CONCISTANCY IS DEFINATLY KEY. I THINK THE NUMBER ONE THING IN MY HOUSE IS THAT WE DON'T OWN A TELEVISION. THIS WORKS BOTH WAYS, FIRST MY KIDS ARE NOT INFLUENCED BY WHAT THEY SEE ON TELEVISION; AND SECOND BUT JUST AS IMPORTANT MOM AND MYSELF ARE NOT SITTING IN FRONT OF THE T.V. SHOOING THE KIDS TO BE QUIET SO WE DON'T MISS SOMETHING..
WE DO ALLOW THEM ON THE COMPUTER TO PLAY EDUCATIONAL GAMES AND BROWSE THE INTERNET [WITH OUR SUPERVISION] & OUR COMPUTER ALSO PLAYS DVD's, SO THEY'RE NOT TOTALY DEPRIVED OF MOVING PICTURES.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I FEEL THAT I CAN DO IS TO BE INVOLVED WITH THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. ONE OF THE BEST WAYS I DO THIS IS BY PLAYING WITH THEM. FOR EXAMPLE; I HAVE BOUGHT THEM OVER FOUR, 5 GALLON BUCKETS WORTH OF LEGO,S. LEGO'S ARE GREAT FOR ADULTS & KIDS; BUT INSTEAD OF SAYING, "WHY DON'T YOU GO PLAY WITH YOUR LEGO'S" I SAY "LET'S GO PLAY WITH YOUR LEGO'S"; THEN OFF TO THEIR ROOM I GO, AND SPEND ABOUT AN HOUR OR TWO BUILDING OR HELPING THEM BUILD.
THE LATEST THING I AM INVOLVED WITH THEM IN IS BMX RACING. MY 7 YEAR OLD HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS NOW, AND HIS 5 YEAR OLD SISTER WANT'S TO BE INVOLVED. THIS IS GREAT FOR ME IN THE SENSE THAT I KNOW HOW TO DO TRICKS ON A BIKE & HOW TO JUMP RAMPS ETC... BUT I DON'T REALLY KNOW THE FIRST THING ABOUT THE RULES OF FOOTBALL. BELIEVE ME, WHEN THEY GET HOME FROM BMX, THEY DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO BE LITTLE HELLIONS. THIS ALSO IS NOT ANYTHING THAT I WOULD TAKE AWAY FROM THEM AS A FORM OF DICIPLINE.
AS FAR AS DICIPLINE GOES, MAKE THE PUNISHMENT FIT THE CRIME, SO TO SAY.IT'S VERY RARE THAT I HAVE TO USE MY HAND ON THEIR BEHIND; AND WOULD NEVER STRIKE THEM WITH AN OBJECT; FOR THAT MATTER I WOULD NEVER SPANK THEIR BOTTOM MORE THAN ONCE OUT OF FEAR OF GUILT. BESIDES I GOT THE DEATH LOOK DOWN TO A SCIENCE, ALL I HAVE TO DO IS GIVE THEM A LOOK WHILE WE ARE AT THE GROECERY STORE AND EVERTHING'S UNDER CONTROL.
NOW I HAVE THIS NEW ITEM THAT I USE TO MY ADVANTAGE. I USED NOT TO LET THEM PLAY WITH GUNS PERIOD WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER; BUT ME BEING A CHILD AT HEART MOST OF THE TIME, PURCHACES A PAIR OF STARWARS LASERS THAT SHOOT NERF BULLETS.THIS ITEM CAME INTO MY HOUSE WITH ALOT OF RULES ATTACHED TO THEM. FOR EXAMPLE; THEY ARE ONLY ALLOWED TO PLAY WITH THEM UNDER MINE OR MY WIFES SUPERVISION, SECOND THEY ARE ONLY TO SHOOT AT PLASTIC BOTTLES THAT I SET UP ON THE BACK OF THE COUCH, ETC.... THIS ITEM IS ALSO GREAT IN THE SENSE THAT I DON'T MIND USING IT AS PUNISHMENT OF SORTS; LIKE, IF YOU GUYS CAN'T GET ALONG AND NOT ARGUE FOR THE REST OF THE EVENING YOU WON'T BE ALLOWED TO SHOOT BOTTLES.
I THINK THE ONE KEY THING THOUGH IS, NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER/INFLUENCE OF TELEVISION ON A CHILD'S BRAIN/ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR