Posts by ReverendRoy

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still resisting!

by Kat_ in

this is my first time on a message board relating to anything jw.

i haven't posted anything in the past because i still held to the fear that it would be betraying what i was taught, betraying my family, betraying god.

this is precisely my life as it is now.

ReverendRoy

Kat,
I know that it is nice to be able to stay home with your children. My wife and I decided she would stay at home for awhile with our little girl, who is now 2 and half.

Like you my wife is torn on the decision to work or stay home. I try to support her in whatever her decision is. She has decided to work part time, in the mean-time she is developing her own interior design business. Not only does she need to do this for her own personal sanity, but for the development of our daughter as well. We want her to have the social interaction with other children and be able to be away from mom and dad for awhile without major stress for her.

There are times when I am both thankful I can get away to work and envious, because I would also enjoy the "Mr. Mom" role to soem degree.

Through all of this you have to keep in mind that it is your life and your decision. You need may need support and/or help, but not a hinderance. While it may be difficult to do this, you may feel better in the long run...to do what you think is best. Period.

Hang in there......

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Ex-JW atheists

by Vienna in

jw
friends

i know there are lots of atheists on the board, so i'm curious what attracted you to becoming a jw in the beginning.

personally, i feel a bond with all ex-jws (and to those of you doubting) since we have gone through the same things.

so my question is not being sarastic, but i'm curious as to why you are where you are.

ReverendRoy

Vienna,
As a small child, not understanding the whole God concept (and still not much of the time) I can still remember thinking that Jehovah was the one giving the sermon on Sunday.

I think now more than ever I have to question the thought and concept of God, as many of us former JW's were taught. It just does not work for me. I am still an agnostic, there is so much more that we will learn over time.

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Life

by joelbear in

jw
friends

life never fits into boxes.

is that because adam sinned?

for instance, do lions eat meat because man is sinful?.

ReverendRoy

Dan and Faraon - ya'll are tooooo funny!

Joel - life in a box does not sound like a lot of fun.......

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Who was the Strangest on the Doors?

by individual in

jw
friends

yes, who was the strangest person you ever met in the field service, or what was the strangest experience?

i once met a man who claimed that he had invented everything, including the hovermower, the hovercraft and the xylophone.

he said he created the hovermower out of dustbin lids attached to an old lawnmower.

ReverendRoy

three to share with you...

the most memorable was the woman that apparantly thought I was "jim" and was coming back to her finally...she answered the door naked. I hated to disapoint her, but i politely excused myself....

there was the woman that when she answqered the door and said hello to me, began to speak in tounges (honest) and roll around in her living room. between the rolling and the tounges she would tell me she was commanded to do this to save my soul, no doubt a tried and true method of getting rid of most any one at the door....

and of course the ever popular shotgun sticking out the door, all I saw was the gun and heard a voice that said "go away"...message recieved!

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still resisting!

by Kat_ in

this is my first time on a message board relating to anything jw.

i haven't posted anything in the past because i still held to the fear that it would be betraying what i was taught, betraying my family, betraying god.

this is precisely my life as it is now.

ReverendRoy

Kat -

Great to see you feeling better about things. It does get easier as time goes on, although, even after all this time, I still will get some of that doubt back. Hang in there, it is worth it...really. I enjoyed talking to you in chat and hope to again soon.

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Ugly Clothes is it a rule???

by tattoogrl333 in

jw
friends

ok last post before me and my pillow get together.

so what is the dress code of jw.

i notice a lot of long skirts, and dresses.

ReverendRoy

Hey tattoogirl
Ok, I am really dating my self here...but back when I was still involved (1978-79), not only what I wore caused a problem, but how long my hair was. I was continually counciled about the length of my hair and "modern" clothes. I mean my hair actually touched my collar, what was I thinking........

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Judicial Elder wisdom LOL

by Shane in

i got to go into the star chamber a few years ago, i remember when the elders handling the my case told me and they all seemed to be in agreement with stupid remark: " now bro., i want you to go out and do everything you always wanted to do, and get it out of your system before you come back to us wanting reinstatement!

i was disgusted, i said: wait just a dam min your all supposed to encourage me not to sin and guide me inn ways of righteousness, instead your telling me to go out and sin?

i then said: "something's not right here, if there is a god someone will pay one day for mistreating one of his sheep.. question friends has anyone ever had the borg mp's ever say that to you?

ReverendRoy

Hi Shane and Welcome,
I have never heard that one before! But as I continue to read posts nothing surprises me anymore (or it shouldn't anyway).

Reverend Roy
"Why is it when we talk to God we're praying - but when God talks to us, we're schizophrenic?"
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Wife of Jehovahs Witness

by Totally lost in

hello, i married a wittness in 98. although i do not believe that way.

i thought that i would be able to deal with the religion.

but as it turns out, i can't.

ReverendRoy

Hi TL,

Many of us can understand how incredibly difficult this is for you and what you are going through. You have found a good place to get lots of opinions if nothing else . I have to agree with Francoise and Tracy, use caution as you make your stand known. Years of abuse and "brainwashing" technics by the JW's can cause him to react in ways you may not expect. Although he may love you very much, he can not let go of a religion that has been so much a part of his life, especially after being reinstated for something that is part of being a human.

Hang in there. Keep asking questions, keep looking for answers.

Welcome to the board.

Reverend Roy
"Why is it when we talk to God we're praying - but when God talks to us, we're schizophrenic?"
- Stop in at Reverend Roy's Voodoo Lounge where nothing is sacred: http://www.geocities.com/reverendroysvoodoolounge/

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still resisting!

by Kat_ in

this is my first time on a message board relating to anything jw.

i haven't posted anything in the past because i still held to the fear that it would be betraying what i was taught, betraying my family, betraying god.

this is precisely my life as it is now.

ReverendRoy

Hi Kat,
Welcome to a fun and sometimes scary journey, that as you read the other posts you will see that many of us of had.

Be true to yourself, in your heart you will know what is right. It is not easy to make the decisions you have, especially when they involve family.

There is so much more out there...good luck and welcome again! If I can ever help just "holler"...

Reverend Roy
"Why is it when we talk to God we're praying - but when God talks to us, we're schizophrenic?"
- Stop in at Reverend Roy's Voodoo Lounge where nothing is sacred: http://www.geocities.com/reverendroysvoodoolounge/

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Could you please read this?

by ethan in

this may take a while to explain, but if you read through and respond i'd appreciate it.

i became best friends with a jw about two years ago.

we were the best of friends.

ReverendRoy

Ethan,
You are correct in your assumption that she could become a JW. The more she is surrounded by JW's, both in Bible study,meetings, conventions and his family, the more difficult it may become for her to "think" for herself. The pressure a JW feels to marry within the organization is very strong. By him dating and being engaged to a non-JW, may have been the cause of his father being removed as elder.

As a former JW, it is difficult to be unbiased at times regarding those that are studying to be a JW. Keep in mind she may be doing all of this to be closer to the person she wants to marry and does not want to be a JW.

Aaron is correct, she must be babtized as a JW before she is recognized as a JW.

Good luck.

Reverend Roy
"Why is it when we talk to God we're praying - but when God talks to us, we're schizophrenic?"
- Stop in at Reverend Roy's Voodoo Lounge where nothing is sacred: http://www.geocities.com/reverendroysvoodoolounge/