Posts by moreconfusedthanever

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Did your ability to work get affected by waking up to TTATT?

by stuckinarut2 in

just curious.. when you started to wake up to the truth about the truth, did the shock and the whole experience distract you from your usual activities such as performing at your place of work?.

did you become so consumed by researching, and the subsequent factual discoveries, that it affected your ability to carry out daily tasks?.

moreconfusedthanever

It sure did consume every waking moment and get in the way of being productive.

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i think my last post i said i went to a new congregation,i'm going to just talk about some of the shit i have seen in my congregation.. there was a kid trying to talk to a adult next to him i think it was his dad,the kid just started taping him because he wanted to tell him something and the dad gets mad then boom the kid gets elbowed.i look around to see if anyone saw him do that to his kid and nope or they didn't want to say anything about it and just like wtf.. in my old congregation,the younger kids would do random stuff in the middle of the meeting to not get board.

when the mom or dad got mad i would see then get dragged to the back of the kingdom hall and hear them start crying.when i was still mentally in i just didnt think about it at all when it would happen but when i woke up im just like thats fucked up..

moreconfusedthanever

My mother's go to behavior controller was the pinch and twist. This could be administered without anyone noticing and they would be left wondering why we were crying.

In my late teens we had a local need part asking parents not to take their children out to smack them as the neighbors had complained about the crying children. Such a loving group of people. What a great witness. Pft.

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Happy Birthday smiddy3

by smiddy3 in

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moreconfusedthanever

Happy birthday!

33

Concerned Parent

by ConcernedParent in

jw
friends

i'm writing for some advice from former jws.

my family is christian, and my 15yo daughter is "dating" a jw boy.

(the quotes are because they aren't old enough to actually go out on dates... they consider themselves bf/gf and have hung out and gone places with each other, but always with parents, family, etc.

moreconfusedthanever

Firstly - is he a baptised JW or just a JW by association/family?

My son has a girlfriend at school at 16. Many would say he is a JW because we as his parents have been JWs all our lives. We are now fading, so quietly leaving. Therefore there are ones who would not know our current position.

When I was 16 nearly every one of the teenagers in my congregation had boyfriend/girlfriends at school. Some went on to immerse themselves in the JW way of life and some did not.

If you want to know where he stands just ask him. If he is a believer I would recommend research into the cult and do said research together with your daughter.

If he is just biding his time until he is his own man he will need a family to accept him when his own will not.

14

The elephant on the street

by Normalfulla in

as a contractor i travel around for my job, i was stopped this morning to buy some milk at a store in a small village i guess and as i turned a corner i saw 2 elders i know personally manning a cart in the cold outside the store with not a soul in sight and an unlikely place for much traffic even though it was outside a country store.

1 elder is my brother in laws father and the other was in my old cong when i left, i said hello, talked about the weather and general chit chat and was my usual self, they were pleasant also but nothing was mentioned to me about anything spiritual etc.

i know they will be aware of some of my reasons for leaving (the few that i talked about initially before shutting my trap) but they were unwilling to engage in saving my life with their work!

moreconfusedthanever

My mother does the "babysitting the bookshelf" witnessing. She told me story of the cart being approached by an irate apostate. The woman was carrying on about something and the sisters asked her to show them. The woman said she couldn't. The sisters asked her to leave them be. She continues her rant until a lady watching came over and asked for a book. The lady said she had been watching the exchange and felt bad for the sisters so decided to rescue them by taking a book.

Goes to show that sometimes unwitnessing to cart watchers is not always the best way to go.

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So lonely and isolated.

by CampcO0perate in

reading some post on here today has me wonder ing if there is some others out there that understands the duplicet fickle person i am on the inside.

i was brought to the kingdom hall 3-4 times a week.

to this day i have an aversion totuesdays.

moreconfusedthanever

Tuesdays trigger me too! We have made sure to be busy on Tuesday evenings. Our week is very full now and I wonder how we had time to go to the meetings. Haha.

It's hard at first but after a period of deprogramming it will get easier.

14

second letter from a supposed friend

by chellechelle in

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friends

dear michelle, .

just one qucik letter to let you know i miss you.

like everyone else i am concerned for you; but dont worry im not going to lecture you.

moreconfusedthanever

I got a concerned for your life message a few days ago.

"Miss you guys. Not nagging, just saying. Can I help? Not nagging but when are you coming back? Not being pushy but I am worried about you. Don't disappear when we are so close. I too have been overwhelmed with life lately. We can help each other."

Not bad considering it's been 2 years since I stopped going.

Oh and I am not overwhelmed with life but I guess it's easier for them to think that.

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New brother to have a bible study with

by Akid48 in

well i moved to a new congregation, and i have no one to study with and i didnt have a bible study in weeks and i was loving but one meeting my aunt said ''im going to set up a bible study with brother bob (dont his name)''.well come to find out brother bob is a man that puts a lot of pressure on you to join the school etc.. well right now im like fuck,because i dont know how to deal with brother bob so i just wanted to know if any could help me..

moreconfusedthanever

If I recall correctly you are still in school and early teens. You don't have much say in what happens right now so sit in the study, answer the reading comprehension exercise from the paragraphs and no more. Play the game, slow and steady. Slow!! No rush to do anything such as service or talks and avoid baptism at all costs.

Say anxiety holds you back from being on the school and talking at the doors. If he makes you go in field service with him, refuse to do any talking just say you want to watch and learn.

Eventually he will no longer want to waste his time or you will be old enough to make your move.

Relax and be patient.

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It sucks too love boxing and being in a JW family

by Akid48 in

during this new year i started to love boxing and i can only really do is shadowbox which is good training, but i really want to do more.

now you might be thinking ''why the heck would this kid take a likeing in boxing when he is in a jw family?

''well thats the point of this post it sucks that i cant do a sport that i like and i want to spend time doing because jw's dont let you do sports and dear god you wont be able to do something like boxing.. (i just made this because i just wanted to talk about this and some of you will understand if you wanted too do sports but you couldnt because you where a part of a jw family).

moreconfusedthanever

I wanted to play tennis. My brother soccer. We couldn't do these things because extra curricular activities were frowned upon.

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Not Being Invited To Gatherings.

by kennylazo1 in

jw
friends

have you ever found out that your "buddies" from the kingdom hall went out to have fun and did not invite you?

if so how did you feel?.

moreconfusedthanever

I think I would rather not be invited than invited and ignored by everyone the entire evening which has happened to me.