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  Why 3?

  by SpiceItUp in

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  why 3 meetings a week?.

  has there ever been any magazine brochure article or book that answers this?.

  while i'm thinking about it....does anyone know where/how the name kingdom halls came about?

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  Why 3 meetings a week?
  Has there ever been any magazine brochure article or book that answers this?

  While I'm thinking about it....does anyone know where/how the name Kingdom Halls came about??
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  Women raised as JWs: Did the WTS views on women negatively impact you?

  by berylblue in

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  i'd really like to know.. my experience was that women who were raised in the "truth" and married to a good jw brother did not know how to make decisions.

  from reading this board, this would, however, appear to be the least of their problems.. what specifically, if any, were the problems associated with always being told you were a second class person and not capable of making decisions?.

  rosemarie

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  The way women are treated was one of the main reasons I cuold never become one (well that along with their blatant hypocrasy).

  I posted in a related thread about this as well

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/49463/1.ashx

  Its sad because I still see my mom treated unfairly by my father.
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  National Child Abuse Prevention Month

  by SpiceItUp in

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  i just received an email stating that this month is "national child abuse prevention month".. i am sure that this can be used as an extra motivator to encourage public information on the goings on within the wts.. just thought i'd pass this info along.

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  I just received an email stating that this month is "National Child Abuse Prevention Month".

  I am sure that this can be used as an extra motivator to encourage public information on the goings on within the WTS.

  Just thought I'd pass this info along.
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  What Tree are You?

  by gsx1138 in

  1. jw
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  it's been a year since i've done this so i thought i'd do it again.

  perhaps it will be a nice break from all of the ranting going on (myself included).. http://www.geocities.com/lavenderwater37/birthdaytrees.htm.

  by the way, i'm a weeping willow.

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  Ash Tree
  The Ambition - Uncommonly attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with its fate, can be egoistic, very reliable and trustworthy, faithful and prudent liver, sometimes brains rule over heart, but takes partnership very seriously.

  Hmmmm......very inteeeeeeresinggg!!!!
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  I RENOUNCE MY ASSOCIATION WITH JWS

  by REALNESS in

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  it is my pleasure to announce i have terminated my membership of the jehovahs wittnesses.

  i shall be formally making this statement known to my congregation at tomorrow nights meeting after i have taken the ministry school.

  for many years i have developed my own thoughts on religion and this along with the information i have learned here and on other sites has convinced me that i can no longer live teaching the bollocks the wtbs.

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  Welcome to the real world.
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  Do you overcompensate to break the cycle?

  by SpiceItUp in

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  2. relationships

  on my way to work this morning i was pondering the way my mother is treated as a less than second class citizen by my father.

  she was running late (he wasn't going to be leaving the house) and yet she still had to cook (yes bacon and eggs) his breakfast.

  he is too lazy and feels that it is her job to do this.

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  Robyn----good points and taken to heart. The only thing is - I know that my mother is not happy about that arrangement and has said so in so many words. She constantly wishes aloud that it would be nice to come home and have the dishes done. My father works at home (has his own bussiness) and my mother works part time in the evening (she even cooks his dinner on the nights she works and has it ready for him to warm up). The set up is unfair and my mother never has time for herself because of it. I think thats why I strive even more so to be my own person. Not to say that I won't cook for the man in my life (as long as I'm enjoying myself that is what matters and I know he will help out if need be). I was just venting from watching my mother struggle to do something when she did not have the time just because my father is too lazy and wouldn't eat unless it practically served to him. It bugs me when he sits there watching TV and complains that lunch isn't ready when my mother has loads of other things to do. I'm like...hellloooo you have 2 hands and feet that work why not make your own sandwich. I don't judge her happiness--she plainly expresses that she isn't happy.

  Valis--- And why can't you make it to England??? Not too late to get a passport together. You are right...I will never be the "bacon~n~eggs" person unless I want to. Its very different when you are in a relationship where both people give 110% not like the one my parents are in.
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  What sort of Dog would you be?.......Take da test!

  by qwerty in

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  qwerty.

  you're a st. bernard!

  no bones about it, you're a dedicated, trustworthy st. bernard.

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  Golden Retriever
  
  No bones about it, you're a popular, fun-loving Golden Retriever. Adored by all and too cool for school, you're extroverted and enthusiastic. Your magnetic personality makes you the life of any bash. Since you're a true people-dog, you genuinely love all kinds of social gatherings. Going to parties, dinners, and other shindigs is the best way to add faces to your constantly growing circle of friends. But besides being on the social A-list, you're a confident, well-rounded pup who's definitely something to bark about. Pretty accomplished at anything you set your mind to, your sunny nature and winning ways make you one of everyone's favorite dogs. Woof!
  

  Hmm.....I wonder if Golden Retrievers get along great with Cocker Spaniels I bet they do
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  Do you overcompensate to break the cycle?

  by SpiceItUp in

  1. social
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  on my way to work this morning i was pondering the way my mother is treated as a less than second class citizen by my father.

  she was running late (he wasn't going to be leaving the house) and yet she still had to cook (yes bacon and eggs) his breakfast.

  he is too lazy and feels that it is her job to do this.

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  Like you said, most husbands of that generation were not self sufficient.

  Actually in my fathers case he is (or rather could be) self sufficient. I have heard stories and know that if my mom had to be gone (out of town due to family emergencies) my father did cook. I think that is why it infuriates me so much isn't because he can't help. It's because he won't help.

  Glad to know that some men are able to take care of themselves. It shows that we are growing to some degree.
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  Questions Directed Towards: YOU (ex-JW)

  by RAYZORBLADE in

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  2. friends

  i thought i'd give this a go, lighten up the forum a little.

  just curious, about a few things regarding all of us who participate on here.

  i have some questions, of which i will answer also.

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  1. How long were you a Jehovah's Witness? Forced to be one for 18 years

  2. Were you raised in it or become a JW later on in life? Raised in it

  3. Were you contacted via the door-to-door ministry? N/A

  4. Initially, what intrigued or drew you to the Jehovah's Witnesses then? N/A

  5. When were you baptized? Or if you weren't, mention that if you wish. No

  6. When did you start having doubts? In my teens (maybe 13 or 14..I attribute it to my "bad association)

  7. What else perhaps contributed to your leaving? The way women are treated

  8. When were you disfellowshipped/disassociated? Nope (My parents cong still talk to me)

  9. Have you ever been reinstated? N/A

  10. Did you attempt to contact or have spoken with other active-JWs when you were DF/DA'd? N/A

  11. Have you ever protested/picketted a JW assembly/convention? Not yet

  12. Do you miss being a Jehovah's Witness? Nope

  13. Do you still have family that are active JWs? all of my immediate family

  14. Do you believe in god/God etc.? Still working on that question but mush closer to no

  15. Are you politically active or have voted? I have voted in 2 elections (alot of good it did this last time )

  16. Would you say you have become more tolerant or open-minded generally speaking since you left? I always have been very open-minded. Probably why I didnt make it as a good dub.

  17. Do you think that the WTBTS will crumble? Yup

  18. If you could say anything to the WTBTS and be listened to, what would you like to say? I would tell them that they are not inspired by god

  19. What has helped you to cope, post-JW? "worldy" friends and writing

  20. Anything else you'd like to say/add? the WTS can kiss my white cracker arse
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  Do you overcompensate to break the cycle?

  by SpiceItUp in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  on my way to work this morning i was pondering the way my mother is treated as a less than second class citizen by my father.

  she was running late (he wasn't going to be leaving the house) and yet she still had to cook (yes bacon and eggs) his breakfast.

  he is too lazy and feels that it is her job to do this.

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  SpiceItUp

  On my way to work this morning I was pondering the way my mother is treated as a less than second class citizen by my father. She was running late (he wasn't going to be leaving the house) and yet she still had to cook (yes bacon and eggs) his breakfast. He is too lazy and feels that it is her job to do this. I have actually seen my father wait for his breakfast (even until noon or later) if my mother happened to sleep in. He will refuse to make anything for himself because its her "duty" as a wife. It annoys me to no end that he doesn't even feel he should help out. I am sure some of this comes from the generation they grew up in but the dubs only reinforce the "head of the household" idea.

  I notice with myself that I tend to be as strong of a woman as I can be. I like to be self-sufficient (although I am learning to depend on others). I think alot of the raeson is because I don't want to turn out like my mother. So in effect I over compensate my strength to break this cycle that she is in.

  Some would say it is love that she still does those things and perhaps that is true. But what motivates him NOT to help out...love? I dont think so--I think its the dubism superior gender complex.

  Does anyone else over compensate to aviod falling in their parents trap?