SFJ, don't know what you meant by that - maybe I need another coffee .
Perhaps I should have explained a little more. I've been rather grumpy lately, and my statement was a reflection of my mood. It was not meant as an attack, but just a personal reflection.
I was not born with the "GQ" look. My physical appearance has always been "average" at best. Part of the problem, not just with the gay community, but with society as a whole, is that there seems to be a standard by which people are judged based upon outward appearances and physical attributes. When I was younger, I wanted to alter my appearance so that I would be accepted by the "in" crowd. I was never invited to "the" parties, and I was usually shunned by those who were gifted with the body of Adonis and/or the endowment of Apollo.
Being a former JW who experienced the worst sort of shunning after I was disfellowshipped, I have always been sensitive to any situation where I am shunned.
Now that I am older (47) and in a very happy long-term relationship, that sort of superficiality means less to me personally any more. Yet, the myth that exterior beauty equals success and happiness continues to be perpetuated, and I wonder how many "less-than" youths suffer because of it as I did. Last year, I discontinued a subscription to a magazine because they ran a very offensive advertisement for a diet drug picturing a buff man in a shower, while behind him stood several forlorn-looking bald, pot-bellied, middle-aged men. The caption read something to the effect of "Take our product now before it is too late."
I wrote to the publisher and told them that I was a middle-aged man with a less-than-perfect body, and by their accepting such advertising, they obviously considered me as being "too late" for help, and therefore I cancelled my subscription. I never heard back from them, although I have been told that the offending ad no longer runs in their magazine, so likely I was not the only person who found it offensive.
I'm glad you had such a good time in the bar, but I suppose the point I was trying to make (in all my grumpiness) is that you saw a very superficial side of the gay community. It is a segment of society I personally want nothing to do with, because I've had enough shunning to last a lifetime.
I apologize if you found my remarks offensive. I was just thinking out loud.