Posts by Emery

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Thinking of having revenge on the jw girl

by spirituk in

hello again, following my story with this girl , and after she blocked me on fb and not answering my phone calls since december , i am now thinking of taking revenge.my feelings of pain are starting to become hate ,and pain always is accompanied by the feeling of revenge to satisfy this bad feeling.i just cant simply forget what shes done to me.

the reasons of my revenge :.

1.she played with my feelings when she knew from the start that she would leave me one day.

Emery

There are way too many women out there to be so heart-broken over one.

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Thinking of having revenge on the jw girl

by spirituk in

hello again, following my story with this girl , and after she blocked me on fb and not answering my phone calls since december , i am now thinking of taking revenge.my feelings of pain are starting to become hate ,and pain always is accompanied by the feeling of revenge to satisfy this bad feeling.i just cant simply forget what shes done to me.

the reasons of my revenge :.

1.she played with my feelings when she knew from the start that she would leave me one day.

Emery

Hopefully this will help you. I had a JW girlfriend who absolutely broke my heart. I didn't eat or want to leave my apartment for an entire week, I was repeatedly thinking about her day in and day out.

The girl knew how much I loved her but in the end she used me to gain all the benefits of having a boyfriend while avoiding the commitment. She told me she loved me but her behavior didn't reflect it. I was the one initiating all the contact and making all the plans to see her. I made every attempt to win her heart, whether it was by surprise gifts, helping financially, romantically, bonding with her family, etc. However, she was very hot and cold with me. There would be days where she would leave me completely in the dark by not responding to any of my text messages or phone calls. Only when it was convenient did she ever make plans to see me.

By speaking with friends who had successful marriages, I learned that REAL relationships start out with fireworks and all you want to do is be with one another. Doubts as to how you both feel should not exist. The relationship ended after realizing that it was a one way road. The girl was absolutely beautiful, great personality and humor...we were great friends before we dated, this is what was the most heart-breaking.

After much mourning and self-pity I made a promise to never let myself feel this way again. So I began reading about the psychology of dating. I was amazing to find all the red flags I had previously ignored. Red flags, that had I known about them sooner I would have avoided much heart ache. It was my fault just as much as hers for allowing myself to ignore the telling signs of a dysfunctional relationship. Understanding the psychology of dating is what helped me move forward. I learned many things, for example: if you make yourself too available or are not much of a challenge, you can kill your self-worth. Coming across as clingy, emotionally attached, jealous, or insecure are all signs of desperation that subconsciously damage relationships.

There are many other factors which contribute to things turning sour. The biggest one you must accept is that there are people out there who are truly broken. Regardless of any sincere efforts made to sustain them, dysfunctional people can never be fixed. In the end, you have to educate yourself, move forward, and find true love elsewhere. I certainly did, especially when I honestly didn't think I could. It will take time to heal but DO NOT lower yourself to a stalker, or an obsessed ex. Stop being a wussie and be a man. Focus on yourself whether it be physically, financially, or intellectually...the best revenge is being successful. You will learn and grow from this--it will be another chapter in your life before you move on to better things.

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Thinking of having revenge on the jw girl

by spirituk in

hello again, following my story with this girl , and after she blocked me on fb and not answering my phone calls since december , i am now thinking of taking revenge.my feelings of pain are starting to become hate ,and pain always is accompanied by the feeling of revenge to satisfy this bad feeling.i just cant simply forget what shes done to me.

the reasons of my revenge :.

1.she played with my feelings when she knew from the start that she would leave me one day.

Emery

Buy the book "Double Your Dating". Move on and don't be a stalker. You will realize that there are many women who are not dysfunctional in the world.

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Is this true? Do the elders really do it like this?

by Julia Orwell in

jw
friends

i put this week's wt paragraph about disfellowshipping on my fb page and said how poor robert's family didn't even check to see whether he was dead or alive in 16 years and a friend of mine of the 'conscious class' commented about how unchristian she felt disfellowshipping to this degree is, and i agreed.. another friend, and uber-jw who has a host of illnesses and yet pioneers, who everytime she and her husband go to another congregation, if he's not appointed within three years they move to another and try for an appointment there - he used to be an elder and no one is willing to promote him again- replied to my thread.

now keep in mind she has a dfd son and she doesn't even know whether he is dead or alive, because she follows the wt to the tee.

she replied, among other things,with this:.

Emery

Suraj Khan

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Need Help: What Would You Try to Tell Current JW's?

by daringhart13 in

i've been journaling a lot the past couple of years....it was recommended to me by a therapist when my anger was boiling over.. so recently i decided to start an exercise: what would you tell them if they would listen?.

i've started listing my top 10 and it's interesting......i'm over all of the doctrinal insanity.....i'm forever indebted to the more scholarly among us that have put so much effort into research, writing, etc.!!!.

mine all focused on more 'human' subjects....emotions, pain, etc.

Emery

The authority which rests with the organization is non-existent and false.

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A double life

by raindrops in

jw
friends

i am usually a lurker here.

i was disfellowshipped about 3 years ago.

my relationship with my family has never been the same.

Emery

lamallcool has the best plan. If you want to enjoy your life and still have a bridge back to your family you will have to move away.

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STAY AWAY FROM MY KINDGOM HALL," LORD'S EVENING MEAL" INVITATIONS REVOKED!!!!!

by AuntConnie in

i am very angry, pent-up rage call it!

so you will understand why and with great ease this subject is able to flow off my tongue onto the keyboard, because this time of the year is worse than your christmas time jitters!

anxiety, stress, compulsive babbling nuts are invading our service groups!

Emery

We are coming to eat your crackers and wine!

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Public talk today on evolution today - real doozy

by Comatose in

notes:.

bible says god created us.

scientific principle says - simplest explanation is usually the correct one.

Emery

hmmm let me guess did they say something to the effect of....

"THEY THINK WE CAME FROM MONKEYS!" ...?

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TTATT Billboards?

by Emery in

has anyone ever thought about paying for a billboard close to either an assembly hall or a kingdom hall during memorial season?

for instance i would probably pay for a billboard for a week or 2 displaying jwfacts.com on the highway or a nearby road that witnesses travel on heavily.

has anyone ever tried something like this?.

Emery

with the twitter tag: #consciousclass

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TTATT Billboards?

by Emery in

has anyone ever thought about paying for a billboard close to either an assembly hall or a kingdom hall during memorial season?

for instance i would probably pay for a billboard for a week or 2 displaying jwfacts.com on the highway or a nearby road that witnesses travel on heavily.

has anyone ever tried something like this?.