I have not DAd or DFd. I stopped going to meetings and witnessing and my mother is depressed, sad and afraid for my life. She wrote a friend of ours saying that the pain is unbearable.
There is no way out without hurting someone.
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Disfellowshipped/disassociated – How did your parents handle it?
by Richard_I into those who were disfellowshipped/disassociated – how did your still-in parents handle it?.
i don’t want to fade, so i am thinking about disassociating soon – i don’t care if i’m playing by the org’s rules, i just want out.. however, i am concerned about how my parents will react.
i don’t want them to become super depressed or whatever due to me leaving the org.. i don’t want them to be hurt by my decision to leave the org, but i feel like there is no way of avoiding this..
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Thanks
by Akid48 inhey its me if any one remembers me,i just wanted to post saying that ive been doing well.right now im just trying to live life and have some fun while im still a kid.it still sucks to have to go to meetings etc.. like the title i wanted to say thanks for the people that helped me when i was posting a lot.i might post some times but not as much as i used to..
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moreconfusedthanever
Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. Glad you are in a good headspace. Stay positive and enjoy your youth.
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My last Memorial
by Sour Grapes ini missed my first memorial last year in 60 years.
it always amazed me on this special night that the jw's forget how to park their cars in the parking lot.
i would pull in with my wife and there are 5 brothers giving directions on where and how to park my car.
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moreconfusedthanever
This year's is on the 31st of March. It will be the first one I miss.
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Cousin's Runaway Girlfriend Living with us
by RunAwayDaughter inmy cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.
they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.
my cousin lies.
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moreconfusedthanever
I agree with Vanderhoven on a couple of points. If at all possible I would go to the graduation. Firstly you would regret missing such a milestone in the future and secondly you have an opportunity to show your unconditional love for her to her by attending. I would not interact with any of the boyfriend's family so as not to give a message of acceptance.
Hormones and I suspect grief may be causing a lot of mixed emotions in your daughter. Your husband has only been gone a year and grief makes some do out of character things.
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Cousin's Runaway Girlfriend Living with us
by RunAwayDaughter inmy cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.
they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.
my cousin lies.
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moreconfusedthanever
If you are concerned for her safety I would notify the authorities.
Millie210 has some very good advice. At some point your daughter will realize her mistake and need you to be there for her. In the meantime try to be as supportive as you can so you do not look like "the bad guy" and cannot be accused of being controlling.
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Question is there any historical data on a women killing her entire
by poopie infamily including dog and then herself?.
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moreconfusedthanever
In order for watchtower to change its policy on shunning we must answer the hard uncomfortable questions to prevent this sort of thing from happening again they think shunning is loveing.
I do not think the GB view shunning as loving. Yes they do "sell" it to the r&f as such knowing full well why they insist upon it. Love has nothing to do with it. It is a control mechanism. They control the flow of "truth" from being spread among the flock and keep the flock under control.
They will never change their policy on shunning because if and when they do their bubble will burst.
Just this week I had a conversation about disfellowshiping with a family member baptised in the 70s. They were not aware one could be excommunicated for taking a blood transfusion. Said "I have never heard of anyone being disfellowshiped for that. That does not happen. The blood issue is a conscience matter".
Are you f*****g serious! Firstly they would not have heard about it because they don't announce reasons for a disfellowshiping from the platform and then you are no longer to speak to that one so how would you know? Secondly people don't get transfusions because they don't want to be disfellowshiped.
See how it works? The r&f are kept in the dark and they are happy little mushrooms awaiting their prize.
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Memorial Attendance: The Single Most Impactful TTATT "Witness" to Family and Friends
by AMNESIANO inanyone who has awakened to ttatt and conscientiously left the organization--especially a once-prominent individual from a prominent multi-generational tribe of jws-- after decades of devout, high-profile "serve-us," who continues to put in an annual appearance at the memorial thoroughly subverts and undermines, by this one act, any hope s/he may entertain that his/her departure will stir family or former friends to question the whole watchtower bamboozle.
by this one concession s/he assigns him-/herself by every single jw to their handy and dimissive purgatory: the "spiritually-weak.".
nothing blasts a louder, clearer, and more deliberate message to the jws who personally knew you and those familiar with your jw bona fides that you are not merely "not making the meetings" or "spiritually-weak" but that there is a conscientious reason you have rejected the entire watchtower society life than choosing to forego what they know you know to be their one-and-only holy and sacred event of the year, the lord's evening meal.
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With this year's memorial coming up in a couple of weeks, I have been wrestling with the question of going or not.
Having found this thread I am now more determined not to go. Thanks!
I have family that will go just to make the parents happy and to keep the peace. Keeping the peace would be my only reason to attend.
Admittedly when"weak" ones would attend while I still believed, I took it as a sign that they still believed and attended the memorial as a sign of respect for Jesus and Jehovah.
Others would get cross at the appearance of what they called "woodworkers". Coming out of the wood work once a year only. Such a loving bunch of people.
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Growing a beard
by Coded Logic ini've always been currious as to how i would look with a beard so i've finally committed to doing it.
over the next 30 days i'm going to grow out a full chin to ear beard.. .
ps: any suggestions or advice on how to grow a beard would be much appreciated!.
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moreconfusedthanever
Get a decent beard grooming kit to keep it tidy. I got my husband one. He loves it.
People will give their opinions and sometimes they should just keep them to themselves.
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Who is going to make the earth a paradise?
by Sour Grapes inwhen i was a jw elder and dreamed of living in paradise, i pictured all of the animals, beautiful people, perfect weather, welcoming back the dead and teaching them about god.
the only problem is to get to the point of making the earth a paradise first there will be around 8 billion bodies to bury.
then how are we going to dig through all of the rubble and collapsed buildings using what tools?
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My mother's response would be "you are thinking like a human. With Jehovah all things are possible. Do not worry about it. Worry about getting there."
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I'm getting disfellowshipped
by Letty inhi everyone i'm 19 year old and i've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now.
i've followed the rules and i'm even a pioneer.
but i've hid the secret of a boyfriend i had from india.
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moreconfusedthanever
Why would your parents tell the elders? In the first instance as your parents, they are the ones who should be talking to you and giving you guidance. They are parents!
On what basis would you be disfellowshiped? So your parents saw some messages. Delete them. Tell them you had a moment of weakness and be more careful in future.
Since you say your boyfriend is in India, I assume you are not. It would be a stretch to disfellowship you on immorality grounds in that case.
Take a deep breath and play it smart. You now know who you can and cannot trust.