FayeDunaway
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My brother died last night
by LisaRose ini found out this morning that my brother died last night, he was also an ex jw, 73 years old and died of heart disease and kidney failure.
it was not totally unexpected, as he had been in poor health, but it's a blow, especially as i just lost another brother two years ago.
there were six of us, now only four.
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FayeDunaway
If he's anything like you, it is a terrible, terrible loss, and I am very sorry. -
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I'm getting baptized
by BlackWolf ini know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.
my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.
i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.
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FayeDunaway
I do understand how alone you feel. And you've already made your parents thrilled with you for saying yes, saving your father's face as an elder. You have two choices. Both are hard. I hate that religion for making these the only choices for amazing young people like yourself.
1. Get baptized. Further succomb to all sorts of pressure to live up to your baptism. Service hours, pioneering, seeking a worthy spiritual person to marry. If you meet someone not a witness who you start falling in love with, forget it. Until you can move far away, slack off, and slowly break your parents pride and hearts. You may never be free, if you move somewhere where someone knows someone from your area. The witness world is a small one. You will always be worried.
2. Tell your parents you are so sorry, but you wanted to make them happy and say yes you would get baptized this summer, but the truth is you are NOTready. I really like DOC's suggestions (except the getting drunk one :)) about telling your parents your 'doubts.' Heck yes they will be disappointed, but why let this religion control your whole life, forever? Share your doubts head on, without implicating or admitting any apostate sources. Make them have to answer the tough questions.
I think you must be referring to an incident where you got in trouble and it caused a big ruckus and confrontation and it left s very bad taste in your mouth and unwillingness to cause any trouble. But you can speak to them not as a child but as a student, no shouting involved maybe. And if your father does lose it, ask him if that is what he thinks is correct..shouting, coercing a baptism into someone. Through everything be sympathetic to their viewpoint and their own experience. But it is NOT too late.
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Anti-Gay Cartoon Still Making Rounds: George Takei weighs in
by freemindfade ini also heard the video was being discussed on howard stern today.
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FayeDunaway
George takei?? Holy cow! Thanks, FMF. Also I wonder what Howard Stern said about it. -
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Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......
by dubstepped inmy wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.
we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.
when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.
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FayeDunaway
Dubstepped I think I would adore your family in real life!
Yeah, don't worry...churches rent out their halls all the time and seriously Episcopalians are lovely people. I've met a lot and haven't met a nasty one yet :). They probably aren't desperate for you to join their church and wouldn't expect it. I've been to many events at Episcopal churches, they are especially open to renting out their facilities.
My church gives outsider memorials and large group meetings non church related as well. There is a nice bee keepers monthly meeting for example. We are really friendly to these people but with no expectations. Don't be freaked out!
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Why is Mother's Day wrong?
by stuckinarut2 inso why is celebrating mother's day wrong according to witnesses?.
is it not an opportunity to show respect to the giver of life (mother) and therefore god, the originator of families?.
does it not give an opportunity for members of the family to give a hard working mother a day off?
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FayeDunaway
It's not in the least wrong. Like reasons for not celebrating many other special days, the WT is jealous of anyone else getting attention. And they don't really want anyone to be a mother. Taking care of a baby takes away SO much possible serve-us time!!
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Prince's will
by wannaexit inis it possible that watchtower is in possession of prince's will and the legal department is waiting for the until things settle down to produce it?.
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FayeDunaway
Interesting, oppostate! Now I feel not only lame, but ALSO guilty, for only starting 4 threads here. :/
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Special Day for our family today!
by Captain Schmideo2 inmy son graduates with his bachelors degree, cum laude!.
he is the first in my family to graduate with a four year degree.
and he is already in talks for a teaching job.. so, gerrit lush....up your nose with a rubber hose!
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FayeDunaway
Wow, congratulations Capt! I can imagine how proud you are today. And yeah, you have a right to thumb your nose at those who would tell you otherwise. -
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Following Christ "from a distance."
by New day inluke 22:54.
"then they arrested him and led him off, and they brought him into the house of the high priest; but peter was following at a distance.
" i am still raging because this verse was used at a recent circuit overseer's visit.
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FayeDunaway
(Except those other three times when the cock crowed.....;-) -
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“Even if this wasn’t the Truth, I need the structure.”
by Londo111 ini remember many years back a fellow ministerial servant saying this to me.
he felt that even if jehovah’s witnesses were not the only true religion, the regimented routine of meetings and field service and the strict rules and enforcement provided a beneficial structure for his life.
at the time i thought if this wasn’t “the truth”, i’d have no need for all that “structure”.
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FayeDunaway
Great thread, Londo!
I remember standing in the kitchen with my husband when I told him (we had talked about it before) that I definitely wanted to leave the religion. He was in despair. He thought our little world would fall apart, he thought our kids wouldn't grow up right, and who KNEW what was going to happen. He was only partially a believer at that point in the doctrine but he was scared.
Well the only thing that changed regarding 'our little world' is that now my husband pursues hobbies instead of getting a suit on and struggling for hours with kids at meetings. He's in a bad mood about one tenth as often as he used to be. And the kids are awesome, pursuing their own interests and education with no interest in drinking or drugs etc. They are really passionate about social causes tho.
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Letter # 1 to the Governing Body of Jehovah's witnesses
by WITNESS-FOR-WATCHTOWER-REFORM inhere is my first letter i posted to the governing body.
i also hope that brothers on the writing committee who may be lurking on this site (and have some clout) read my letter and bring in change to this very flawed policy around confession of sins.. enjoy.
the governing body of jehovah’s witnesses.
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FayeDunaway
They won't listen to you, because they never listen. But I couldn't agree more with the points you made.