@abiather... you do not really understand what I mean do you? First of all I say I am no atheist... but I am not a theist either (I do not believe that this higher power is controlling the events... that is a human teaching and based on old books from some horny shepherds in the desert).
You are calling him a father and us his childs... well... I do not like to be a father who lets his kids riddle their way in life all the time without any clarification. Therefore the onus INDEED lies with him. A father is bigger then a child isn't he? An adult can be taken into full account what he has done or not done... A child can't in the same degree.
I do not understand how any theist even conscider himself a child to someone who doesn't show himself... the "love" they feel is simply an emotion that is not coming because of a outside factor but more of wishfull thinking of the person himself. It is the same for a kid which father has suddenly left their lives and the kids are pampering a warm feeling for the father and while thinking of him get warm emotions (although they got betrayed by him).
It is therefore that I can not be accounted for anything since there is nothing in MY time that has convinced me of his existence and his real wishes with me as a "son". If he did I would follow him straight away.... and "HE" if he WAS omnitopent would have known that. ;)