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  Final update on she left?

  by Yerusalyim in

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  i put a question mark on this cuz i don't know where to turn.

  i have confirmed and she has admitted to three affairs in our eight years of marriage.

  i don't know if i could ever trust her again.

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  Here's my two cents.

  MEN and WOMEN may stray to affairs because the love between the TWO is not there. By the time one or the other sees that, they are usually married and then feel trapped and just "settle". They can stay ina marriage because they don't want to hurt the child/children they created. And that's all fine and dandy. But once the child/children grow to be adults and go their own way, you both find yourselves to be two very lonely and perhaps bitter people. Once two people find love and FEEL love between the TWO of them, I can't see any of them straying from one another. Hoepfully, they find each other and THEN raise a family. But it doesn't always work out that way. Especailly when people take on the work and responsibilty of marriage at a young age.

  One person cannot make a love relationship work when they are working alone/solo. They will slowly die trying. You can't FORCE a person to feel love for you no matter how bad you want them to feel the way you may feel for them. This is an extrememly hard lesson in life to learn, but harder to accept.

  Like the saying goes...It takes two. When two people truly love each other, the work and resposibility of marriage isn't work at all. It's a responsibility, yes. But it's not "work" so to speak. It's an honor rather than a job.

  I'm not making light of your pain, Yeru. I'm just spilling my feelings to try and give you my view of the question you asked.

  peace,

  somebody
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  Calling All Bethelites & Former

  by somebody in

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  i have an inquiring mind.. .

  are there pictures of charles t. russell and/or da judge rutherford hanging up at the wtbs?.

  are their any pictures of jesus christ hanging up at the wbts?.

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  Hi onacruse,

  Seems strange that there would be pictures of paradise and not Jesus too. Considering the fact that the society teaches not to be a JW "just to not die and stay alive in paradise". I found that they hold the "paradise" constantly over their members' heads to keep them members.

  peace,

  somebody
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  Calling All Bethelites & Former

  by somebody in

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  i have an inquiring mind.. .

  are there pictures of charles t. russell and/or da judge rutherford hanging up at the wtbs?.

  are their any pictures of jesus christ hanging up at the wbts?.

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  Thanks, back2dafront {nice picture! }

  I know there were pictures of both Russell and Da Judge in publications of the Watchtower so I figured those pictures are somewhere in the headquarters.

  What years or years were you a bethelite? If you don't mind me asking.

  If you do...it's too late. I already did.

  peace,

  somebody
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  Calling All Bethelites & Former

  by somebody in

  1. jw
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  i have an inquiring mind.. .

  are there pictures of charles t. russell and/or da judge rutherford hanging up at the wtbs?.

  are their any pictures of jesus christ hanging up at the wbts?.

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  somebody

  I have an inquiring mind.

  Are there pictures of Charles T. Russell and/or Da Judge Rutherford hanging up at the WTBS?

  Are their any pictures of Jesus Christ hanging up at the WBTS?

  What hangs on the walls of "headquarters" ?

  peace,

  somebody
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  A Question To All You Women Out There

  by SpannerintheWorks in

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  your partner gets home from work, and he's in a shitty mood.

  he kicks the cat (twice) and the doors are hanging off their hinges.

  1. say: did you have a bad day at the office, dear?.

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  lol@ the replys here!

  First of all let me just state that I'm not fond of cats so therefore would be umcomfortable if I had to share a home with one ( let alone MORE than one! )

  >>>>>>>>>>>>Your partner gets home from work, and he's in a shitty mood. He kicks the cat (twice) and the doors are hanging off their hinges.

  What would you do:

  1. Say: did you have a bad day at the office, dear?

  2. Can I get you some Valium?

  3. Think: It's his biorhythms!

  4. Ignore him

  Spanner

  I'd say he had a bad day at the office without ever asking him and give the cat to someone who likes cats. And then I'd tell him that it's time he thinks about updated his resume and sent it out, while I got him supper and something to drink.

  peace,

  gwen
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  A Midlife Crisis?

  by Tinkerbell4125 in

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  we moved to a new area, bought a house in the country to be closer to cc's office.

  i left a good business *hair stylist and make-up artist*.

  i haven't worked in about 2 years.

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  Tinkerbell,

  If anyone understands what you are feeling, I do!

  I've ALWAYS felt that my home is my comfort zone and I was always happy to be home. I always felt as if I was busy and fine just to stay home and cook and clean the house to make it just as comfortable for my family who saw it as "home" too. I wish I could just stay at home all the time. My home is were I'm the happiest. But I also feel guilt if I'm only giving my all personally and not financialy to it. If it were possible to stay at home and do all the work it takes to keep a home a home, and to do it guilt free, my life would be perfect. Not because I don't want to go into the outside world and and work. But just because I would not have to deal with the stress that goes along with outside work. I guess that's what the physical time outside/money compensates for.

  I don't need the compensation. But at the same time, without the compensation comes the guilt.

  Sometimes I wish I were living back in the 40s/50s. Not because I disagree with women's liberation, but because now it's a guilt trip and there seems to be no liberation. If a woman wants to stay at home and be a "homemaker" as the word goes, she's viewed as "lazy".

  That is why you feel guilty for being yourself and wanting to just stay at home and make home a comfortable place to be for yourself and CC.

  that's my 2 cents.

  peace,

  somebody

  Edited by - somebody on 20 November 2002 16:50:10

  Edited by - somebody on 20 November 2002 16:51:57
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  To: Lurking Elders or Former Elders

  by somebody in

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  if the watch tower society prints information such as this, claiming that they a legal instrument used by jws, .

  watchtower 98 3/15 18 .

  living up to christian dedication in freedom .

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  hawkaw,

  Can you try and explain the principle/agent relationship a little more for those of us like me to understand?

  As in regards to publishers being "agents" too? I don't understand how the WBTS can be a "legal agent" for publishers/JWs to use, but yet they can't use them LEGALLY.

  Meanwhile,

  can you refresh my memory as to the Vicky Boer case so I can understnad more? In e-mail if it's too much here on the board?

  Thanks!

  peace,

  zev's buddy

  Edited by - somebody on 20 November 2002 16:13:17
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  To: Lurking Elders or Former Elders

  by somebody in

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  if the watch tower society prints information such as this, claiming that they a legal instrument used by jws, .

  watchtower 98 3/15 18 .

  living up to christian dedication in freedom .

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  somebody

  "The elders will bear the brunt of this. The WTBTS will cut bait and run fast."

  You summed up my point!
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  Condolences to Jayson..

  by Lin in

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  jayson's (also known here as iwasyoungonce) step-mother passed away last night.

  he is now travelling, a 6 hour drive, and will be back with us in a few days.

  jayson, our thoughts and prayers are with you my friend!

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  Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss too, Iwasyoungonce.

  And please keep all your memories of your step-mom alive in your memories. The good memories along with the not-so-good.

  I have a step-mom and hold her dearly to my heart, faults and all, as I do everyone else who make and have made impressions in my life.

  My prayers and thoughts are with you.

  peace,

  somebody/gwen

  Edited by - somebody on 20 November 2002 15:37:9
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  An Apology

  by ChakkaConned in

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  have you ever done something so imbarrasing that you can't make yourself look back or even think about the deed for a very long time?.

  several months ago, i had a real bad day.

  i was very bummed about my life and the losses i felt due to my jw experience.

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  lol@ThiChi

  And that's not mentioning letters she should write PLEAING for reinstatement! And we should let her know that we will ignore the first 2? Should we ignore her till she begs via at LEAST 2 letters and 6 months go by?

  I think not!

  Chakka,

  Welcome! You are very welcomed here, as you can see.

  Edited by - somebody on 20 November 2002 15:29:8