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  Do I beleive in GOD?

  by 70wksfyrs in

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  yes .

  do you?.

  if not why not?

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  perfect1

  I dont believe in someone who never says anything back when I speak to it.
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  The worst thing to have pride in

  by Rattigan350 in

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  2. beliefs

  i really hate it when kids on interviews on meetings or assemblies and they state with pride that they turned down the piece of cake or brownie or other birthday treat at school.

  is that something to really be proud of?

  it is not as if the teacher is tempting them.

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  Having to constantly turn down every holiday and birthday cake, cupcake, and brownie, not to mention every every palm traced turkey, spiderweb, v-day heart- paper snow flake- EVERY DAY to stand but not recite the pledge of allegiance- it does something to a child. I recall sitting out school birthday parties in the hallway by myself, overhearing the happy sounds inside. Did I feel sorry for myself- of course not. They were dead meat, and I wasnt.

  On top of that, even if YOU THE CHILD feel like this one cupcake wont hurt anything, your parents have already visited your teachers to inform them that you are to be a social outcast and sit out anything remotely fun or even scientific. But, the child most likely will not take the cupcake because that frosted bit of happiness is a TEMPTATION leading to CERTAIN DEATH AT armageddon.

  This is one those instances of JW DOUBLESPEAK. What the child feels is SHAME, so instead lets call it PRIDE.

  If it is pride, its is pride that everyone else is going to die, but you, in your cupcake refusing virtue, will live forever and pet the panda.
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  Today's WT Study (Who is the FDS - Sep 2013)

  by ohnightdivine in

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  2. bible

  please share how your wt study went today...

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  perfect1

  I WANT MY OWN PLANET.
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  I made a huge mistake

  by KariOtt in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  its been a tough 6 months for my jw hubby and myself.

  next saturday is our anniversary.

  i wasn't sure we would make it with the turbulance of the last 6 months.

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  First of all, people, I am not saying it is weird to buy yourself a little something.

  I am saying I find it odd to purchase ones own wedding anniversary gift.

  Second of all KariOtt, having just read your last post, I do feel a bit concerned for you.

  You should value yourself a bit more within your marriage.

  Its sounds as if you are the ideal LONG SUFFERING, MEEK, SUBMISSIVE jw wife!

  If you hear those three words and think of them as virtues, well...
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  Changing your profile name

  by wizzstick in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  hi all,.

  quick question - is it pssible to change your profile name?.

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  perfect1

  Why would you wanna change your name, wizz stick.

  LOL!!!
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  I made a huge mistake

  by KariOtt in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  its been a tough 6 months for my jw hubby and myself.

  next saturday is our anniversary.

  i wasn't sure we would make it with the turbulance of the last 6 months.

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  perfect1

  weird that you bought your own gift.
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  Life advice to pass on ...

  by free2beme in

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  2. friends

  i was thinking.

  if i died today, what advice would i want my children to know after i am gone.

  ever think about that, if so, then add on.... 1. know in life that people will always tell you their side of the story, and when they do they will always be the hero and everyone else the villian.

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  When other people try discourage you and tell you its impossible, ignore them and do what you want.
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  breakup guilt

  by fresh prince of ohio in

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  2. relationships

  i recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.

  i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.

  she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.

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  perfect1

  Here I will highlight all the warning signs, my friend.

  the writing is on the wall, as they say.

  I recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.

  She is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future. I gave her some money.

  The guilt I am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing. She had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply. She is an intensely emotional person, I would give her an armchair diagnosis of having major depressive/borderline tendencies. I just never loved her the same way she did me, although I did come to care for her.

  I felt like I was her protector, in some ways, her savior in this cruel and unforgiving world. So there was this whole existential aspect of the relationship.

  I fear that she may lose all hope and decide to end her life.

  She had me on this PEDESTAL. It was like, she was so amazed that I was ever in a relationship with HER . So, it never felt like a meeting of equals. And now that I've left her, her interpretation is that she's been rejected cold by the most wonderful amazing man in the world (i'm really not all that).

  She is reasonably intelligent in most respects, but has a certain naivete about things that doesn't serve a single woman living in a big city very well.

  She has deep-rooted self esteem issues, had a traumatic childhood, and has a horrifying existential fear that 'nobody will ever love her'. Thing is, I DID love her. And she has people in her life who DO love her. But I loved her more in a friendly, caring way that comes with knowing a person over a long period of time.

  The relationship became quite toxic towards the end, with lots of fights. I found her exhausting to be in a relationship with - she was always having some kind of crisis. The resentment and tension built up to the point where cruel words were spoken by me to her on more than one occasion.

  One of the biggest challenges i had all along was that I didn't find her sexually attractive. At least not very much. We did have sex, but usually only once every couple of weeks. Always initiated by me. She wasn't capable of spontaneous displays of affection towards me - just too fearful and nervous. I think the lack of sexual attraction was because she just never carried herself with any confidence or verve. On our first date, I walked into the restaurant and saw her (we met online) and she looked at me with this fearful expression, which was an expression that i became all too familiar with and exhausted by over the years. I learned later that she was certain that I was going to take one look at her and turn around and walk right out, if that tells you anything about her confidence.

  Anyway, I don't know what more to say. I feel like I may end up going back to her, even though I know how unhappy I was in the relationship, especially over the past year. But the guilt and anguish I'm experiencing over leaving her is just too much.
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  hello. pls help. getting married soon. afraid i won't be happy because wtbts said so.

  by seasickbumblebee in

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  2. relationships

  alshello.

  i'm a practicing jw.

  finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.

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  perfect1

  Mouthy you rock.
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  Are JW:s more sick than others

  by Bugbear in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  on request from friends thread i would like to tell you my story.

  the subject from friends thread was simply : are jw,s more negative or more disordered than normal people?.

  i was 10 15 years ago an elder.

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  perfect1

  WTW