Oh MOE! Don't get me started! My husband brought my ready-made family into the marrige with him. I am the not-so-proud stepmom of a 14 yr old boy, and a 10 yr old girl. they are so indulged, and I don't mean materially, necessarily. They are pampered, coddled, and made to feel they are smarter, better than other children. There are house rules, which are laughable, because they are never enforced. They both have a nasty habit of saying "I hate you." to any member of the family, Pop included. As long as they are being entertained, or bought for, they are happy. The minute the party int heir honor ends, the poor behavior starts up. My husband and I are in stepfamily therapy, which is helpful to the extent that it forces him to see issues he hasn't been able to see, even through me, but he still has trouble enforcing with any consistancy. And to think, we have several more yrs....teen yrs...of this! UGH!
HomebutHiding
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How Do You Discipline YOUR Kids?
by MrMoe incurious... how do you discipline your children and why?
spank or not to spank?
are your kids brats (and be honest here.).
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JWs and Stronger Marriages?
by Pubsinger ina bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.
i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.
we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.
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HomebutHiding
Dobby, I think it goes beyond unhappy marriages, even. Many of the JW marriages, by virtue of the submission rule, are abusive and controlling. I have heard it time and again. Worse, I lived it. Worse still, I felt if I were somehow a better example of a Christian wife, i.e., MORE submissive, all would be well. When I finally got good and sick, I left.
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I made it!
by Rado Vleugel inat the time i went to school jehovahs witnesses were still discouraged from higher education.
the teachers on the primary school advised me to go follow pre-university education.
but totally in line with the watchtower i followed
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HomebutHiding
Me too, RADO! I am 45, and I am soon to begin my Jr year in college...long overdue. I am a psych major. Feels great...you will LOVE it! Congratulations!
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My daughter undergoing cancer surgery
by TheOldHippie inright now, 4 hours this very minute, removing tumors, still no news - and i am one nervous father ...........
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HomebutHiding
Old Hippie, I know neither you, nor the circumstances of your daughter's illness, but I am still thinking about you and her. I am waiting for your post which will tell us that all went well.
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Larry King tonight (Wed)
by NikL in.
i heard through the grapevine that the lawyer for the watchtower that represented them before the supreme court on the right to preach in that little town in ohio is supposed to be on larry king live tonight on cnn.. just thought i would give a heads up in case it is true.. nick
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HomebutHiding
And could this Paul dude be moonlighting as a lawyer for the Watchtower??? Hmmmm.....
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Trying again for more door to door reasons
by Bang ini posted a question before regarding the way jws go door to door.
[luke 10:7.23] and remain in the same house, eating and drinking what they provide,for the laborer deserves his wages; do not go from house to house.
if the apostles didn't do it and jesus said not to, why do the jws do it en masse?
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OK..So then, as bright as I am (and I am BRILLIANT...just ask me) what line of reasonign did I buy into that obliged me to go DtoD for 22 years, many years as a pio? What was I thinking by way of justifying the behavior, which looking back, now seems a ludicrous way to spend my time.
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Rude/Snotty Witnesses
by dottie inhas anyone had an experience similar to the following?
or had a social life(total oxymoron, i know) like mine in the borg?
last evening we had to take our clothes to the laudrymat(sp?
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HomebutHiding
I like Pub's reply. I would NOT have been able to sit still. I would have had to appraoch her. she could have just been in a really bad mood, i.e., human. Nonetheless, as a JW, she needs to be ever-vigilant...always on her toes..always reflecting the love that should ooze from every pore as a result of the overflowing measure of hole spirit...blah, blah, blah. Still, I would have noted her unkindness to her.
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JWs and Stronger Marriages?
by Pubsinger ina bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.
i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.
we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.
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Jim, "Most couples are together becasue the truth is the only thing in common." Amen. that was the truth in my case. I never would have met nor married him, were it not for the "truth". I definitely stayed in the marriage for 22 years because divorce would have brought reproach on Jehovah's name and org. And what of the years of abuse? Did they not bring reproach? Ah well, moot at this point. Have left both him, and the org. In earlier years, I knew of fewer divorces. The divorce rate among JWs seems to have sped up in recent years, and I know a couple of dozen cases.
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JWs and Stronger Marriages?
by Pubsinger ina bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.
i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.
we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.
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HomebutHiding
Dear Pub, Allow me to introduce myself. I am HomebutHiding. My JW husband and I divorced, after a 22 year marriage just 2 years ago. There, so now you know of 61 divorced couples!
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Ex-JW Diane Wilson to speak in LA!!!!!
by LDH inhttp://www.cfiwest.org
http://www.secularhumanism.org
well i caught wind of this and wanted to make sure anyone in the greater la area has an opportunity to plan ahead for this event.
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HomebutHiding
Seriously, who is Diane Wilson? I live in NY, and it is highly improbable that I will make the event. So, who is she?