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It's 2 AM...and Im soooo sad

by LovesDubs in

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22 years ago

its just not supposed to be like this.

i just put my jw husband on a plane to san fran so he can spend the entire holiday week out there, get this, dog sitting his nonjw brothers shitzus while he goes to visit family for christmas.

i told him i was going to miss him...and he replied, well "i wont miss christmas".

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

((((LovesDubs))))

LyinEyes and Scully said some wonderful things, I don't know what to add other than that I can feel the pain in your post and wish I could offer some comfort to you. Please, please remember and take comfort in the fact that you ARE giving something to your children that they WILL one day come to appreciate. And don't underestimate what positive effects your stand may be having on your husband. We just never know what another person is thinking and feeling; he may not feel able to share his thoughts with you right now, especially if he is having some serious doubts but that doesn't mean that it will always be that way.

The holidays are supposed to be a time of togetherness and love for families; therefore, we feel the absence of that so much more keenly this time of year. Please don't give up hope; as Robyn said, maybe it will be totally different this time next year. I'm hoping that is the case.

Love,

Dana

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Happy Anniversary Think41self and FreePeace!

by safe4kids in

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22 years ago

(((((((doug and tracy))))) you're two of my favorite people and i love you both.

in the three years that you've been married, i've gained a brother and a nephew (i'll tell you who they are later!

tracy, thanks for being my friend, my advisor, my confidante, and for watching my back.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

(((((((Doug and Tracy))))) You're two of my favorite people and I love you both. In the three years that you've been married, I've gained a brother and a nephew (I'll tell you who they are later! ) Doug, thanks for the happiness and love that you've brought into my sister's life and thanks for being the good man that you are--you make me think there is some hope for men in general LOL

Tracy, thanks for being my friend, my advisor, my confidante, and for watching my back. Most importantly, though, I want to thank you in advance for that awesome Christmas present I'm just SURE you bought me this year!

Here's to another happy year for the both of you!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

Love Dana

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Did you raise your kids as witnesses?

by freedom96 in

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22 years ago

my mom raised us as witnesses, and finally left the wts after we grew up and left the house.

my dad left after too.

now my mom is so sorry about it all, and how we had to live, with my father an elder, the strictness, and of course all the things that a good witness family could not do.. how many of you raised your kids as witnesses?

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Hey Freedom

Ignore Brother Farkel...he has a strange sense of humor

I was raised a witness and my mom is still in, as are all of my extended family members save my sister who posts here. I left about 5 years ago, when my kids were 6 and 4, respectively. I am SO GLAD that they do not have to live the childhood I lived, although they still remember going to meetings and missing out on school functions that were centered around the holidays.

As an example of how confusing it is for children, I'll tell you something that just recently came to light. My son Justin, who is 11, just found out this year that it was okay for him to salute the flag in school! I had no idea that he didn't understand, but found out that he was continuing to stand but not say the words during the pledge of allegiance. We talked about it and his comment to me was: "but mom, I thought it was wrong". So we discussed it and I told him that it was entirely up to him, he was to do whatever he was comfortable with but that I saw nothing wrong with him saying the words if he was ok with that. I don't know how this particular issue fell through the cracks (my 9 year old daughter has been saying it all along) but that old training was still rearing its ugly head.

My heart goes out to you and your son. It's so hard for a child to have to feel different from everyone else but don't give up hope, freedom! As your son grows, and you have opportunities to talk to him, as his ability to reason on things increases, I believe you will be able to help him see the fallacies in the WT teachings. Thank goodness he has you in his life to offer a counterbalance to his mom's belief system.

Dana

Edited by - safe4kids on 21 December 2002 20:21:42

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The Two Towers

by Xander in

23 years ago

just saw this.. great movie.

not as good as book, but about matches it roughly as good as fellowship matched the book.. gollum is class act - for those worried the little cgi creature wouldn't work, don't be!

he looks great - and the voice acting is dead one.. won't say too much, as spoilers might ruin it for some, but you really, really should see the extended edition dvd of the fellowship before seeing this movie.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Ummm...just for those of you who may not know...Tracy (think41self) is my sister so I am allowed to call her names

Dana

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The Two Towers

by Xander in

23 years ago

just saw this.. great movie.

not as good as book, but about matches it roughly as good as fellowship matched the book.. gollum is class act - for those worried the little cgi creature wouldn't work, don't be!

he looks great - and the voice acting is dead one.. won't say too much, as spoilers might ruin it for some, but you really, really should see the extended edition dvd of the fellowship before seeing this movie.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Tracy! Back off, bitch! Legolas is mine..MINE I TELL YOU!!!!!!

GREAT movie, thought it was even better than the first one and I agree, Xander, Gollum worked very well.

Dana

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How weird is this?

by safe4kids in

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22 years ago

as many of you know, i'm divorced, have been for 2 years now, after a 13 year marriage.

my ex and i get along pretty well, we're friends of a sort, and we have our kids' well being as our main priority in life.

that's not the weird part..well, i suppose in some ways it is, but that may be a story for another post!.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

You are more than welcome Soledad And just for you...

Feliz Navidad, Feliz navidad, feliz navidad, prospero ano y felicidad. I wanna wish you a merry christmas, I wanna wish you a merry christmas...I wanna wish you a merry christmas from the bottom of my heart.

Dana (who had 4 years of Spanish and can barely remember any of it )

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IT'S M' BIRTHDAY & I'LL DRINK IF I WANT 2

by Mary in

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22 years ago

well, i'm old as the hills today...........and for anyone wanting to know details, lets just say i'm over 21............. .

i'm leaving in about 20 minutes to go over to my horrible "apostate" friends house where they're giving me a (gasp!

) birthday partaaaaaaa!!!

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Happy, happy birthday Mary! I hope you have a great time at your party. For some reason, I have this really strong feeling (call me crazy) that there won't be any beheadings.

As for telling your age...well, hey, I am TOTALLY with you on that one!

Dana

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Who likes winter?

by JH in

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22 years ago

well, today is the first day of winter.

winter here in canada is cold and long.

we have about 4 to 5 months of damn snow every year.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

LOL @ Pleasuredome

Actually, I think Fall is my favorite time of year. 'Course, I live in Florida, so we don't really get to have actual seasons. I would love to live somewhere that I could enjoy a real autumn and a real winter, at least, I would love it for a year or so!

Dana

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How weird is this?

by safe4kids in

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22 years ago

as many of you know, i'm divorced, have been for 2 years now, after a 13 year marriage.

my ex and i get along pretty well, we're friends of a sort, and we have our kids' well being as our main priority in life.

that's not the weird part..well, i suppose in some ways it is, but that may be a story for another post!.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Expatbrilliant,

A man who likes shopping and you divorced him.

Yeah? So what's yer point??

Actually, he hates shopping as much as I do...come to think of it, maybe THAT'S why we felt connected today!

Dana

Edited to add: BTW...what the heck is that profile pic you have??

Edited by - safe4kids on 21 December 2002 19:50:35

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How weird is this?

by safe4kids in

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22 years ago

as many of you know, i'm divorced, have been for 2 years now, after a 13 year marriage.

my ex and i get along pretty well, we're friends of a sort, and we have our kids' well being as our main priority in life.

that's not the weird part..well, i suppose in some ways it is, but that may be a story for another post!.

22 years ago

safe4kids 22 years ago

Vassal right back atcha! LOL Yep, yep, yep...there are times when I really do feel the urge to hit him! Fortunately, those don't come all that often and so far, I've resisted them. We're lucky, for our kids' sakes, that we can get along with our exes.

Freedom Thanks! And sorry to hear that yours was horrible...I don't think that I could have handled that.

(((Outoftheorg))) I really don't think that it was wisdom on my part...I think that it basically boiled down to our joint desire not to hurt our kids any more than they already were being hurt. It helped, too, that he wasn't a dub and that there were no other people involved (read affairs). I'm really saddened to hear of what you've been through, it can't have been fun. Unfortunately, we can't always reason with other people and get them to see the harm they are doing. I hope that you and your children are able to heal beyond this. BTW...feel free to email me, if you'd like.

You're right Debz! It was just weird to me because we had never in our marriage done this...and yet we enjoyed ourselves today so much, shopping for our kids and imagining the delight on their faces come Xmas morning. Perhaps if we could have done things like this together as a married couple, we might have been able to save it. I'll never know now.

Soledad You hit the nail on the head. We do get along much better as friends than we did married. I'm sending positive thoughts and best wishes your way

(((LadyLee))) Thanks. How are you doing, btw??

Dana

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