Hi Addison, I was born in too. I left at 18, and at the time, was a regular pioneer daughter of the congregation's Coordinator. I hadn't really planned to go until it dawned on me that I needed to and I was out of my parents house within 48 hours of that realization, moving into the apartment of a couple "worldly" friends who I'd met in school (and who are my loyal friends to this day). My entire family - parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc - are dubs. My entire social structure was built on me being a dub, too. It wasn't easy leaving but it's possible. You just have to be patient with yourself and trust your intuition. When it's time to go you will.
Cimarrona
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There is No Way Out For Me
by Addison0998 ini have come to the conclusion that there is no way for me to ever leave.
although i have some friends at work, my whole social structure are witnesses.
even if i move congregations, my parents have contacts everywhere who will tell them if i’m not active.
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What Is The Most Ridiculous Thing You Have Heard From A Witness?
by minimus ini remember an elder questioning a woman who had admitted to giving and receiving oral sex from her unbelieving mate.
he asked her the most intimate questions which clearly flustered her.
interestingly, she “confessed “ to the elders because her conscience bothered her.
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Cimarrona
I had moved to another city about two years after I left the borg. A friend talked me into calling my parents because 'surely they were worried about me'.
Me: Hi, mom. Just calling to let you know I'm alive.
Mother: Well, you're only alive physically.
(The subtext being that spiritually I was dead.)0
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Good-bye Jehovah (poem)
by SunnyOne026 init has been several months now, since i learned ttat and the shock and grief is slowly lifting, although some days are harder than others.
after 40 years a devout believer i guess i should not be surprised that the transition has been challenging and the losses immense, and i am sure very many of you can relate to my struggles.
i frequently read the posts on here and my heart goes out to all of you, who grieve and struggle each in your own way, and i wish all of you continued courage and peace.
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Cimarrona
Thank you for sharing!
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Are Jehovahs Witnesses headed towards becoming one of the most controversial and talked about religions on YouTube
by UnshackleTheChains ingiven the numerous videos on youtube about all the scandals and controversies of the watchtower bible and tract society.
are they headed to becoming one of the most infamous religious groups in the world for all the wrong reasons?.
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Cimarrona
I think a lot of us carry the idea that Jehovah's witnesses are the center of the universe into our post-dub lives. They are, at most and only according to themselves, a few million people in the entire world. No one (relatively speaking) cares about them, some people have never heard of them and most of those who have aren't checking for them on the internet or anywhere else.
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My 71st Birthday Confessional
by TerryWalstrom ini was born january 15, 1947in mt.
carmel hospital, detroit, michigan.. within six months of my birth, my mother would bundle her baby boy into a blanket and board an american airlines propeller-driven plane--in effect, leaving my father behind--to return to her hometown, ft. worth, texas.. my dad had an excellent job working for cadillac as an inspector.
it was a union job.
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Cimarrona
Happy belated, Terry ✨ thank you so much for sharing. This was such an engaging read, and I appreciate the baby boomer generational perspective.
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Do You Know Any “Gay” Jehovah’s Witnesses?
by minimus inof course the religion condemns homosexuality but did you know any gay witnesses?
i knew some bethelites that were very effeminate and i remember 4 women who were suspected of being lesbians by many in the congregation.
they eventually moved away and were very vocal against males, especially elders..
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Cimarrona
I had a friend growing up who was DF'd at least three times, but for whatever reason, kept coming back to be abused and told he was disgusting and that all sex outside of vaginal intercourse in a heterosexual marriage was unacceptable to invisible sky daddy. Last I heard, he moved away cause he couldn't deal with everyone knowing that he "used to be" gay (and treating him according to the homophobia the religion encourages). But remains a dub
Also, there was an older pioneer brother who was very effeminate. Always out in service any time you see him. He was a friend of my parents. An elder. Married with a daughter. But after reading someone else's comments about coaching I just realized that I'd never seen him give a public talk or a talk at the convention oddly enough. When he died years ago, he had the most well-attended funeral I'd ever been to. And when my father (he conducted the funeral) asked that those whom he'd converted raise their hands, literally hundreds of people raised their hands. I wonder if his zealousness was a result of guilt/shame.
Also, I want to acknowledge that being effeminate is not actually evidence of one's sexuality. Which is both to say - just cause a man is effeminate doesn't mean he is sexually or romantically attracted to men and just cause a man is masculine doesn't mean he isn't sexually or romantically attracted to men
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Family Insists on Having Relationship with My Child -_-
by Cimarrona inhi gang, i'm a single mother of an 8 month old baby boy.
i've been df'd for over six years now.
my parents are super dubs and most of my siblings are dubs (on paper - a couple have been inactive my entire life but still claim to believe) with the exception of a brother who was never baptized.
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Cimarrona
Thanks for the words of wisdom, everyone! Y'all are right. Sigh.
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Women must not instruct men, even by singing a theocratic song.
by Ultimate Axiom ini did a quick search and this doesn’t appear to have been commented on here, but if it has been, i apologise in advance for starting an unnecessary thread.. regarding a change to a song title, the study article on page 7 paragraph 17 of november 2017 watchtower explained, “the change of the title “guard your heart” to “we guard our hearts” was most considerate.
in the audience at our meetings, assemblies, and conventions are many new ones, interested ones, young ones, and sisters who by singing the words would be put in the awkward position of telling others what to do.
so the title and the lyrics were modified.”.
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Cimarrona
Astute observation @Morpheus
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Family Insists on Having Relationship with My Child -_-
by Cimarrona inhi gang, i'm a single mother of an 8 month old baby boy.
i've been df'd for over six years now.
my parents are super dubs and most of my siblings are dubs (on paper - a couple have been inactive my entire life but still claim to believe) with the exception of a brother who was never baptized.
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Cimarrona
Thank you for that thorough explanation @wake me up
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Family Insists on Having Relationship with My Child -_-
by Cimarrona inhi gang, i'm a single mother of an 8 month old baby boy.
i've been df'd for over six years now.
my parents are super dubs and most of my siblings are dubs (on paper - a couple have been inactive my entire life but still claim to believe) with the exception of a brother who was never baptized.
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Cimarrona
@m3tadata similar situation happened with my other sister. She's an uber uber dub - doing her assignment in bumfuck nowhere post-SKE/mid-30s virgin/y'all know the type. She came into town and my mom brought the baby to see her and only told me very matter of fairly thereafter. I told my mom then that if anyone wants a relationship with Amistad they can ask me and they can come to my house if I see fit to facilitate it. She didn't talk to me for several weeks after that. Shrug.