Welcome here, and congratulations on a successful fade. All the best to you and yours. At the wedding you will most likely find some will love bomb you while others will avoid eye contact. It's actually quite surreal, keep your sense of humour about it.
happy@last
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New ExJW here for the first time.
by WideAwake7 ini am here for the first time ...but have enjoyed reading others experiences that i feel i can relate too.
i used to be an elder for more than 20 years .
i have successfully faded with my wife and children.
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Terminally Ill Woman Choosing To Die Completes Bucket list
by Bangalore interminally ill woman choosing to die completes bucket list.. .
http://nypost.com/2014/10/28/terminally-ill-woman-who-has-chosen-to-die-completes-her-bucket-list/.
bangalore.
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happy@last
Not sure I could have the same positivity as her, especially when she is so young.
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The Elders help
by punkofnice ina young jw i used to know (nice person), said within earshot to a non df'd ex jw he knew that his "..parents are up and down in the relationship and the elders(tm) are going to help.".
the non df'd ex jw said to me that he considered that after the elders(tm) get involved his parents were bound to split up.
the non df'd ex jw also commented: "what do elders know?
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happy@last
So. I wonder exactly how the elders(TM) will help.....ask about sexual positions? Read from their silly books?
They will tell them to read the bible watchtower together and say that if they are spiritually strong what problems could they possibly have?!
It makes you wonder how strong the marriage bonds of elders are that they can give such good counsel.....
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can you help?
by tezrichmond ini need an access phone no.
& pin for a khconf telephone link to any congregation in uk?
i wanna sign in to one from time to time and get the low down.
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happy@last
Welcome here. Will the cong that DF'd you not give you this? I'm sure they'd be happy to count you in attendance!
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Moving out after the borg
by happy@last ini was delighted to hear of adjustments news, but it did remind me of what i'm sure a lot go through when they leave, here's a little of my story:.
when i married as a jw, and when we moved there was always a team of willing volunteers happy to drive the van or move the furniture or decorate.
additonally when you get married you have a list of items people want to buy for you, even if some had odd taste we received lots of needed and wanted items, sometimes 2 or 3 of the same type.. as a da'd person, also seperated from my spouse i needed to move home.
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happy@last
Hey happy: did you end up making new friends? It must have been scary starting from scratch. Do you have any tips?
I have made some good friends, through work and also exJWs. I also have my kids so have plenty to keep me occupied. I did initially subscribe to meetup and still get the Monday morning email, but never had time to go to any of the events. I lead a fairly active life anyhow.
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Jehovah's Witness Elder, Ron Felt suing Jehovah's Witness he disfellowshiped, for "Harassment"- Broadcasting a recording of JW Ron Felt......
by Balaamsass2 inhttp://www.dover-express.co.uk/8203-ironic-isn-t-says-jehovah-s-witness-court/story-23631047-detail/story.html.
' says jehovah's witness in court for harassing another jehovah's witness.
by dover express | posted: october 27, 2014. by jamie rose exclusive [email protected].
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happy@last
Does this mean that Mr Felt will sue the next person who slams their door in his face when he calls on a Saturday morning also?
I'm pleased for Mr O'Hare, he is free from a cult and he obviously needed to do something to announce his joy
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Moving out after the borg
by happy@last ini was delighted to hear of adjustments news, but it did remind me of what i'm sure a lot go through when they leave, here's a little of my story:.
when i married as a jw, and when we moved there was always a team of willing volunteers happy to drive the van or move the furniture or decorate.
additonally when you get married you have a list of items people want to buy for you, even if some had odd taste we received lots of needed and wanted items, sometimes 2 or 3 of the same type.. as a da'd person, also seperated from my spouse i needed to move home.
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happy@last
I was delighted to hear of Adjustments news, but it did remind me of what I'm sure a lot go through when they leave, here's a little of my story:
When I married as a JW, and when we moved there was always a team of willing volunteers happy to drive the van or move the furniture or decorate. Additonally when you get married you have a list of items people want to buy for you, even if some had odd taste we received lots of needed and wanted items, sometimes 2 or 3 of the same type.
As a DA'd person, also seperated from my spouse I needed to move home. With no 'friends' or family who talk to you, you are on your own. I was starting over so had to get everything, even down to linen, cutlery and pictures! I had nobody to call on for help, nobody sent me a 'New Home' card. And yet despite that, the sense of achievement and happiness far outweighs any hardship.
I am happy in my home, it is a place of peace and tranquility for me, and I wish every happiness for all who are moving on to pastures new.
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Finally Free!!!
by ADJUSTMENTS inmy wife and i are finally free of this horrible cult we will be leaving the south east for the north western part of the us to start anew!!!
our friends and family have no idea of our new beliefs and feelings on the cult so it should be a nice clean break!
hope to connect with some in that area pm me if you'd like.. .
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happy@last
Excellent news, wishing you all the best in the new chapter of your lives.
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I Was Asked To Perform A Marriage Ceremony But Don't Know I'm Qualified
by minimus inmy girlfriend's daughter and her fiancee asked me to marry them last night.
they live in connecticut and will be married in new york.
i felt honored that i was asked but i don't think i can do it because i am not a clergyman or minister and my u derstanding is that only clergy or judges and lawyers and justice of the peace can perform a wedding ceremony and marry a couple.. does anyone have any information on this subject?
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happy@last
"I married my brother" I actually gave the talk and did the vows but it always gets some concerned looks if I say that in a crowded room.
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Has growing up as a JW affected my ability to forgive ?
by troubled mind ini really don't understand the concept of forgiveness .
lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and i am confused .
is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as jws that i find it hard to forgive ?.
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happy@last
JWs have a strange view of forgiveness, whereby a pedo can be forgiven but someone who doesn't believe in the teaching of 1914 cannot be forgiven!
People do make mistakes and do so often, minor issues can normally be forgiven. If there is a pattern of the same mistake/indescretion then this becomes another problem entirely, you cannot forget and therefore forgive. Or you might make an exception if it is a minor issue but not forget, you can learn from it.
If someone has lifelong difficulties due to another persons actions, as in the example you gave, then nobody has the right to tell them to forgive the perpetrator. Anyone who does something to deliberately upset or cause harm to another person cannot expect forgiveness. A person needs to work hard to be respected and not assume forgiveness.Of course there are also some very serious actions that people choose to make that simply cannot be forgiven, and I would put pedos into that category as well as others.
In answer to your question, I hope growing up a JW has not affected your ability to forgive, I hope that morality and reason affects your abilities.