Posts by Snoozy

I am so sorry for your loss..it is like a part of you dies with the loved one. In my case it was really rough..I cried constantly..I mean REALLY cried. I feel like I will never see him again as I have no beliefs in a hereafter life..I wish I did. I think a small part of me still has a hope and that helps.

They say you have the memories but the memories hurt too bad. I can't even look at my photo albums.I want my life back. I want my partner back..my lifelong friend.We too were just starting to really enjoy life as he had just retired.I feel like my life has been ripped away from me.

What keeps me going? Just putting one step in front of the other..keeping busy. I think of all the traveling we were going to do and just get so depressed. I wish I had joined a support group right away. I really think it would have helped.
Others that haven't lost a husband just can't understand. Especially when you have been married so long. It is like losing your heart.

You will be in limbo for a while..it took me a year to get rid of his clothes. I did keep some of his shirts and wear them occasionally..It helps.
Since he was a JW I donated all his suits and dress shirts and ties to goodwill. I got rid of all the books and literature..but I did keep his bible..

Please feel free to share your pain with me as I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes the pain is just unbearable..I would rather be tortured.

The good side is you are still young. I am 65 and just really don't know where to go with my life..Do you work? How many children do you have?
My kids are just so busy.I have 3 but they have lives of their own now..I really felt alone. Also because hubby was a JW..(I left in 1975) we didn't really have any close friends..he saw to that. We mostly went to help his JW Mom as she had lost her husband a few years earlier. Now she has nothing to do with me as I am an apostate..

Funny thing..the witnesses said they were going to drop around to see how I was doing..they never came back. When hubby was sick..I had to beg them to find time to visit him in the short time he had left. He only lasted 5 months after diagnosis and they came to see him twice.
The laison committee did rush to the hospital to make sure he didn't get any blood but then they disappeared. Didn't even offer to say a prayer..I had to ask them.It meant a lot to him as he really believed the JW's had "The Truth".

Anyway..as you can see I still have a lot of issues with them..I felt they treated him horribly. He died thinking Jehovah was mad at him for something because no one came to visit him. Jerks...

Was your hubby a JW?

Anyway..enough rambling about me..please feel free to E Mail me or IM me.

And big hugs for what you are going through..it takes a long time but you will survive. My heart aches for you and what you are going through..

Snoozy..

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BUT I HAVEN'T EXPERIENCED IT......................

by Dansk in

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you can go on and on but the fact is you can't prove it!

i only have your word for it that you had your experience.. and the books you cite don't help, either, because i've only got the author's word that he's telling the truth.

how can i believe him if i haven't experienced it myself?.

Snoozy

Ian...are you saying the world could be FLAT?

Snoozy..

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Does anybody remember?

by Amber Rose in

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One time when it aired..my JW MIL had me tape it for her. She had to go to a meeting that night and her VCR was messed up.

So later I asked her if she had a chance to watch it..she just said she didn't believe it.
She looked at her JW son (My hubby) and asked him if he knew any JW pedophiles..he said "No".
She said she didn't know of any either so they must be exagerating ,or making it up!

I just shrugged my shoulders and left the room. There was no reasoning with those two...

Snoozy

Edited to add that this reminded me of something years earlier...
The old Life magazine had started to run several articles on the Catholic Church. Mostly dealing with how the Nuns were having sex with the priests but were having abortions instead of giving birth. They had found buriel sites for the fetuses in their courtyard.
It was a big scandel...soon after that the old Life magazine stopped production.

The JW's made a really big deal out of that.No questions like "Do you know any Nuns that had a abortion?"
Well it must not be true then..oh no. They gave the article their full attention.It was definately true!..We even used it out in service.

But they just can't face the fact that something is rotten in their own organization that is supposedly run by Jehovah God.
I'm trying to remember if I ever heard a JW say they did do something wrong?(Even when caught red handed)..Humm.........give me a few years..maybe I can remember one..

Snoozy...

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HELPING DANSK!

by Dansk in

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i apologise for taking the liberty of using my alias to attract attention but a number of people have contacted me to ask what they could do to help by way of being a stem cell donor (without a stem cell donation soon i will likely die).

i cannot express enough just how appreciative i am for such wonderful thoughtful gestures.

it is possible that your stem cells are a perfect match for me and that you could literally save my life.. however, if you are not a match you could very well save someone else's life - so do please consider being a stem cell donor.

Snoozy

Ian, please give Claire my love and hugs..

I KNOW what it is like to be taking care of an Ill loved one.

I KNOW how tired you can get.

I KNOW the feeling of hopelessness..

I KNOW the feelings of guilt..

I KNOW the frustration..am I doing the right things for him..am I feeding him right...

I KNOW all the questions I asked myself..thinking I should know all the answers..

I KNOW how afraid you can be to share your thoughts and feeling with them ...afraid it may be to much for them..

So afraid of doing something wrong that may hurt them somehow..

Wanting to spend as much time as you can with a loved one but also having so MUCH to do!

Watching them suffer and wish you could take it all away for them..such a helpless feeling..

My heart goes out to you Claire and I wish I was there to give you a big hug and let you cry on my shoulder...

I remember going in another room and crying my heart out in a pillow then going back in to see hubby with a smile on my face.

Just remember you are always in my heart

Big hugs..Snoozy

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GOOD BYE

by hubert in

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good bye jedi master......ha, fooled you.

okay, what's the next step?.

hubert.

Snoozy

That was a dirty trick!

Snoozy...who has been "Sticking around" for over 7 years on the XJW boards..(Off and on)

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Gay/Lesbian Symbols

by Crumpet in

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the whole rainbow thread piqued my curiosity.

i have often wondered how you know without speaking to someone if they are gay and you are not in a known gay place - like um brighton or the candy bar in london.. does anyone know of any other gay and lesbian symbols or signs?.

someone told me once that a ring on your pinkie was a sign - can anyone verify the truth of this?.

Snoozy

Well in my day..wearing a wedding ring on the right hand meant you were a widow or widower.

Men that wore a earring in each ear were gay. One just meant you were sexual...

Finger symbols have really changed though..used to be if someone gave you the middle finger.(f--k you )you punched their lights out!

Same for the two outside fingers..pointer and pinky...now it means something totally different. It basically meant bull-sh-- way back when.

And of course we would definately be punished if caught doing it!!!

Today..I guess I sterotype gays..they seem to talk in a feminine voice..do feminine gestures..

Gay gals I see on TV usually are the "Butch" type. They look like truckers..

I'm sure there are some that look more like men and women but it seems like the feminine men and butch women are the ones that appear on TV the most...and holding hands in public...

Snoozy...

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Sometimes It Snows in April

by prophecor in

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winter has given me a wonderful reprieve from the portals of summer's appearance.

it's snowing, and its april, prince never could have said it any better.. .

http://youtube.com/watch?v=jnaon3ttj9u.

Snoozy

Just had a few flurries here in Missouri..froze the dog gone ferns! I forgot to cover them...

Snoozy..