We moved congregations at the beginning of '88 and some time in the summer of that year we realised that the rot was right through the organization and not just a local thing. Partly it was seeing what another body of elders was like and partly finding CoC in the library. We Da'ed in February the following year. We'd never even heard the term fading, there was no internet.
I'm not saying it's right for everyone but it was right for us, we were suffering badly in that religion. We couldn't have taken much more. It sounds dramatic I know but we barely escaped with our sanity. Now, although in the past I've had some doubts about the way we left because I lost my entire family, I know we did the right thing, for us. We never looked back, just moved forwards and although it was very hard work it was worth it.