing with teenagers and their possible problems.. i feel that many witness teens maybe heading for mental health problems due to the issues raised today.. we all know that jw teens are encouraged by the society to follow the leadership of the org.regarding the problems they may face during this difficult time.. the society has made it seem as though it is facing these problems by producing books and magazine articles especially for teens; but how useful are they?.

apparently to grow a healthy teen you need many things.see if you think the points i remembered(there were many more)could explain mental health problems for witnesses in later life.... 1.it's not rebellion that makes a healthy teenager; the most sucessful ones question and are allowed to question.. 2.in doing this they 'find' their own wat in life and learn to be comfortable in their own skins.. 3.teenagers understand the world and how to survive in it by exploring it in their own way.. 4.telling a teen 'these are the rules you should follow' make for unhappy teens...and unheathy mental health.. 4..when parents realise that a teen is preprogrammed to need to discover who they are; they can stop taking it personally and remember that the teen has to find their own path for their own mental growth.. 5.stunting a teens natural tendancy to 'strike' out on their own actually harms their coping abilities in the future.. 6.teenagers who have not been allowed to follow their own thinking for a while end up not having enough self esteem to even start thinking about theses things.this is where the problems start.. they will lack the life coping skills that other sucessful teens have; they will be more prone to depression; self harm;mental illness and suicide.. .

self harm is a classic example of a teen who has'nt questioned and therefore has'nt learnt to cope on their own, mentally.the cutting satisfies and releases feeling that are incommunicable due to repression in those years.. so please; all you witness parents- just because your child want to question, don't think they are rebellious in a bad sense- if they do question it proves you have brought them up well so far.don't spoil their future mental well-being by stopping them on their last stage of growth in to adult mental health.. let them question and speak openly without fear of reproach from you;help to set them up for adult hood..

radiolady

Thanks Lisa! I had an interesting discussion with her this evening which resulted in her getting mad at me...but all in all...I believe she understands where I'm coming from. I have to come down hard on her for her own good. She is extremely sensitive. I know there is help, however, I'm afraid it will just be me getting the help...I can't seem to get her out of bed long enough to do anything. She did tell me that she would start looking for a job this week. I told her that she told me that last week and the week and month before. So, I'll keep you posted as to what happends at the beginning of next week...we shall see. I want to trust and believe in her, but this is getting old really fast. She needs her own place where she can have her privacy and we can have ours. My fiance' has been extremely patient with her but it is wearing thin and I cannot blame him. Either do something or get some help where someone can help you do something to help yourself...don't just sit there.

Thank you for letting me vent. (These three jobs are getting to me, but a change is on the horizon!...I'll keep you posted about that too!)

Tammy Morgan FM107 "Real Life, conversation

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Anyone from Minnesota?

by scootergirl in

looking for anyone from the st. cloud congregations (i was in the north one)...or surrounding areas.

oh heck, anyone from minnesota is fine!

radiolady

Thanks everyone! I'm not going to miss this next one even if I have to take off from work! I've only been to one Apostofest and when I missed this one I went through Apostate withdrawals!

Radiolady

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Witness teens /mental health probs in future?

by termite 35 in

there was a very interesting programme on radio4 this afternoon-dealing with teenagers and their possible problems.. i feel that many witness teens maybe heading for mental health problems due to the issues raised today.. we all know that jw teens are encouraged by the society to follow the leadership of the org.regarding the problems they may face during this difficult time.. the society has made it seem as though it is facing these problems by producing books and magazine articles especially for teens; but how useful are they?.

apparently to grow a healthy teen you need many things.see if you think the points i remembered(there were many more)could explain mental health problems for witnesses in later life.... 1.it's not rebellion that makes a healthy teenager; the most sucessful ones question and are allowed to question.. 2.in doing this they 'find' their own wat in life and learn to be comfortable in their own skins.. 3.teenagers understand the world and how to survive in it by exploring it in their own way.. 4.telling a teen 'these are the rules you should follow' make for unhappy teens...and unheathy mental health.. 4..when parents realise that a teen is preprogrammed to need to discover who they are; they can stop taking it personally and remember that the teen has to find their own path for their own mental growth.. 5.stunting a teens natural tendancy to 'strike' out on their own actually harms their coping abilities in the future.. 6.teenagers who have not been allowed to follow their own thinking for a while end up not having enough self esteem to even start thinking about theses things.this is where the problems start.. they will lack the life coping skills that other sucessful teens have; they will be more prone to depression; self harm;mental illness and suicide.. .

self harm is a classic example of a teen who has'nt questioned and therefore has'nt learnt to cope on their own, mentally.the cutting satisfies and releases feeling that are incommunicable due to repression in those years.. so please; all you witness parents- just because your child want to question, don't think they are rebellious in a bad sense- if they do question it proves you have brought them up well so far.don't spoil their future mental well-being by stopping them on their last stage of growth in to adult mental health.. let them question and speak openly without fear of reproach from you;help to set them up for adult hood..

radiolady

Just from personal experience, my daughter is having a hell of a time. She is now 22 and has a whole host of problems that I wish I could help her with. I know in my heart that it is due to her being raised from birth as a witness. She left with me at first when she was 12, but I stupidly let her go back with her dad who is now my ex-husband. He and his new wife pretty much forced her to attend meetings to which she absolutely hated. She was trained the same way I was when I came into "the truth" at 16...don't worry about getting schooling for a future job etc. She started out okay at first and then she lost her job, her new car, her apartment and she has Fibromyalgia...just like her mom. The thing is...I woke up, I have three jobs and am at least somewhat motivated. She, one the other hand is just not motivated. She now lives with me and I cannot get her to do anything...I cannot encourage her enough to find a job, get mental help or anything like that. I believe she is suffering from Bi-polar type symptoms. It's really hard after they become adults because you really cannot tell them what to do...I mean, you can tell them, but they just look at you and say they understand what you're talking about and then don't do a damn thing about it. I remember those days when I could not get motivated and I didn't have anyone to help me...I had to just pull myself up with every bit of strength that I had left in me and do it myself. I realize everyone is different and I don't fault my daughter at all for what she is going through. I'm just angry at the whole situation. I will say though that she manages to get up after sleeping all day and go dance at a club to try and make some money but she won't look for a regular job! Sheesh! My fiance' thinks that I need to practice tough love...I'm beginning to think that he is right.

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Anyone from Minnesota?

by scootergirl in

looking for anyone from the st. cloud congregations (i was in the north one)...or surrounding areas.

oh heck, anyone from minnesota is fine!

radiolady

Hello all...I figured I'd better weigh in right about now! I'm from Minnesota too and I live in Roseville right now. By now the Aposofest is surely over. Someone email me and let me know how much fun I missed...I had to work. Looks like I'll have to take off work for the next one. I couldn't this time since I just got this job...one of three. Am I crazy or just always broke!

Love you guys!

Tammy Morgan aka Radiolady

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Ebonics anyone?

by openminded in

jw
friends

i find myself interested in linguistics and especially ebonics and have discovered that despite the fact that i am a "whiteboy" i can "ebonicize" about anything(poem,song,letter,whatever).

so if you want/need anything translated into ebonics please give me the opportunity to do it for you.

i find myself interested in linguistics an' especially ebonics an' gots discovered dat despite da fact dat i be uh "whiteboy" i can "ebonicize" about anything(poem,song,letter,whatever).

radiolady

I'm not sure if you're serious or not, however I find this very offensive. I am Afrian American and we do not all speak EBONICS. As far as I'm concerned that is not even a word. It's a slap in the face to all African Americans. What makes you think that speaking this way has anything to do with the word Ebony. Which means Black, which means "All Black People must speak this way". I'm guessing you must be very young. I'm not trying to start a flame, however please re-think about what you posted.
Radiolady

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New to board, from Minnesota..here's my story.

by radiolady in

for those of you who have read this in someone elses thread, i apologize.

it was suggested i start my own thread so here is my story again for anyone who may have missed it.

i am currently from minnesota and live in st. paul (roseville), but the congregation that i went to was in the apple valley area.

radiolady

Thank you so much! Everyone! I haven't been on-line a whole lot lately but that will change soon hopefully. Robdar where are you? And what kind of radio are you doing? I'm curious!
Radiolady

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what would you do different????

by Richie in

jw
friends

suppose you never took the truth, what instead would you have done differently in your life???.

richie :*)

radiolady

I would have gone to college!!! During the time that I came in, they were so hung up on 1975, if you even LOOKED like you wanted to go to college you were branded as an "independant thinker" and "marked" and everything else they could think of to bestow upon your ass! These were the same elders who were supporting their families as engineers and architects. They already went to college and conveniently came into the "truth" AFTER they got their education. They spent their time looking down their noses at everyone else who dared to think they couldn't make a living working at McDonalds! All while trying to support a young family, because you know most of the people who might aspire to go to college were already married at the age of...like 17 or 18. This is a sore spot with me and it just chaps my ass!
Radiolady

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A twisted Irony and a question ......

by flower in

jw
friends

i know ya'll will probably get sick of seeing my name but i hope you understand why i am here so much.. anyway, one really ironic thing i was thinking about is that its amazing how much hate i had/have inside of me my whole life.

hate my father, my sister.

i have always been angry and hated people.

radiolady

Dear Flower;
I would love to email you but your email is restricted, please look up my profile and send me and email. I was really angry too, for a long time and at times still find myself gettin' "tuned up" whenever I really start thinking and remembering. And especially when it comes to my daughter and how my ex-husband treated and still treats her. (See my story under "new board member from Minnesota" in Personal Experiences). I was so angry the whole time in that organization that it made me clinically depressed and I ended up in the hospital three times a month at a time EACH TIME! Which of course they blamed on me and my thinking. I have found that anger and depression (which is anger turned inward), runs rampant in that organization. So, not only am I dealing with my own healing, my daughter is going through her own healing. Her father treats her like a non-entity, like she doesn't exist.
Radiolady

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New to board, from Minnesota..here's my story.

by radiolady in

for those of you who have read this in someone elses thread, i apologize.

it was suggested i start my own thread so here is my story again for anyone who may have missed it.

i am currently from minnesota and live in st. paul (roseville), but the congregation that i went to was in the apple valley area.

radiolady

As of this writing, my daughter has been pretty ill, but she's hanging in there. She lives alone and is not working and doesn't have a car. She's trying but she's in a lot of pain at times and it makes it hard for her to work. (That's really hard on me too, because I've been trying to help her as much as I can and I am totally tapped finacially). Her ELDER dad, treats her like she has the plague or something. He doesn't call her or come by and see her. She was never baptised but he treats her like she's disfellowshipped. I had to email him to tell him to please call his daughter. His wife called her today, interestingly enough. She now wears the pants in their family. My daughter refuses to have anything to do with the witnesses and I think that just bugs him so much that he can't even bring himself to talk to her. You would think that if you did indeed believe that it was "the truth" that you would be doing every thing in your power to make sure you were in constant communication with your child...since you wouldn't want to see her "loose her life" (as they put it). But that just goes to show you...he'd rather go door to door talking to strangers than put forth the effort into helping his daughter. She asked him if she could borrow his car while he was out of town (in Las Vegas), and he said he had to talk to his wife first, and then he called her back and said he couldn't do it. She desparately needed to go to her doctor who was two hours away. I let her use my car, which I wasn't even sure it would make it, and he has two cars, and wasn't even going to be in town to use either one of them! Sheesh!
Radiolady

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New to board, from Minnesota..here's my story.

by radiolady in

for those of you who have read this in someone elses thread, i apologize.

it was suggested i start my own thread so here is my story again for anyone who may have missed it.

i am currently from minnesota and live in st. paul (roseville), but the congregation that i went to was in the apple valley area.

radiolady

Thank you all so very much for the warm welcome! It's been tough, but I'm making it! I have more recently been doing voice work (commercials) and Property Management. I manage two different condominium associations. My illness does get me down sometimes, which is why I ended up having to leave my job as a producer about a year ago. This has proven to me what I can do and that as much as the witnesses would like us to belive that we aren't worth sh*t, we can prove otherwise. I look forward to hearing from each and every one of you!
radiolady