First one I've missed ever. the only thing that bothers me is when my mum asks if I went. always hated the event itself so no love lost there.
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First year without Memorial
by sp74bb inmy first year after more than 20 years.... it seems strange.
happy fellings but at the same times feeling some loniness.. is your first one as well?.
veterans: how do you feel after some many years?.
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krejames
i remember those long distant days when I used to get PMs...it's a sign of the last days that I don't get any anymore. the love of the greater number of apostates is cooling off hehe ;)
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krejames
5 judicial committees, one public reproof. not disfellowshipped.
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Are you a good person?
by Xanthippe insomething happened this week to make me think about this again.. it feels like all bets are off and i really don't know what a good person is anymore.. when i left the jws i was so sure i knew what it meant to be a good person.. this has been revised many times since.. i tend to favour the utilitarian approach, the greatest happiness for the greatest number of people.. sometimes you have to stick your neck out and say this is not good for me no matter what others may feel they need from me.. no idea where i'm going with this maybe this is a breakthrough in my life or maybe that glass of wine was stronger than i thought!.
any thoughts?.
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krejames
I am so good, I'm much better than you 'orrible lot. AND I'm the most humble person in the world, I'll have you know...
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What do you think attracts new ones to the JW organization now?
by cultBgone inthis is an offshoot from the jws then and now thread...it made me wonder what exactly people find attractive about the cult today?
why are they joining?
any thoughts?.
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krejames
What Magwitch said
And yes it does seem to tick all the boxes for "ready" answers until and if further proper research undertaken.
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What is definition of a true friend, once outside the cult?
by suavojr inafter leaving the cult of jw's or waking up to ttatt, it is a struggle to trust people again.
i am personally starting from scratch although i am still in.
each moment i spend with my current jw friends, i know they are all smiles and loving towards me because of my good status with the wt.. outside a cult you still find fake people and it is also a struggle to find true friends and it is even worst when we've been hit hard from people we used to trust and care for.. .
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krejames
I don't know whether it's just the area I live in but I really feel as though I have found some really genuine friends now - much more so than when I was going to meetings. Most of my current friendships have been formed at work with colleagues past and present. It has surprised me because I have always considered myself quite a boring person lol. As others have said, if we are ourselves and comfortable being ourselves - some people will like us for who we are. but the cliche that says if we want to have good friends we have to be a good friend is true. Because I don't feel I have much to say, I often find myself asking other people questions about themselves or whatever interests them (not in a nosey way) and I find people generally like talking about themselves especially if we remember little things they have said to us.
Usually friendships are inititiated through common interests and being open to meeting new people (e.g the friends of our new friends).
It doesn't happen over night - good luck and...enjoy the experience of finding new friends! :) x
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Two Roads... and the one I took made all the difference
by adjusted knowledge inintroduction to the faith.
ive been a lurker for many years now, and recently created an account to post comments.
someone suggested i should introduce myself and tell my story.
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krejames
Welcome AK!
Great that you're here.
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First Post...Hi everyone! Thanks for all of your help over the years!
by stuckinarut2 inwell... as they say on talk back radio "i'm a long time listener, first time caller"(poster in this case!).
i have been a "lurker" for several years, but never had the courage to take the step and join up...until now.. i really want to thank everyone for their insights and comments throughout the forum.
although i have not contibuted to discussions, i have benefitted very much from all of your comments and observations on all topics.
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krejames
Welcome StuckinaRut. Great to see you here (and all the other newbies that have said hi on this upbeat thread). Will look forward to reading more about your story to the extent you wish to share. Some great advice on here already. I'll just echo something already mentioned that helped me stay sane during while building up to my protracted fade....make plenty of non JW friends - there are some fantastic genuine lovely people in this world - good friends will make the transition so much easier however and whenever it comes.
Take care x
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Just got a call from an elder
by nolongerconfused inso i faded over a year ago...i told the elders that if i needed them i would call them.
1 year and 3 months later, today, i get a call from an elder who used to be my good friend...he calls and i dont pick up..he leaves a voicemail, saying "hello ____, please call me back at 444-444-4444 whenever you can".
i was like wow, this has to be one of those calls to get inactive ones back to the memorial.
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yeah I had a call yesterday too. didn't pick up but I assume it's memorial season madness.
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What Ailed Those Pilots ... ?
by snowbird inthe pilots and crew of the missing plane, was something wrong with all of them?.
sylvia.
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krejames
it was a night flight so I guess many of the passengers would have been sleeping. Latest thought on BBC tonight, which they alleged came from a credible source, was that the plane flew south til it ran out of fuel and ditched in the ocean west of Australia. We'll see...(or maybe we won't)