Posts by Scully

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How to talk to an Elder (Need help ASAP)

by okage in

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friends

i never was a jehovahs witness.

its been stated.

so if i went up to a local congregation and knocked on the door how would i get to talk to an elder about my mother in law.... i have no interest in being a witness.

Scully

You did a good thing in helping this lady get caught up on her mortgage. She, in turn, showed you how much she valued your assistance. She is a user and manipulator. Her daughter is likely so brainwashed by her mother's guilt-trips all her life that she feels she can't escape the emotional abuse and blackmail.

Take the high road. Revenge only puts you on the same level as the person you want to get even with. Tell your MIL that you and your wife are moving into your own place ASAP, and that you cannot help her financially any longer. She will have to deal with the consequences of her choices from now on, even if that means losing her house and ending up in a shelter. Do NOT, under any circumstances, allow her to move in with you and your wife if she loses her house.

In the long run, taking the high road will keep your wife's respect, and will allow you to live your life without regrets. If you have children together someday, do you want their grandmother telling them stories about how you got revenge on her? Do you want your wife to be afraid to upset you, thinking that the payback will be hell? It's not worth it. Really.

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Rumor Elders Will Receive Name Badges For Every Meeting.

by HelpMeBelieve in

i keep hearing rumors elders are going to be getting permanent badge cards to wear to every meeting.

one excited brother told me, "it would be nice if new ones to the kingdom hall could see who their shepherds are.

there is a great surge in activity, new bible students will be able to locate the proper elder in charge of bible studies!

Scully

I wouldn't be surprised in the least. The WTS is always trying to give the appearance of being proactive / forward-thinking / progressive. A name tag on an Elder™ or Ministerial Servant™ will give the impression that they have been "vetted" by the WTS or at least by the local Congregation™, and have met all legal requirements for working around children, such as a criminal background check, etc.

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"Our Reader's Ask" November 2012 Public WT

by dontplaceliterature in

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friends

has anyone seen this?

it's rich.

it's too bad that this will blow right over the heads of jehovah's witnesses.

Scully

It is the "for public consumption" edition.

I'd venture to guess that they want outsiders to be reassured that they welcome questions and diligent research. Once you're in, they pull the bait and switch manoeuvre, such that "you know it's The Truth™", "trust us, we're the Faithful and Discreet Slave™", and questioning + deep research = Apostasy™.

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Best EZ 1 Liners to Say to Witnesses?

by LV101 in

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friends

any suggestions?

attending an invite (strange we're invited but hoping to make it worth my while) but i don't want to suffer big consequences as i've already said enough wrong stuff.

i'm stuck reading hassan's ccmc book (about half way --- just don't have time and not into it).

Scully

I usually wait for one of them to say something judgemental or hateful. Then I zing them with, "wow, that is loving" or "I wonder if that's how Jesus feels about that" or, my personal favorite: "everyone will know my disciples by the love they have among themselves."

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What Do You think About Watchtower View on the Use Of Mother's Natural Milk Banks and Milk-Sharing Practices?

by Scott77 in

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/story/2012-09-02/breast-milk-bank-donors/57535706/1.

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Scully

Considering one of the major components of early milk (colostrum) is leukocytes, I would be interested in learning their position on it, because they are so dead set against the transfusion of major components of blood, including leukocytes.

Funny how female mammals were "created" with the ability to feed our young and provide precious immune properties via leukocytes in colostrum, but when it is derived from blood, it's forbidden by the so-called "Creator".

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My worst friend

by fade_away in

i need to vent a bit here.

my wife is a social person who finds it very easy to find people she can connect with and have tons in common.

i am the complete opposite.

Scully

My suggestion would be to start looking around for social groups that do activities you enjoy, things you can do on the evenings your wife enjoys her friends' company. You can try out any number of things without making a pact with them to go every single week - if you like running or cycling or graphic novels or whatever, you can probably find people who share your interests. Try out a variety of activities so you aren't too deeply involved in the social dynamics of each group until you find a group or individuals who don't irritate you too much.

I don't think it's necessary to "break up" with the old dude. You don't get along with him, he sounds boorish and kind of selfish to have conversations that revolve around him and his day to day ablutions. Hopefully he's not texting you or cyberstalking you to keep tabs on you. ;) Somehow I doubt it, and somehow I don't think he'll be crushed... he'll likely glom onto the next tag-along husband that shows up.

I enjoy my co-workers' company at work, but knowing the kind of gossip they generate, I rarely socialize with them. Instead, I have a regular cooking class and a crafting group. Both of those activities are more social and superficial "acquaintance" level relationships, but I'm fine with that. I'm pretty private and prefer socializing around a common interest rather than deep philosophical or probing my psyche type conversations. I save that kind of stuff for y'all on JWN, where I can be somewhat anonymous. :)

Also, maybe you and your wife need to have a regular date night every week to go for dinner and a movie, or some other thing you can enjoy together, so that you stay connected and don't end up begrudging each other your nights out.

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GRRRRRRRR! update for ya'll on my daughter.

by Aussie Oz in

jw
friends

so much has happened the last few days in my world.

i am handling it all very well don't worry!.

my daughter left her mothers home, so very hard to do and she has been so very brave and strong.

Scully

Your daughter can file a police report and give them an itemized list of her belongings that she paid for herself with her money, along with the money jerkwad owes her and the $200 in her bank account.

The police will show up and collect her stuff on her behalf. If they refuse, let's just say that it won't go well for them.

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