Joel,
I know that control remarks hurts, doesn't it? Like your some kind of puppy that needs to be housebroken and learn to stay in the yard.
My mom made that same comment to me several years ago. She had been inactive for several years and I (good Dub that I was trying to be) was trying to "help" her. She told me flat out that the two things that most interested her about the Witnesses were that 1) she truly felt that they had Biblical truth and 2) this religion would help her keep control over her children. She explained to me that she realized that we were growing up and therefore growing away from her and she needed something more than "because I said so, I'm your mother" to control us.
Even though she's been DA'd for years and I'm terminally inactive, I assure you I'm still a dissappointment. I just cannot be what she thinks I should be.
Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder in your nearest medical dictionary, you'll see a pic of my mom.
Hugs to Joel and Essie
RN