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  I have a TASK for you to perform. Come on--it will be FUN!

  by Terry in

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  look up in the right-hand corner of this page.. find where it says welcome (name).. did you locate that?.

  now click on your name and observe the new page loading takes you to a top blue bar with a menu.. it should read:.

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  SophieG

  Great Post Terry!

  The post that most of you shared on was: "If you're happy and THEY know it all HELL breaks loose!" nine months ago!

  HELL continues to break loose! I'm still happy! LOLOLOL!
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  I need some input: I have come to the conclusion my wife blames me for her lack of spirituality

  by goingthruthemotions in

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  so lately my wife and i have been arguing alot.

  not big arguments...but more of a bickering.. you see, over the last year i have stepped down as an ms and we moved halls.

  last november was around the time i woke.. during this time we still have family studies....but only from the bible.

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  SophieG

  I've been there both in your wife's shoes and in yours towards the end before I eventually left. It's basically codependency spirituality/religiousity.

  just ask her calmly if something were to happen to you and you were no longer here would she carry on serving Jah without you? In essence you've taken responsibility for your salvation she has to take her own. Now it may make her flip and go uber zealous....or she may start wondering why you're really pulling away and ask questions.

  Best wishes.
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  Whatever happened has a lesson for us!

  by Kalos in

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  when my dad left jws, his stoic remark was: it was not a total wastage; after all i learned something good about the witnessestheir resolve to continue with their original claim that they are the appointed channel of god, even when they know in their heart of hearts that they are not.

  why cant i imitate that sort of resolve in doing something worthwhile?

  he thus echoed confucius who said: to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.. a poor choice we made, some obstructions or some resistance are almost always viewed with fear and anxiety.

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  Magnum. It is really not pop psychology. Your answer actually lies in your question. When you go into therapy these are the kind of things you have to contemplate. The goal is to move past what has happened to you so you can thrive and flourish. Not saying it's easy, but if you want to, that desire will push you to want to feel better and let go of all that crap you endured.

  i lost 20 years and I was ticked! That anger propelled me to move past things. For me I can never regain what I've lost but I will be damned if I put myself in a situation like that ever again. Now I grab the harnesses of my life and squeeze the best out of what's left.

  Here was a question posed to me in therapy: Youre laying death bed, how do you feel? At the time I felt anger and rage over the whole JW thing! Then I said HELL NO! I'm not giving that entity another moment to rob me of my joy! And therein was my lesson! I just may have needed to have that experience as jacked as it was for me to be propelled into living the life I always wanted.

  Your exoeriences are lessons.
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  Whatever happened has a lesson for us!

  by Kalos in

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  when my dad left jws, his stoic remark was: it was not a total wastage; after all i learned something good about the witnessestheir resolve to continue with their original claim that they are the appointed channel of god, even when they know in their heart of hearts that they are not.

  why cant i imitate that sort of resolve in doing something worthwhile?

  he thus echoed confucius who said: to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.. a poor choice we made, some obstructions or some resistance are almost always viewed with fear and anxiety.

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  SophieG

  This post is meant for those a bit farther away from some of the pain, but yet are still going through long term issues, (maybe for the rest of their lives), related to the JW experience. Try to understand that someday you might just need a post like this.

  I agree with this. I think as JWs we never really learned that mechanism to take control of our lives. We were waiting to be directed, looking and trusting people, waiting for Paradise for things to change. Outside of the JW world there is a concept that change comes from within. it may appear that we cannot change an outer circumstance, but we can change how we view things, which in some where way drives a different energy to the situation.

  It's OUR story! Not our parents, not our kids or anyone else's! They are our lessons! Every experience is a teacher!

  I highly recommend finding a good therapist to JWs because we were so disadvantaged and crippled how to navigate life!
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  Whatever happened has a lesson for us!

  by Kalos in

  1. watchtower
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  when my dad left jws, his stoic remark was: it was not a total wastage; after all i learned something good about the witnessestheir resolve to continue with their original claim that they are the appointed channel of god, even when they know in their heart of hearts that they are not.

  why cant i imitate that sort of resolve in doing something worthwhile?

  he thus echoed confucius who said: to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.. a poor choice we made, some obstructions or some resistance are almost always viewed with fear and anxiety.

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  SophieG

  Kalo I kinda get what you're saying though you lost me after the first paragraph.

  To me my life is like a story being written as I go along! As the main character I experience things some harsh some sublime. I make choices and the readers watch me navigate through them and watch me grow and learn. Each incident I can chose how I respond to it. I the main character can sit back contemplate how the next sentence, paragraph and chapter plays out.

  So if someone was reading my life story what would they see? What kinda of character am I? I want my story to read as one who faced all kinds of circumstances and made it through and learned and triumphed.

  There is a lesson in everything for everyone on this planet. We can only fully understand our own.

  Somtimes when I think of how my life played out with my former JW life, losing friends being shunned by family it does floor me. But every single day I know I have the choice to not hold on to that and push forward through life. I cannot control what was done to me I can only hold myself responsible for the part I played and resolve to learn from it and not repeat the lesson ever again. When I sit and replay the negatives all I see are the negatives. But when I put a positive mindset behind things I tend to move past it.

  Yes it was hard and there are moments that still bother me but i don't ever want to be defined by the negative things in my life. I don't want to live there. So let me get my lesson pass it and move on. Life is way too short and my desire to be at peace is greater than my desire to let something rule my life.
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  Excellent article: Inherited Religiosity: What it means for how nost 'Believers' believe

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  inherited religiosity: what it means for how most believers believe.

  by yoginder sikand.

  03 april, 2012countercurrents.org.

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  SophieG

  I recall when I was deciding what or if I wanted to believe anything I took my self back to infant stage of not knowing anything! I realized I wasn't born with a single belief. That was liberating!

  When I talk to people about this thought their brains pop!

  Thanks Ms Barbara! Great post! I linked the article to my blog and social media! It should make folks think.
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  My Story: from JW Elder to Born Again Christian to Agnostic

  by passwordprotected in

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  i first posted here on 3rd june 2008. at the time i was an elder, appointed the previous october, i was 36 and i was a born-in.

  at the time i'd become disillusioned with the society due to the governing body's letter explaining why the book study in private homes was being abolished.

  april 2008 saw me start questioning this decision, privately of course, and this eventually led me to this site, to jwfacts and to many youtube videos, all of which began to errode my faith in the leaders of the organisation.. in july 2008, having discussed my doubts with my wife, i attended the district convention, deciding to give the society one last chance to convince me it was the truth.

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  SophieG

  Thank you for sharing your story of your spiritual awakening! Namaste!
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  Robin Williams passes

  by designs in

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  don't know quite what to say.

  just stunned at the news.

  comic genius and actor.. share your favorite robin williams moments.. .

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  SophieG

  Robin Williams will be missed. There is really no one like him! I appreciate his candidness about his battles with addiction and depression and this is why I've taken it so hard.

  Depression SUCKS! It's a dark horse that is hard to dismount and it takes effort not to ride that beast over the cliff. For those of us who have been there and are surviving or our disease is in remission it's hard not to feel like we lost a brother to the battle. There is a little voice that saves you that says: "Don't do this" in the bottom of the darkest hour. He shut that voice out. He was tired.

  My thoughts are with his family. If his light shone this far out and touched us, by them being closer to him it must be a heavy toll.
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  Indianapolis Assembly Hall Chorus AMAZING!

  by NoMoreHustle in

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  this is what wt has been producing, this had my bottom jaw on the carpet while i was watching (like the footloose one).

  and they say there different from other religions yeah right!!.

  i hope this link works https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1vahglagd2i.

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  SophieG

  Well I realized after I left they were just like any other religion out there! Here's proof! No difference!
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  When You See A Witness What's Your Reaction?

  by minimus in

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  is it a feeling of---oh no!!?.

  are you happy to see them?.

  do you have a feeling of consternation?.

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  SophieG

  I act like I never left! Same old friendly me! Hiiiiiii! Throws them into normal mode!