Posts by rollercoaster

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WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE?

by Unchained in

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this is my first time at this so bare with me.

i will be turning 21 tomorrow so i decided to celebrate like this.

my family threw me a surprise birthday a week ago and we even had a pinata .

Dear Unchained,
I have a wonderful daughter. She has been raised as a JW. She is a teenager now. I feel so bad about not even celebrating her birth. I can't believe I have been so ignorant. This year we will celebrate as much as possible. I want her to have so much joy in life. I want her to remember laughter and love during her youth. And most importantly, I want her to remember me as being part of it.
Teach your children the principles of Jesus. The morals of love and kindness to others. Honesty and sharing. Compassion and tenderness. Respect and honor. As you teach them these things the other questions will be easily answered.

RC

37

would you come?

by rollercoaster in

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friends

i want to get married.

he is not in a jw.

i don't care.

rollercoaster

Prisca,
I think we may go to Fiji. Turtle Island. If the business allows it. We are pretty busy right now. He is trying to get me to agree to the Bahamas. I think I will hold out for Fiji.
A part of me is sad though thinking about not having someone there that I have shared my life with as a friend. Kind of all alone in a room full of people.
The only good thing is I will spend the rest of my life with the person I love.
Thanks for your support.

RC

37

would you come?

by rollercoaster in

jw
friends

i want to get married.

he is not in a jw.

i don't care.

rollercoaster

Expatbrit,
Yes, as soon as we determine the date, I will let everyone know. I am very excited about marrying this guy. He is so wonderful. We have known each other for over 3 years. He has put up with a lot from me. I even made him feel like dog poop because I said I was a JW so he wasn't good enough for me. He kept being persistent in a very sweet way, and won my heart. I think Jehovah would be happy for me don't you?
Thank you so much for your care and kindness.

RC

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would you come?

by rollercoaster in

jw
friends

i want to get married.

he is not in a jw.

i don't care.

rollercoaster

Scorpion,
Well you certainly have me laughing. Thanks. I like the belching and farting the best. Only I have my fiance' convinced for now that I don't do that. I guess the reception would be good a time as any to let him know how I really am.

Thank you so much for the cheer.

RC

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So Whats Driving You To Make Posts?

by Englishman in

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friends

why do you bother to post on this site?

what good does it do you?

what do you gain from posting?.

rollercoaster

Shauna,
I met a df'd JW when I wasn't yet sure about leaving the org., recently I saw her again. She said she had started going to meetings again. I asked "WHY"? She said "because it's the right thing to do." I was dumbstruck. Here we were sitting in a pub drinking, she was smoking, and hanging on her boyfriend. I guess I get confused easily. Anyway, I wanted to shake her and say you're out, enjoy life. Stop living a double life. Don't be ashamed of what you feel and want to do. Then I realized that I hadn't invited any of my JW friends out for a drink either. Oh well.....

RC

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would you come?

by rollercoaster in

jw
friends

i want to get married.

he is not in a jw.

i don't care.

rollercoaster

I want to get married. He is not in a JW. I don't care. We plan to get married in June if all goes well. I will have no family or friends at the wedding. I'm sure all of you can guess why. If you were invited to such a wedding, would you come? I don't even have a maid of honor. No one to stand beside me except my soon to be husband. I don't expect anyone there in person, but it seems as though there isn't even anyone to be happy for me. I'm happy for me!!! Maybe that's enough. Anyway I am trying to come up with a lot of reasons why it is good to not have a big mushy wedding, and here's my list. Feel free to add to it. I think I need some humor right now.

WHY SMALL WEDDINGS ARE GREAT
At least I won't have to spend a lot on postage.
Won't need a lot of food at the reception.
Can dress yucky and won't have to worry about gossip
Can play dirty music
Can dance dirty to dirty music
Can get really drunk, and dance dirty.....'
Won't need to send thankyou notes for any gifts.
Won't have to return stupid gifts

Anyway, everyone is invited. But you must RSVP. (at least think of me)

Cheers
RC

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Donations, .taxes.and b&S !

by MacHislopp in

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hello, redhorsewoman,.

i was reading the long post of 2nd may 2000, about donations, and i could not .

help myself to send you this information concerning your quote:.

rollercoaster

I thought the society was "cash heavy". So why am I not surprised to hear that they keep trying to get more money? And aren't they somehow meddling in stocks which support the military? Please help me get this cleared up.
I haven't contributed to the society. I never felt right about it. I'm not sure why. Instead if a family or person needed help, I would find a discreet way to do so. Then I knew my contribution went where I wanted it to.
I am also surprised to have read an Awake a few months back that now says being involved in the stock market is a matter of conscience, and the society saw nothing wrong with it. Isn't it gambling? Taking a chance with your money? And doesn't the society now have a lot of involvement in the stock market? At one time I'm sure we were told not to be involved in stocks.
Oh well..... as usual, I'm am on another rollercoaster ride.

RC

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Why I Think Its The Truth!

by normie67 in

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this is normie thoughts on the threads about the truth..... i have huge doubts about a lot of things about the org.

i have been a jw for 20 yrs and still active(family reasons).

but nobody but nobody has refuted to my mind, the fact nobody does the evangelizing work jesus did.

rollercoaster

Ianao,
Just to back up some of what you say, the JWs do hide the abuse in the org. I was home and a neighbor, (JW) was seriously abusing her child. Foul language, beating, etc., the child was crying "no mommy, no" it tore me up. I called the elders, and told them to get over there now or I would call the police. Their response;"we will call her and distract her." I was determined the next time, I would call the authorities. The rest of the time I lived there, I heard nothing next door.
To this day, I wish I had called the cops first. The child deserved better. Now I carry the guilt. I resent the elders for their lack of serious and proper action.
You are right. The org., does not want the world to know. So it is up to others to let everyone know.
Thanks for making the point you did.

RC

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Mental Anguish

by doubtingsister in

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i'm getting ready for the book study.

the only reason i'm even going is because i've got several friends i don't want to break ties with yet.

they are counting on me to help them stay strong in the "truth".

rollercoaster

Hi Doubtingsister,
You are not alone. I understand how you feel. It is so hard to break away when your "friends" are asking why you weren't at the meetings or why you aren't staying in touch as much. You feel guilty every time you talk to them. When you do finally make the break, you will have to explain to your family. I was very lucky to have family that understand and are relieved that I am now questioning the society. They are impressed with my self progress. Being sure of what I do regarding business and finances. They listen to me when I am upset or doubting.
Your children will thrive. I have been concerned about my child. But when I think about all she has missed out on. She doesn't have the life experiences to make good, informed decisions. Now I am trying to fill in those gaps. She has to cultivate new friendships and build trust in her choices of friends. As you know, it's hard in this day and age to find healthy activities when in your teens.
You will be O.K. just keep telling yourself that.
I am still in "good standing". But I don't even attend meetings. I don't have association with the witnesses either. I am in "transition" right now.
What are your reasons for pulling away from the organizaiton?
Just remember that the people here are very understanding and will always be there for you. I know they have been for me.

Keep me updated on your progress.
RC

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Is therapy the answer?

by ShaunaC in

i just finished reading the thread started by seven regarding therapy.

i saw that many of you have gone to counseling as well.

still others are cautious about it.

rollercoaster

Hi larc,
You are right, but I still have to find a way to be secure in my self-direction. I was raised with good morals, but also was never given the chance to make decisions for myself, and when I did, my parents quickly corrected me. The WT org., took over where my parents ended. I guess now I have the ability to make my decisions, but a lot of the times question the motive behind my decisions. I am still trying to break away from the society, and that is hard when business finances are involved. It's like kissing butt to stay in business. I hope within the next two years, I will be free of any society influences.
The changes I have made and the new contacts in this room have been the most wonderful expereinces I've had in the last 5 years. (pathetic huh?) I guess I should get out more.
I still need to know how to continue in following Bible principles and Jehovahs direction. What is his direction anyway?

Love ya!!!
RC