Mobbie, I know exactly how you must be feeling now, because 4 years ago, I decided to end my 20 year marriage to an elder......altho, I was NOT an unbeliever. In fact, he got involved with the dubs thru me and my sister, when we were all young teenagers. We basically grew up together. When I hit 40, I just realized that I was not happy and that I needed to make drastic changes.........looking back on it, I'm pretty amazed that I was able to do it and have grown so much personally from being out and on my own. I am happy now. I have a guy in my life who is a "worldly" guy, and he and I have a wonderful relationship. We both agree to disagree about religion. It will be very painful to do this, as you probably are aware, but, it sounds like you are in alot of pain staying in the situation. You won't regret the decision you are making. It just won't get any better with him starting to get back involved with the Dubs. As you know from posting here, we were all miserable when we were Dubs and wouldn't wish that on our worst enemies!
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Terri