Posts by FayeDunaway

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Humanism and Witnisam.

by The Rebel in

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well it seems for many on this board the time came to leave the w.t and cross the bridge in to a real world.

speaking for myself l feel i did not enter the cold and lonely world i was lead to believe i was entering.

rather i have discovered it was no great loss leaving a world that had protected me with false, dreams, fantazy and false promises.. but what have i really achieved by my leaving that i value?.

there are so many many good things about being out. especially that my children can choose their own lives and the pressure is off for me to try to direct them on to one very unnatural way for them to go, I can love and accept them no matter what they choose. There are so many good healthy options for them, and so far they are all choosing well.

but also I want to say leaving the WT has let me be a true citizen. I walk among my neighbors as one of them, not above them, not going to see their destruction and see them eaten by birds. They are good people with their own struggles just as I have my own struggles. I have a voice in my society, I do what I can to try to improve it. I celebrate amongst them, I go to local festivals. i love the feeling of community I have now. it's not us vs. them, it's just the larger 'us.'

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Happy birthday to me!

by purrpurr in

it's my birthday!

woweee!

i'm celebrating it too!

FayeDunaway

Happy birthday purr purr!

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The new 'classes' jehovahs-witness.net has created. Which one are you?

by Esse quam videri in

over time a number of different 'classes' of members have arisen on this forum.

1] apple watch watchers - this group takes a great interest in watches worn by members of the governing body.

2] cult escape consultants - one who freely offers advise on how to flee from a cult - mainly the wt society.

FayeDunaway

I'm waiting for someone to post the fundamentalist theist class. Drop by with inflammatory posts as if to purposely rile the atheists. Atheists respond accordingly.

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The new 'classes' jehovahs-witness.net has created. Which one are you?

by Esse quam videri in

over time a number of different 'classes' of members have arisen on this forum.

1] apple watch watchers - this group takes a great interest in watches worn by members of the governing body.

2] cult escape consultants - one who freely offers advise on how to flee from a cult - mainly the wt society.

FayeDunaway

WHEW I thought you were identifying yourself by that post :).

Yep, I went through the 'but what if' phase for a while, but after I found out about the pyramid steps leading to his 1914 thing, I mean that's just crazy. It's like the script of a bad movie, except it was our reality! We didn't know it came from such a crazy source, we just felt its craziness :(.

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The new 'classes' jehovahs-witness.net has created. Which one are you?

by Esse quam videri in

over time a number of different 'classes' of members have arisen on this forum.

1] apple watch watchers - this group takes a great interest in watches worn by members of the governing body.

2] cult escape consultants - one who freely offers advise on how to flee from a cult - mainly the wt society.

FayeDunaway

JV, when you research Russell and the things he made up based on his obsession with Pyramidology, but which they still teach today, HOW CAN THAT POSSIBLY BE RIGHT.

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I need some advice

by SpunkedTeen in

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i dont think ill be able to leave the organization,you see i have no close friends in or outside the jws and my entire family is part of the cult,if i leave my mom and the rest of my family will be heartbroken and i dont want to be the reason they are hurt.

im not particularly close to any of my family members but i still care for them.

i could really use some advice because i have no one else to turn too..

FayeDunaway

Great advice here!

Use the next few years to do as well as possible in school. Talk to your guidance counselor now, tell her your family situation and that you have no support for going to college. She will give you good advice on how to proceed.

If you don't have a job, get one. This will give you time away from family, and save at least half of your money towards college.

what are you passionate about? Pursue it, and see if there are any community programs similar. Try to make new friends.

You can get out of this small pond you've been brought up in, you just need to go slowly. Don't feel desperate. You're going to be ok.

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Conditioned to fail

by Jordandemm in

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just want to say hi and a big thank you to all that post in this site.

it has been extremely tough waking up as a born.

but in slowly removing any doubts about leaving this man made religion.

FayeDunaway

(Alive, love your post!)

(aude sapere, great suggestions!!)

jordan, a positive outlook is half of it. I would also like to know your age and general location to give you more specific advice. But remember that worldly people are not what you've been told. Some bad, mostly good. Get active in your community and you will find the best ones.

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Reflecting on my Disfellowshipping

by kairos in

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today is the day.. i was baptized as one of jehovah's witnesses on march 25th 1989.disfellowshipped for admitted apostasy today, september 10th 2015.. what an amazing story we all share.

how did we get involved with this group and think this was the best way of life?.

i asked my wife to stay home from the meeting tonight and spend the evening with me.she is.... we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary this past monday.. i must admit, i never saw any of this coming, but it couldn't have come sooner.i'm free of all the fake friendships.

FayeDunaway

Kairos, it must feel so strange, after 26 years, to close the book. Kind of a strange mix of reminiscing and melancholy and peace. I'm glad you can move on now, and pick up another book that's entirely your own. Love to your wife, I know she is still trying to be a witness, but she is supportive of you and that's quite noteworthy.

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Name Things You Can't Do If You Are JW...or not supposed to do

by minimus in

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witnesses are not supposed to stand for the national anthem but can stand for a flag salute.. you can't say bless you if someone sneezes, good luck!, or " you too" if someone says, happy holidays.. it is a religion of cannot dos.

everything is pagan and worldly.. what are things that are unacceptable to jehovah's witnesses that really are no big deal to everyone else?

?.

FayeDunaway

Go on sites like this!

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Just lost one more friend

by paradisebeauty in

i used to talk weekly on skype, with a sister from another country.

i didn't tell her much about my research and change of beliefs, until today ... in the conversations some doctrines came up and i told her i don't believe 1914, first, then i went on to tell her that i also don't believe there are 2 classes of christians, that i did not believe the government of the kingdom will be in heaven while the kingdom en earth, that i believe the whole kingdom will be on earth, and that from what i read, jesus was pretty clear that he will come back to earth, visibly.

the "god always had an organization" dogma was dropped and i told her it is not true, out of 9000 years of human history, it's not sure there were 1000 years when god had a loyal organization ..... i did not plan to tell her all this things, but it just happened, and things came up in the conversation... and once i dropped one bomb i dropped them all .... she said i do not sound like i am one of the jehovah's witnesses any more ... and even though we ended the call with "see ya" i have the feeling i will not hear from her any more ... .

FayeDunaway

Pb, I am sorry. Hopefully some of your points will get through to her with a little more time. Or she may just cloud them out, because it's easier. It's hard losing friends, people who have cared about you and who you care about. <3