Nosey and interfering is what they do.
When I was a teenager a young brother in our congregation was showing interest in me. He spent a lot of time at our house and one day an elder visited while this young man was at our place. When the young man left, the elder turned to me and said "if you marry him I will not come to the wedding!"
What a horrible thing of this "Shepherd of the flock" to say. As if his opinion mattered.