Sunny,
You are a real sister showing natural love for your sister.Never let anyone make you feel you should act differently.A truly loving God would never ask you to turn your back on her.
I've mentioned my experience in other threads but will do it again for you.
When my sister was disfellowshipped it devestated me!But trying to be a loyal witness I cut her off and would have nothing to do with her.
She was completly alone with no support system ,her life was a wreck!
She atempted suicide a few months later.Thankfully she survived.When the hospital asked her for the next of kin to contact she refused to give them my parents or me believing we didn't care.
We found out from a fellow work mate of hers that couldn't stand seeing her abandoned.
That was a turning point for me.I would never have forgiven myself if she had been successful.I knew this was not what God wants.
I've been there for her every since as you should for your sister.
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Prevalence of JW Suicides - Real or Imagined?
by AMNESIAN inin one or two recent threads i've seen reference to the possibility of a rising number of jw suicides being another of the organization's very dark realities about which it is vigilant in keeping concealed from its pub populace.
is there anyone reasonably informed regarding this?
is there reason to suppose the incidence ratio among jws is any higher than among any peoples/religion?
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Amnesian,
It's much more prevelant than we want to believe!
A sister, who was a frend of mine commited suicide.She had a husband and two young children.She was very depressed and had sexual abuse issues.
My only sister atempted suicide when all support systems and love were taken away from her when she was disfellowshipped.A couple of months ago my mother was so upset over me leaving the org.that she told me this "If I didn't know that Jehovah would hold me accountable I'd commit suicide,I know he promises not to put more on us than we can bare but I feel like I'm past that point now!"
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I was born and raised in Texas.
I've lived in several other states such as Arkansas,Missouri,and
Kentucky. Since I can't give away where I live now I'll just say I'm still a southern girl.Comf,
Your making me home sick with that photo of the "horny toad".They were one of my favorite critters when I was a kid.
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Waiting on Jehovah
by jayhawk1 inwhat i am about to say is very sad.
i would like some support over the next week.
august 24, my dad took his life.
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Jay
First let me say I'm so sorry for your loss.I can't say things any better than Ann did.I agree with her all the way.You were NOT the last straw nor was there any thing you could have done to change this.
I know this doesn't mean much now but time will pass and along with the passing of time some of the pain will go with it.It will get easier.What I want you to do is see that life is a gift. It's wonderful and we shouldn't give up on life or this world that we live in.My own sister tried to end her life because of the hoplessness she felt as a witness. I'm also afraid for my mother she's tired too but refuses to think for herself so I've acepted what may result.I'm glad you have chosen to think. You have potential for a very happy life with a mind free of this kind of bondage.Stay strong!
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Is there proof that............
by deceit inin the bible times, men 'could'/'did' shave their faces?.
the question comes from a conversation with my father (elder).
he says the reason why all men had beards was that they could not shave them because there wasnt anything sharp enough.. i am sure their swords were sharp enough alone to do it.. (he is very against people growing beards, i guess it pisses him off that i've got a goedee now hehe)
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I never could figure out what's so evil about facial hair!
It's regecting something very manly and natural.It so stupid!
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All that waisted Time!
by Ranchette ini can't tell you how many times while out in service i would have these disturbing feelings:"this is such a waist of time.
""we are just driving our life away from nh to nh!
" and"i'm acompolishing absolutly nothing!
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thanks for the replies everyone.
I've met some of the kindest,loving,unselfish people on the outside of the org.
I continue to find the world a much better place than I was taught.I'm a better person,mother and wife now because I'm not weighted down with more than is humanly possible.I had nothing left to give to those who ment the most to me before.I hope others have had this positive experience and I hope others see that witnesses aren't the happiest people in the world after all.
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All that waisted Time!
by Ranchette ini can't tell you how many times while out in service i would have these disturbing feelings:"this is such a waist of time.
""we are just driving our life away from nh to nh!
" and"i'm acompolishing absolutly nothing!
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I can't tell you how many times while out in service I would have these disturbing feelings:"This is such a waist of time.""We are just driving our life away from NH to NH!" and"I'm acompolishing absolutly nothing!"I also wondered if this was really how Jehovah expected me to spend my life?
We would then go to the thursday night meeting and I 'd be told that these thoughts are wrong and I'd go away with more guilt and wonder what was wrong with me?
Well it turns out that I was right all along!It was a huge waist of time!
I've talked to lots of people since leaving about their oppinion of the work the JW's do and I continue to do so.Guess what? Not one said they look at us and think we represent the True God.Most view us as just another religion.
They for the most part have no bad feelings towards witnesses or the name JEHOVAH.They seem to be confused as to what their pourpose is and seem to see them as magazine and book salesmen.I was further shocked at the number that tell me that they dont even think of the witnesses because they've never had one at their home or that it's been 10-12 years since they've come by.
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most embarrasing thing ever at a meeting ...
by alliwannadoislive inhey ... i'm just getting into the swing of this great 'apostasy' thing right ... ?
... i thought y'all out there might well have a story or two to tell, so ... plz tell me tell me tell me about the most embarrasing thing you ever saw at a meeting ...
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My hubby started conducting a meeting for field service with his fly open and a sister let him know in front of everyone!
My son feel asleep during the meeting and feel head first out of his chair into the floor.I couldn't stop laughing then later felt guilty for being such a heartless mother!
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What are the most stupid JW rule?
by beroea inwhat are the most stupid jw rule?.
what do you consider to be the most stupid rules or tradition of the jw lives?
im thinking about any kind of rule or regulative that only has one answer to the questions why:.
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Freedom is so sweet!
by Ranchette insome of those that remember me wonder what i've been up to so far this year.i made a post tonight on the kids teens parenting board that tells some of it.check it out.. plus i'll add this.. since i quit meetings cold turkey believe it or not i've not experienced even one withdrawl symtom!!yea!.
i was in shock at first and it took me awhile to grasp that i was truly free.not df'd or da'd.
i don't believe in either and do not believe any man or group of men have the right to take friends and family from us!most of our friends and family have labled us anyway but that's their choice.. shall i confess my sins?
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Hi max,
Thanks for the welcome.Chuck D
That's a cute idea and your right some do have withdraw symptoms, they run out an join a church or go back to the KH without experiencing this feeling of freedom first.We need alittle time.Just think we were never alowed to have dreams, goals, or even careers that wern't limited,controlled or preplanned for us in some way.We need time to become comfortable with all the choices before us before we jump into the big ones.