I notice you have a 14 year marriage and a 13 year old son, you may not want to answer this but did you remain chaste before your wedding day?
Sorry for too personal question you don’t have to answer.
The point I was making is that it can be very difficult if not impossible for a boy and girl who like each other spend lots of time together and not start kissing and touching. Once you have kissed that’s it the body will be frustrated if you go ahead and get your body ready for something it doesn’t get, I mean then deny going further.
The Bible says you can’t hold fire and not get burnt.