I should lock this thread on the principle that some people don't deserve attention and need to be slapped upside the head for asking dumb questions that don't belong here.
Posts by Scully
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16I would like to try different kinds of flavored toothpicks.
by Iamallcool inthere are so many different kinds of flavored toothpicks.
what is your recommendation?
thanks!
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Cutting the emotional ties with family
by feenx init's been quite a while since i posted here... so hello everyboday!.
this time of year is always an interesting one for me emotionally.
my parents anniversary, which we all know was the one thing anyone ever celebrated, is two days after my birthday.
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Scully
I think what a lot of us are mourning when we lose our family to the JW mindset, is not so much the people they are, but the people we hoped they could be. Our idealized notion that "family" would mean more to them than ties to a belief system.
We are not orphaned in a literal sense, but because of the JW belief system we find that we have to fend for ourselves, with a very important support system denied to us. We are, in a very real way, all alone in the world.
It's okay for these reminders to haunt us. When a family member dies, the days on the calendar that mark important events become bittersweet because of the loss. We remember the good times with that loved one, and feel the sting that the person is no longer there. You can bet that the JW relatives feel that sting too, but they are the ones who chose the path of shunning over the path of love and acceptance and tolerance. They drew the line in the sand, and they must live with their choice just as we must live with it.
It takes time, but it is important to cultivate new friendships and build a new "family" around us. They can help soften the sting of the past, of the family that rejects us in favour of their so-called faith. We don't have to settle for a life without community. It's something we can choose and embrace, when we find people who accept us for who we are, who don't base their opinions about us on the hours on a Field Service Report™. They can have interests similar to ours, or ones that open up a world of diversity for us and help us learn new things and have experiences that we never would have had otherwise.
Most of the time, I don't give the JWs I used to know a second thought, I realized that I gave them far more of myself than they deserved and I really didn't get anything back for my care and compassion for them. But, like you, I have days when I think about my JW family members and wish how things could be different, and then I think about what having them back in my life would cost in terms of going back to the belief system. It isn't worth the price I'd have to pay to have them in my life. I could never relinquish my ability to think critically, to unsee what I've seen, to un-know the things I know. My freedom - mentally, emotionally, spiritually - is far too valuable.
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Scully
How she chooses to spend her money is none of your business. I thought we covered that, Mr Gold-Digger.
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How do deaf people think?
by Iamallcool insome of you know that i am deaf.
http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2010/07/how-deaf-people-think/.
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Scully
We recently had a visit from some relatives, one of whom is completely deaf since the age of 5 years. He can speak - he re-learned how to speak by observing lip movement and feeling air movement as his teachers spoke.
My knowledge of sign language is very limited - mostly to finger spelling and some common words. He really appreciated the effort.
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I like Golden Delicious to go with my breakfast and Cortland for baking because it doesn't turn brown too quickly.
I guess it was more of a coffeebreak than a weekend getaway.
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Scully
PB&J not cutting it anymore?
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Another Facepalm - "Higher Education Wastes Valuable Youth Years"
by God_Delusion inhi guys,.
if you've been following my posts on here, you'll know that i've recently been fascinated by the april 15th 2008 study edition of the watchtower magazine - namely the 'repudiate valueless things' article.. here are my previous posts on this masterpiece of watchtower propaganda:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/230616/1/going-beyond-what-is-written-in-the-biblehttp://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/bible/230643/1/how-could-i-have-not-realise-i-was-in-a-cult-for-all-that-timeif there were awards for the most in-your-face brainwashing, this article must surely be up there.. anyway, in the 'repudiate valueless things' article, the watchtower society decided to add their bit on higher education.
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What, though, of higher education, received in a college or a university? This is widely viewed as vital to success. Yet, many who pursue such education end up with their minds filled with harmful propaganda.
Translation:
We don't want anything interfering with our filling your minds with our own harmful propaganda.
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Fear of the watchtower
by should have known better init has been close on three years since i faded, the good advice on here helped me not to make some huge blunders by blurting out what i was learning.
however during that time i have approached five or six who no longer associate with the congregation, one who was disfellowshipped over 30 years ago.
to a man the fear was palpable, to engage in any criticism of the watchtower, even sticking to factual evidence still these guys were very uncomfortable.
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Scully
They are still JWs, the programming has not been undone. They are living a life that goes contrary to what they believe, perhaps feeling that they cannot live up to the "high standards" of Jehovah the WTS.
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Scully
thank you.
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Letter from my mother
by Las Malvinas son Argentinas ini've been officially disowned.
translated from the original:.
"my daughter,.
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Scully
I hope you never let her near your children. She's toxic. Every sentence in her letter is dripping with emotional blackmail and trying to put you on a guilt trip.
I might be inclined to reply to her, reminding her that it was a non-JW party and that you were an invited guest too. Neither she, nor any other JW attending, had more right to be there than you did. If she is unable to get along with everyone at the party, then SHE should have stayed home. Her tears were probably because she was pissed that you didn't disclose the pregnancy to her, the way a daughter would do with a NORMAL mother. She is the one with the problem, not you, she's the one with a flawed sense of morality that gives her permission to judge people for things that are none of her business. Why would you confide this happy event with her, when you knew she would disapprove, judge and reject you the way she has? I wonder what other people at the party were thinking, to see a mother IGNORING her pregnant daughter??
Enjoy your pregnancy. Enjoy your baby. Your mother doesn't deserve to be part of your life or your baby's, not with that attitude.