FayeDunaway

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  Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me

  by elderess in

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  2. friends

  only a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.

  then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.

  thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.

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  FayeDunaway

  I just noticed this post has 97 likes! I've never seen that before!WC, her story is too genuine to be made up, and she doesn't write like John Aquila. It IS a very good story and has brightened the week of many of us. I wrote a PM and she didn't respond, hope she comes back and tells us what's happening with her kids and how they decided to proceed.
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  Partaking of emblems

  by sloppyjoe2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this year will be my first for by going to the memorial.

  i will get asked by my parents how i can deny jesus even if i don't believe the end is close.

  my thoughts on this are as follows, bear in mind saying it's all make believe is not an option.. i think that jesus intended for everyone to eat the bread and drink the wine.

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  I don't quite understand what you are asking. But I think if these are your beliefs, you should go to a real church where you can partake. I partook today, we do it once a month. I don't take it for granted. After my last witness memorial I felt so crappy about myself that I promised I would never reject Jesus by going to a memorial and bowing to peer pressure again. And I haven't. Really, try a real church, especially the week before Easter. A good Friday or Maundy Thursday service would be perfect.
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  Hello, fairly new, studying for around 7 months, just thought I would introduce myself.

  by Conanthebeliever in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello everyone, i hope you are all ok. .

  my name is conan, i am 25, and from the uk.

  i have some brain damage, so i apologise in advance if my syntax is off or i go a long way around explaining things.

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  FayeDunaway

  Conan you are such a thoughtful person. Thanks for your response. Yes most traditional churches do believe in the Trinity. But this does not mean that the father and the son are the same person. They are each individual persons. Jesus is not talking to himself when he calls on the Father. Also, witnesses downplay the role of Jesus. He is given much more attention and adoration in the scriptures than he is given in witness literature and culture. The two do not match up. Good luck in your search. Remember to be strong with the witness friends of yours. But also kind. Say you would like to continue to be friends even if you don't keep studying, maybe you won't lose them entirely. And you can still help them if you want to with food or what they may need. Just be strong, don't feel obligated to join their religion. I think you and your fiancée will be MUCH happier long term if you stiop studying with them. Actually I know so! I am very happy that we here are a part of that. You will have avoided so many complicated problems by not pursuing that religion further.
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  Chronic relapse - what do I do?

  by wayoutthere in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my first post here and unfortunately it is asking for help.. i was a born in jehovah's witness and from my earliest memories, i know i hated being one.

  i hated the embarrassment of being the "outsider" at school and i hated not being allowed to have any friends.

  of course i had the obligatory friends in the kingdom hall - none of whom were my age exactly and none of whom i would have personally chosen to be friends with if i had been left to pick them myself in a natural setting.

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  FayeDunaway

  It's OK to be different! What if everyone in this world were the same? Had the same experiences growing up, the same strengths and weaknesses? The same cookie cutter lives? God, how boring. It's not the way the real world is. We are all different. And the way you are different is actually a compliment. You ran away from an oppressive environment at 16 years old! You were so courageous! Be courageous now. No, don't run away again. Own your own courage from the past. There isn't a worldly person you could tell who is not going to like you because of this. It makes you deeper and more interesting, what you have been through. Definitely don't be angry with your partner for saying this. It's time to grow up and reflect on your past and what you have accomplished. Yes you need therapy. And to start being honest with yourself and open up to other people. What exactly are you afraid of?
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  Hello, fairly new, studying for around 7 months, just thought I would introduce myself.

  by Conanthebeliever in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello everyone, i hope you are all ok. .

  my name is conan, i am 25, and from the uk.

  i have some brain damage, so i apologise in advance if my syntax is off or i go a long way around explaining things.

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  FayeDunaway

  Conan I just want to say welcome. It seems like they told you some misinformation, the friends of yours. I dont doubt they have been good friends to you. But what they told you is incorrect. They DO believe they are the absolute only answer for what is truth,, what they say is IT and if you dont agree you will be kicked out. And they do encourage research, but they only are allowed to use their own materials for research. They call this 'personal study' but do not allow you to look at outside information. After being a witness for many years I started doing outside research and felt compelled to leave the witnesses, and now I am very happy in a traditional church.
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  Hi your df but your invited to the memorial but we will not welcome you or talk to you .

  by poopie in

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  2. friends

  but your welcome to come as guest we just will not talk to you stupid idiot

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  FayeDunaway

  They'll invite you to the feast and won't speak to you, make you sit under the table and hope for crumbs. (Oh, but don't eat those crumbs, you aren't 'ANOINTED'!)
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  Who is "on-line" at this moment

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. forum
  2. suggestions

  hi simon,.

  i am not sure if the forum has this capability or not, but i have noticed that other online communities have a small section that indicates "--- amount of users online now, and --- guests online now".

  also, some internet forums have the option to show if a user is currently logged in or not.

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  FayeDunaway

  I think it would be interesting, just to see how many lurkers there are at any given time.
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  I can't just walk away, I need to keep reinforcing what I did was right (Leaving the org)

  by pleaseresearch in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  when i speak to my mum about things, she says why do you keep looking on the internet and news etc... why don't you just live your life and forget what you learned growing up.. maybe i was so so indoctrinated as a child that even though i have woken up and learnt ttatt, i still need to keep up to date with new findings from ex and fellow brothers and sisters.

  listening to their testimony about why they left.. this was to me and all of you i'm sure, the truth.

  so to finally wake up is absolutely massive.

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  FayeDunaway

  PR, I think this is all still kind of new for you. Even if you know the truth about the truth, it takes 2 or 3 years for the FOG to lift. Especially the 'fear' and 'guilt.' Some people who never heed the advice of your alias, and don't do the research, keep having FOG loom over them for DECADES. So be happy you have done the research, and keep coming here and doing research until you have conquered your FOG. It WILL lift, the more research you do. Because the so called 'truth' doesn't stand up to research, actually, research just makes 'the truth' look darned silly, and fear and guilt quickly dissipates when you see the full silliness. Then, when the FOG lifts, you might want to keep coming here for other reasons, but it will feel different. Your perspective on the religion will become clearer with time. You can offer support to people who are desperate and alone. You can be one of us who shows them yes, there is life after the Borg. And it's far happier!!
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  Why Were / Are the Best Rock Bands British?

  by berrygerry in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  so, roger daltrey and pete townshend were on jimmy fallon tonight as the who.. without disrespect to others, i would put the top 5 rock bands, not necessarily in order, as:.

  led zeppelin.

  pink floyd.

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  FayeDunaway

  Couldn't agree more, flipper. And nice list, berry! I like when people include the Who on bests lists. Their music absolutely makes me lose my mind. I can hardly drive or do anything else when I hear it.
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  Gossiping

  by Sabin in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so last night we had some friends around for dinner, (not jw) & it was a really wonderful evening.

  we talked about a variety of subjects, just had a laugh & drunk wine & beer.

  this morning my husband & i were talking about how nice it was, how free we felt with our opinions.

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  FayeDunaway

  Well I agree, I think they gossip because acceptable subjects of conversation are limited...but I also think they gossip because they're frustrated. These are people who were never allowed to live up to their potential, or follow the natural direction they were supposed to take in life. They are bitter, and stuck, and listless.